What do these dreams mean and how to get rid of them??

Question

I keep on having dreams of my boyfriend cheating on me! They aren't in huge detail or really graphic, but it seems he is with someone right in front of me. Kissing them or cuddling/laying with them. Then when I confront him in the dream, he acts like "whats the big deal" or he just acts like hes not doing anything wrong and keeps on doing it right in front of me almost like im not even his girlfriend!! He has cheated in the past over a year ago, and for the most part I feel over it because our relationship grew better from it, but I just can't understand why my dreams are haunting me, if I have forgave and am willing to move on?? They happen at least twice a month and its really frustrating, hurtful and confusing!! Can someone that knows about dreams try and help me with this one??? How do I make it stop???

Answer 1

dont think about him right b4 bed

Answer 2

I don't think that the other answers so far have really hit the nail on the head.

I wish I could tell you what they mean, honey, because I have the same thing (though my partner has never cheated on me, and when awake, I am not worried that he has.) Do you get all mad in your dreams and scream and no one seems to hear the hurt or anger, or hit or kick and it makes no difference?

I notice I have these dreams when I have alot of stresses on in my life, whether or not they have to do with my partner.

My personal hypothesis? (This is based on my understanding of my own relationship, not yours) You may be feeling over stressed and dejected. You feel you try really hard in everything and either it gets you no where or doesn't get you the credit you deserve and most importantly that you need someone to tell you that you are allowed to feel this way and are justified. (Every once in a while...all the time, over every thing gets a bit excessive, but since you say a couple times a month, I wouldn't worry.)

Whether or not these feelings actually have to do with your boyfriend or not are up to you to figure out. They may have nothing to do with him, everything to do with him, or it could be something like you are mad that he won't accept that you've had a rough month at work.

When in doubt, tell him about your dream, and he'll likely make up to you in real life what he did in his dream!! LOL. If not, it may spring a discussion that could resolve your underlying issue or at least get you closer to what it is.

Answer 3

Dear Valleygirl,

I'm sorry to hear you're having this nightmare often. I'm no dream expert and I don't believe anyone can really claim so either. I don't believe there is any scientific way to prove that dream is actually some kind of message.

Having said that, dreams could often reflect your current emotion you're experiencing. Your particular dream, for example, could reflect that deep inside you are not feeling completely secure about the relationship between you and him. While you forgave him, moved on, and love him, you might feel fragile and worried that he might not be devoted totally to you.

If your relationship with him is truly great right now, try to feel more confident about yourself. Guys feel attracted to confident woman. More you show him that you're worried and insecure, more he is likely to get bored of you.

I hope all the best for you and hopefully you can be free from your nightmare soon. Take care!

Kind Regards,

Answer 4

I tend to get the feeling that when you say you feel over it i think you mean ran away from it being the more realistic outcome at the time. you say your dream is not vivid in detail that is because as a damaged feeling limitation exercise for yourself at the time, you chose not to ask or challenge your boyfriend as to what really occurred warts and all for fear of the answer being too much for you to handle, that is why your dream is reoccurring part of you is still in the dark about the "finer"details no pun intended. your dreams while you stay in the dark or stay with your boyfriend wont change or move on, until your inner thoughts about the whole situation are fully informed as pain full as that may be. you feel you are letting him off the hook lightly with only the bare minimum details to hand, hoping in time you will forget; it is you questioning your own attitude towards what has happened that brings the "whats the big deal" part of the dream into play, you know you have let him off lightly , as you say in the dream he thinks he hasn't done that much wrong that's because your reaction in real time would level with that , your emotions say different and you are angry with yourself as much as you are angry with him. you feel betrayed not just by your boyfriend but by you, selling yourself short and not going ape s**t as much as you were entitled to go at the time, you need to ask the difficult questions and get the truthful answers you need to put a closure on it once and for all then your dreams will improve and go on to pastures new. good luck.

Answer 5

It is a trust issue.

If he indeeded cheated in the past, it is no surprise that you dreamed again. It is very hard to erase the images that he has cheated on you. You subconscious mind has that stamped in your conscience. You can't lose it unless you fully trust him and have a great heart to forgive him completely. However, I will tell you, it is very hard. it will take thim.

To make it stop, you should keep better communication with him and make him understand you. Otherwise, the trust thing about him will not go away

Answer 6

It's a part of life to realize that you are not in control of it. You are not in control of him either, so when you experience feelings of helplessness, what represents this helplessness to you is him breaking up with you. He has his own free will, and this is a source of anxiety for you. Welcome to life as we all know it. We are growing up, away from the security of what our parents provided for us, and it is a rude awakening that there are people out there that take commitment lightly.

Another consideration to take into account: females are physically more ready to "grow-up" and bond and settle down and seek their own home at an earlier age than males. Males are not really ready to do the same thing until they've had some kind of rip-roaring adventure.

Answer 7

A person’s life is full of dreams. Dream can be about one’s ambition which he gets fulfilled with the passage of time thru his own hard work, intelligence, good planning and with the blessings of Almighty. Another is day dreaming which is really not a good habit and can be controlled with one’s will power. But what about the dreams a person experiences during sleep. Do they hv effect in our real life? What do they mean? What is their interpretation? The person asks to his friends, elders and seniors in his social circle. Sometimes he gets satisfactory reply and sometimes not. These days Internet is a rich source of information. So one does not need to depend on others for one’s dream interpretation. The Yahanswerholics Community member suggests the following.
http://dream-interpretation.readabout.net/
http://www.psychicguild.com/dream.php
http://www.insightful-dream-interpretation.info/dream-interpretation-free.html
http://www.edgarcayce.org/dreams/freedreaminterpretation.asp
http://www.spiritcommunity.com/free-dream-interpretation.htm
http://www.handresearch.com/hand/Evolutie/dream-interpretation.htm
http://www.dreamdoctor.com/
http://www.divinedivination.com/dreams.html
http://www.dream-guru.com/free-dream-interpretation.html
http://www.dreammoods.com/
http://www.spiritcommunity.com/
http://www.network54.com/Forum/106909/
Please visit the above pages to find the interpretation of your dreams and to satisfy your different queries about dreams. I hope, that should do it for you.

Answer 8

i think the reason your having these dreams is the fact that he has cheated on you before and now you have forgiven him and it's huanting you because now the relationship done took a major turn and i wonder have sat him down and talked to him about it that will help to but you are beating yourself up think happy thoughts about you two and things that your planning to do soon but first youa have to have a serious talk with him about the relationship don't worry everybody have those dreams it's because you love him and don't want to get hurt again don't we all but believe me when i say love yourself and everyone can't but to love you it will be ok just wait good luck.

Answer 9

Look up cheating boyfriend in a dream dictionary. It's some sort of trust issue I think.

Answer 10

Honestly, I have had the same problem. Once you ask God to help you forgive him and it is true forgiveness it will not bother you. Then it becomes a tool for the devil to use and yes he can put things in your dreams! Just ignore it and tell the devil to stay out of your life and that he is not welcome to leave. He will!

Answer 11

There's a part of you that is afraid he's going to do it again, it's coming out in your dreams. It's not a premonition, or anything like that, just a bit of fear.