2006-09-26 17:11:01 · 20 answers · asked by SJM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are different kinds of love.
What he now has for you is the love that comes with being committed to you. Before he married you there was a little bit of lust thrown in--maybe a lot of lust.
After a few years of marriage the lust loses its luster (sorry about that) and takes a back seat to the committed love that keeps us men married.
I suspect he loves you as much or more but it's a different kind of love and it will feel different. It comes with maturity, and growth.
It would be nice to have a little bit of the lust and fire back, and maybe there are things you can do to bring that back, but a lot depends on what floats his boat.
2006-09-26 17:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way, analyze your marriage. When the flame starts to die down and you notice it, it is your job to ignite it once again. Dating was just the begining! After you say I do, you both have to work to keep that love burning. What do you do less now than before? Do you try as hard to motivate his interests now than you did during dating? It is not easy. I am not putting it on you, but you see it happening. If you value your husband, your marriage, and your future, then you will stop at nothing to heat things back up instead of becoming a marital statistic. You started the road to fixing it by being concerned. Now get off this computer and save your marriage!:)
2006-09-27 00:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your love tank is empty. Try getting a copy of Gary Chapman's book entitled "The Five Love Languages." Get your husband the men's version and read it together. It's an interesting simple book, but may help both of you rekindle your love by showing him what you need to fill your love tanks. Sex is not the only love language, there are four others that are just as loving.
2006-09-27 00:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say this? Has he told you that? We all feel this way and one point or another. I am sure he loves you. Maybe you are just a little unhappy with yourself about something right now. Self talk is a common problem. If you see something wrong with you and tell yourself about it all the time you begin to believe it and think that other people do as well. I hope this is just what is going on. You should see a doctor to get a clearer answer. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-27 00:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by timidlady2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys just sit up under each other? That is a big part of why people think that the love is gone. how can you get a chance to miss him/her if you are always under each other. So you both need space. Have a girls night out and he have a guys night out. Like now I am on the pc and he is on the game.
2006-09-27 01:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlee725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to him about how you feel over a nice dinner or something. If he stonewalls you then you should suggest marraige counseling for the both of you. Perhaps try communicating with eachother more openly if you have not been. That might be the only way to start approaching serious questions about your compatibility.
2006-09-27 00:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statement: my husband does not love me as he used to before marriage?
Question: HOW DO YOU MEASURE LOVE?
2006-09-27 00:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Orig1 B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does change the lust changes to devotion and the passion is morphed into a common goal, not in the bedroom!
Best wishes
2006-09-27 00:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change after thier married, they relax and dont work so hard, im sure he still loves you the same just let his gaurd down. Find a way to bring it back out and try really hard not to be resentful
2006-09-27 00:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by James 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the bad part about being "in love" when you get married because you can always fall out of love too.
2006-09-27 00:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by lilredthetease 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋