How do I deal with EVERYONE else around me conceiving??
Don't get me wrong I am HAPPY for them,but yet inside it is like wish that was me...you already have kid's..etc.
My one friend I haven't seen in years and was just told she is having a baby in 5wks,and I heard my sis may be pregnant AGAIN (she's 24,married,this will be her 4th) I feel horrible for feeling like this! How do I cope with it? I feel like they don't understand!! And when they "flaunt" it I guess they are so overjoyed they don't see it kinda hurt's me.
2006-09-26 16:41:54 · 11 answers · asked by babyN 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I know exactly how you feel! My husband and I have been trying to conceive a baby for almost 2 years and it is heartbreaking to see that negative result on the home pregnancy test each and every month. You feel sad when you see people around you pregnant, but guilty at the same time because you know you should be happy for them. We are now getting fertility testing and help, but I wonder if I will ever be pregnant. The good news is that you have only been off the pill for 3 months, so it could just take a little longer for you. I will pray for you as I do myself every night. If you ever need a friend to talk to, please feel free to either email me or im. Lots of hugs and baby dust to you!!!
2006-09-26 16:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are- believe me. I had my twins at a young age and went through a divorce when they were 4.....I always wanted more kids and was so jealous when others had babies..... Now I am 38 and married again ( this time to a great guy) When we decided to have a baby we had to move quick because of my age....... each month was a major disappointment.go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler
This book will help you with all of your menstrual and conception questions. It’s for all women - not just women trying to conceive. It covers everything from temperature to mucus checking, etc.. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! It tells you how to figure out your cycle and what to expect. My husband and I tried for a year to conceive and nothing happened. The first month I used the book we conceived right away. Now I am due Feb 2. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!
2006-09-27 04:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you're experiencing those little hidden maternity craving wishing it was you it very normal. You can tell them how you feel risking there anger or hurt. Better off keep yourself quiet and play the proud aunt. Of course ask your sister to take you along to the ultrasounds, shopping etc. Or better yet, instead of asking her, volunteer your time to do this with her and your friend. They'd greatly appreciate it. You in return will benefit from this as a hand on experience for yourself, closer and loving friendship and relationship with your sister. Good Luck, and trust me once you get into the full swing of things with these two pregnant ladies you'll be fine.
2006-09-26 16:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on trying. Have you seen a Dr. to see if there are any hidden problems? Maybe try 1-800-aska nurse? Might give some ideas of how to narrow down a problem? Also have your spouse be checked to see if he might have problems? Keep up the faith & the spirit! Good Luck & God Bless!
2006-09-26 16:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Benny D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way. One thing is to not stress over it. I think that's part of the reason why you're not conceiving. Relax, enjoy yourself, and go with flow. It WILL happen. Seriously.
If you've been trying too long, you might want to check with your doctor who might recommend a fertility expert.
2006-09-26 16:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by pidpit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way....been ttc since jan 2005, when i stopped taking my birth control....Just found out my sister is 13 weeks prego with her 3rd....Its hard....very hard and you feel torn between feeling happy for them, and jealousy...Wish u the best of luck babydust 2 u
2006-09-26 17:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by dnk0717 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you talk to your doc he will tell you that sometimes it can take a year for the medication to leave your system. it could depend on how long you were on the pill. It took me years to have my kids but i did it. so best of luck to you and i hope you find peace and happiness.
2006-09-26 17:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by bwaaaare 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING. IT'S HARD TO BE HAPPY FOR THEM WHEN ALL YOU WANT IS TO BE PG TOO. JUST HOLD YOUR HEAD UP AND BE THERE FOR THEM. YOU CAN ALWAYS TALK THIS OUT WITH OTHERS, NOT THE ONES WHO ARE PG. THINKING OF YOU AND HOPE FOR THE BEST.
2006-09-26 16:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just concentrate on what U are doing and stop fretting about everyone else. Feeling bitter and jealous will not help your cause
2006-09-26 21:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be happy for them....
Go to http://www.mymonthlycycles.com and put in your period info and it will calculate when you will be fertile and ovulating.
It is a free and helpful site. Good luck to you
2006-09-26 17:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋