Do you think my sister man is cheating?

Question

My sister got married to this guy that my mom and I dindt aprove of. She has being married for like 4 years but she doesnt always tell me everything that is going on because she is afraid that I am going to tell her " I told you so" . Well recently she got into a fight with her best friend. The friend then got back at her by flirting with my sisters man and send him flirty text messages which he also started to send her text messages back and flirting back. My sister caught him he was hiding it from her. Like I said my sister and I are not that close because she wont tell me the whole story like why she got into a fight with her friend in the first place and dindt get into detail over her and her man getting into a fight. She told me all of this very casual but I know there is more to it than that she just doesnt want to tell me the whole thing because she wants to save face and not look dumb also her and I have always competed with each other and unlike her I have a very good marriage

I am not interferring, but I just think there is a lot that is happening that she doesnt want to tell me but I guess I can only stand aside and let her talk to me when she is ready or not at all. But I think she wants to talk but is bottling it up inside since she doesnt want to tell me for fear of looking stupid.

I am leaving her alone and I love her. The reason why I am like "I told you so" to her is for a lot of the things that she did prior to getting married. She was very promiscous, did a lot of drugs and had relationships with married men worked as a striper and this is where she met this husband. So I just meant well when I told her that she shouldnt marry this guy. She has had problems with this husband in the past with him going to strip clubs and now that they are married she doesnt like it when he frequents these places so they have fought a lot but I guess I will just leave her alone. Because she is not going to listen to me anyways and I just have to let her figure it out on her own.

I guess I can only stay out of her life. This is to 4stringthndr I am not mean to her its just that there has being times in the past where she has chosen men that hit her and cheat on her I had to pick her up from an ex-boyfriends house at 3am in the snow because he beat her and threw her out and I dont appreciate the comments on mocking my marriage. My marriage isnt "perfect" I have problems too so if you are going to make sarcastic comments I apreciate it for you not to answer, please I am worried about her and wish I could help her and I only mean well and this time I am not telling her "I told you" so I am past that and try to just give her a sympathetic ear.

And the competition thing started when she was making 500 a night stripping while I was at Mcdonalds (when I was like 17 and she was like 20) making 6 bucks an hour now that she is married and has never had any other type of job she cant get a job since she has no real job skills and its not like she can even go back to striping since she gained like 200 pounds. And I dont like her stripping but thats just me. I just want her to get a regular job and be happy with a good man. But I guess till then I cant say anything to her but just vent my frustrations on Yahoo answers.

Answer 1

well yeah your brother in law might be cheating, but there is nothing you can do about it. your sister obviously doeant want you to know about what is going on. so stay out of it.i have a sister that ompetes with me too and it wont go anywhere trust me on this on. she wont tellyou anything because she doesnt want to hear , the i told you so. i wont say that but thats what she thinks. i stay out of her life and when she needs me she comes to me. seriously stay out of her life but keep in mind if she is going to come to you for help, give her a peace of your mind, thats what i do. i let her know how i feel and she may not like it but thats the price you pay for asking for my advice or asking me for something. good luck.

Answer 2

I can see why she wouldn't tell you. You seem to be the "I TOLD YOU TYPE" I say this because you speak of being competitive and that you have a "VERY GOOD MARRIAGE" What is wrong with just going to her and telling her you LOVE her and try and help her. If you just want to say I told you so, I think you should just leave her alone.

Answer 3

WOW sounds like you need to stay away from your sister.....I'll bet she's not telling you because you make her feel bad when she does.....I wouldn't tell you either stay home with you perfect marriage and give her the space to handle her own life your just mean arn't you........

Answer 4

I think you should leave it to your sister to handle this issue with her hubby first. Your intentions may be good and your sister could regret that she did'nt take your advise. But you should not interfere in their affairs or even try to know what's happening between them until and unless your assistance or guidance is requested.

Answer 5

Yes, it sound like he is cheating