hes very nice and caring, but is too much of a perfectionist to live with.if i dont take care of myself/kitchen etc he gets angry and starts snapping back at me. sometimes hes o loving sometimes he just talks rudely and sits and read his book/paper the whol evening and expects me to do the same. what r we married for if we dont talk after work.we only talk during dinner usually, if we rnt watching tv that is. but this isnt always, sometimes. should i just ignore and be patinet till he gts back to normal? i try bringing it up and he says hes like this and i should learnto live with it,he sys when he sees me not talking care of myself it bugs him s he behaves like that. but i do take care and exercise. im healthy, fit, not obese so i do like to chill a couple of days. what should i do?how do i handle this?
2006-09-26 17:17:48 · 16 answers · asked by angeleyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My friend sit down and talk, this is a simple but useful answer.
2006-09-30 14:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by alex_josue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I"m not a professional... this is just my opinion... Definitely ask him to sit down with you and really tell him whats one your mind... if you can't tell him everything on your mind without him being an A -ss... then F -uck him!! He don't deserve you. Seriously let him know whats up and how it's gonna be and how it SHOULD be... tell him what you don't like, and how you think you should be able to do what you want as well. Honestly if he just ignores you.. yet again... LEAVE... go stay with a family member or a friend... and then if he really LOVES you and wants you... he should come around and let you know by calling you and doing whatever he can to be with you... but before you go back to the house with him... tell him there needs to be changes... that is if you are willing to CHANGE your life with him and make it better! :) ...
*I've been with my boyfriend for pretty much 3yrs... he's always listened to me... when I tell him to sit he sits... lol... not that I'm the "MAN of the house" lol.. but when I say SIT I mean we need to talk... and he'll sit there... voice his opinions and wait and listen to what I gotta say. A relationship should work both ways... if BOTH aren't happy... then GET OUT of the relationship before it gets wayyy worse. If need be... go seek professional help, get marriage counseling... at least mention this to ur hubby see what his thoughts are on this... :)
2006-09-26 17:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be worry. It is usually happen with men, My wife is also compalining me for the same. what I found the reason is the same routine both of u go to work and came back amd expemd ur life is a same cycle. Both of u need change try some thing new go out for dinner or for some movie or for long driving. Another idea is children. Think about it and take care very well of ur husband. God will help u.
2006-09-26 17:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Athar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kinda sounds like my sister marriage. When me and my husband went to marriage counsling, my pastor started talking about this. he said that most men have a habit of bring their problems home to their wife and taking it out on them. So he told me that when my husband come home just give him some time to cool down and relax. If you have kids tell them to leave daddy a lone for an hour or so. Then if he is up to talking then talk. If not just leave him alone and let him approche you. Let him see how he is making you feel. Then communicate with him explain to him what he is doing to you and how is making you feel.
2006-09-26 18:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweetlee725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds pretty self centered. I don't know why you would have to do what he wants just because he wants to read...........I would watch TV, talk on phone, do a puzzle, go for a walk, let him set alone if he wants to be alone, that is the signal he seems to be giving. No, you are not like him if he wanted a man he should have married a man, you are a woman so you should not be expected to act like him, do your own thing!!!!!!! If he can expect you to put up with how he is, can he handle how you are? He should!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-26 17:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel some people just don't get it. If you don't you will grow apart or explode like I did one day.
I tell my husband straight out Hey knock it off. I had enough. I have left kichen or something for days when he would pull crap like that. Don't be a door mat . I had to pay for getting this advice and it worked well. I am a lot more loveing and so is he now.
2006-09-26 17:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bring him to me !!!! a week later he would be a changed man...... sorry, had to throw that in.... as you can tell I am a very stronge person, women in our family have to be, I am the only one !! husband and 3 sons and 5 grandsons, 1 g-daughter.... and my older brother helped shape me too..... anyway, I know what ya mean about a mans ego and superior thoughts and ways.... king of the castle and all that.... but let me ask you this .. has he always been this way, or is it a new phase ? mid-life and all that ?? try hard to be respectful, but you need to sit hubby down, tell him to sit there and listen, and NOT say a word, and speak your mind on all this...... and for good measure, record him saying a few of those things to you and play it back to him.... let him HEAR for himself just what he sounds like..... sneaky yes, but it works, well ok, most times it does..... God bless
2006-09-26 17:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and work it out. Seek professional help if needed. Life's to short to be unhappy all the time. Good luck.
2006-09-26 17:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by foghat77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thnk you need counselling. You guys need to learn to compromise. He needs to learn not to criticize you so much and lock you out. You need to try your best. How long did you date? obviously he knew a thing or too abut you
2006-09-26 18:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by vivmaiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very SAD....He is not worried about for your looks and i am sure he cares for you lot from heart.
give him the best gift of your life..go out have a break
2006-09-26 17:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by ashishmulye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋