I recently accepted a new job which takes me to another part of town for a territory. Today, I said goodbye to a "favorite" customer whom I'm losing due to the change in territories. By "favorite", I mean a mutual flirtation kind of customer. He and I flirted for nearly a year even if both married. When I said goodbye to him today in his office, he looked crushed and disappointed. He could not believe what he was hearing. He took me into the lunch room and asked if I was serious. He then gave me a very firm handshake and congratulations (being in the office, it was obviously not a hug or a kiss). He did say that he was going to miss me, as I will miss him, too. He said that it was such a pity to lose a great rep. I already miss him just thinking that I will no longer be calling on him. He was staring at me the whole time as I walked away from him and out the door. What do y'all think, were there mutual feelings for each other based on the exchange we had today? I'm crushed!
2006-09-26 16:55:31 · 21 answers · asked by Confused_Rep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's sweet to have people that you find attractive and can relate to and maybe flirt in a joking way with during your day. The people who we work with and who we meet along the way can make our lives bright and shining day to day.. give us something else to look forward to and give us more reassurance with ourselves. I think it is nice that you had this bond with a client. Just remember that was your relationship - you were his rep and he was your client. Keep the memories and smile about them on rainy days. Go home to your husband who will be your Northern Star through the rest of your life (hopefully - these days you never know).. and open your mind to the new clients and co-workers you will meet at your next position. They will be the next flirts and buddies to bring you through the next step in your professional life. Say a gracious goodbye to this man and let yourselves walk out of each others lives leaving just the memories.. Change can be difficult.. and maybe all of the crazy missing him could be more about nervousness for the move and wanting a sweet smiling familiar face with you. Change can also be amazing.. thank God for your past.. and let it carry you hopeful and excited for the future. You are blessed to have had that man as part of your life.. but it's time to move on.. Good luck with the move.
2006-09-27 05:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see its not always that when ur loving a person ur attaracted to hm but its also the feeling when u really ador someone as a great pal of urs may be that a bit u like him or more but it hurts if u part with any such one .infact it seems like hell to be departing but its life it must go on u must think of it in a positive aspect u r married he's married just think of the consequences if the talk leaded a bit further ur both's no not both's the life of 4 people would be ruined urs his urs man's and his wife so think as whatsoever the life does is all right and then if also so u can have contacts its on finger tips now u can meet weekly or may be monthly but the later consequences must be kept in mind before any further step
2006-09-27 00:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by kush leo the lion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, yeah, I remember the mutual flirtation thing I had with a married guy I worked with. It got worse and worse until "it" happened, and where do you think that left both of us? He a cheater, me the other woman. What seemed like the greatest friend at the time is now somewhere I have no idea nor do I care to know.
Yeah, he had feelings for you. But they were based in his pants, not his heart. Be glad you got out of it before anything happened.
2006-09-27 00:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by smallweed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since both are married, leave it as a bittersweet memory you get to share with your girlfriends later on. And be happy that you have touched someone in that way. Respecting marriage vows is the honorable thing to do. Remember that most love affairs don't have a Hollywood ending. Maybe it's best that you're moving.
2006-09-27 00:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your spouse? If you do then what does it matter who feels what. Live your life and be happy for what you have. Don't let a silly little crush have such control over your life and emotions. Just let it go.
2006-09-27 00:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by A M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the good experience. Don't put yourself in that position again while you are conducting business. Go love your husband, and move-on. Anything more personal isn't worth the pain it'll cause you, your husband, your customer and his wife.
2006-09-27 00:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's this: Give up the booty on the way out the door.
Young lady, you've asked everybody else, except the one person that can honestly answer your question. 'YOUR HUSBAND.'
See what he thinks about this, if you're bold, because you know your wrong in your thinking and/or actions. Stick to what you already have or let it go. Stop playin games before you end up lonely.
2006-09-27 00:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Orig1 B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be careful, and take care of what you have at home. Like the saying goes, "Why have a hamburger out, when you have steak at home?"
Best wishes.
2006-09-27 00:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, he is a business man and i am sure that he liked you besides your business relationship, but he will get over it! he is married and sounds happily to me...i am sure that you will find another guy to flirt with at your new job, i feel sorry for your husband
2006-09-27 00:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say highly probable. But if either of you are married kind of makes it a mute point doesn't it
2006-09-26 23:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋