im ready to be a mum?

Question

im 14 and i have studied parting on my own for about a year and have allways wanted to be a yougn mum and feel im ready i cant wait any longer

Answer 1

I think that you probably should wait. You're very young, and may, in a few years, feel like you've missed out on other oppurtunities, (ie. hanging out with friends, going to parties, dating, going to school) by becoming a mother at such a young age. Also, when you are older, settled, have an education, job, good relationship.. etc., you will have much more to offer a child.

Answer 2

I know replying to this is probably a waste of my time, seems you've already got your mind made up.
First off you really need to stay in school and work on your spelling, so you can get a good enough job to support this child. Without a good job you, and your child will have nothing out of life. Plus, not to mention you are only 14, and there is "NO" real job that is going to hire a 14 yr old that pays enough to support a child or yourself for that matter.
A baby is expensive, which you must not have studied that part of "PARENTING" when you was "ALWAYS" studying. Do you have any idea how much it costs for medical bills just being pregnant? Not to mention the actual birth of the child, and car for yourself during your hospital stay.
Also, do you think that you will be able to carry a child along to your school prom... Oh wait you won't make it to school prom because you'll be at home with a child. Trust me I've been there and done that.
I was only 16 when I had my son. Which it wasn't planned, but happened. I delt with it. I ended up quitting school, and going to night school to get my GED. Luckily I had very supporting parents that helped me through it all, or else there would have been "NO WAY!" I could have done it. Also, I got one of the few good guys left that wasn't out just for some sex, and stuck by my side, and is still around 14 1/2 years later.
I did still though miss my Senior Prom.. never made it any prom. While all my friends were out enjoying themselves at parties, hanging out, going to concerts, going on spring break.. etc. I was at home being a full time Mom. Which don't get me wrong I wouldn't trade my son for anything in the world. But, honestly if I had it to do all over again, I would have waited till I was older, so I could have enjoyed my teenage years with friends being wild and young with no cares!
I just "REALLY" think you should think about everything in your life it's going to change, and what you will and won't be able to do, and all the stuff your going to have to miss out on being home with a baby! Also, talk to you parents and see if they think that your ready!

Answer 3

First, you are way to young to be a MOM ! I have a godson. His mother passed away 9 months ago. He is only 8 months and IT IS HARD AS HELL ! I'm 18 years old I attend college,I have a job, and I have a car and a apartment of my own but most importantly I have patience and my grandma. Do you have any of these things? How are you going to support this child? Read this poem and rethink your question

A Mother has so many things to do,
From washing, ironing, cleaning to tying a shoe.
She scrubs, she mends, she cooks and sews,
She bathes the children and washes their clothes.
When they forget to wash their faces clean,
And their clothes are the muddiest you've ever seen,
Who repairs the clothes and scrubs them like new?
Of course, that is what a Mother will do.

Who becomes the doctor or the nurse when they are ill,
Applying a bandage or giving them a pill?
Who becomes a teacher when a child has homework?
She must never her duty shirk.
Who becomes a detective to find a toy or a book?
For missing things she must look and look?
Who becomes a listner to every heartache,
To every accompolishment that a child makes?
Who scolds their children when they are naughty,
Or remind them of God when they are to haughty?
Who tends her family with love and patience, too?
Of course that is what a Mother will do.
Are you sure you are really ?

Answer 4

I was a young mum, I have 5 children now 26, 21, 18, 14, 12.years old. And four grandchildren. I love them all dearly, but I have to admit the oldest ones suffered with not doing all the things the younger ones do.
Like a good elementary education, sports, vacations, opportunities period. I was too busy working and trying to make ends meet.
You may think love will make it all fine, but when you really love your child like I know you would , you really want to give them the world.
After my 12 year old was born I went back to school, and now I have the means to give them the things they deserve. My young ones do alot, play music (sax 1500.00), BMX biking, (bike 400.00)
dance (lessons clothing shoes hundreds)vacations and more.
My older children wanted those things but I didn't have the money and they did without. They understand but my heart breaks.
And yours will too. You should wait, figure out what you want to do that you would love, fall in hot passionate love, and have alot of babies. To curb your maternal needs now, find a little one to be an auntie to, and see how much you can offer them, time, treats, needs ect..
And learn early in life about living healthy and having healthy babies, check out;
http://www.recipes-for-a-healthy-home.com

Answer 5

I wanted to be a young mom too! But for some reason I waited and now I've found the perfect man to have my children with. Now (looking back)it seems worth the wait :)

Answer 6

Are you ready to work full time and even two jobs to support the child, are you ready to live on your own pay your own bills, or are you one of the girls that thinks mommy and daddy are going to support you and even the state. Do you think the daddy is going to be around at this age. What are your reasoning's. I had a child at sixteen and I wish I could take it back. I didn't finish high school till I was 21. I had to work to jobs. It was my responsibility and no one elses to raise my or take care of my child. I did not use the state or my parents. I did everything on my own. I am so far in debt that I will not be out of it unless I win the lotto and what are your chances of that since you can't even play. How are you going to take the baby to the doctors you can't even drive, and do you think waiting for a bus in winter is healthy for your baby. GROW UP and have a life and wait till you have finished school and get a good job. Don't ruin your child's life because they will regret you for it. Also how to plain on paying for Christmas, its not fair to the baby that he/she has to live in poverty because mommy wanted a baby at a young age. Honestly you make me sick to think you can raise and take care of a child. I had to learn the hard way, and it wasn't easy, I missed out on everything high scholl dances graduating with my class even haveing a 21st birthday because my son was to important and I had to do what I had to do.

Answer 7

okay hear it goes if it something you want then weight
serously you are still learning school get school done let me tell you when your 18 nothin changes you still feel young rememvber when you turn 15 you still young and it wont change

Answer 8

Sadly, you know nothing of life. Grow up a bit first before you sacrifice your youth

Answer 9

little girl , you should wait for that . dont be upset and wait for the right person

mail me for details :-

[e-mail]