when you become a `parent' do you stop being the person who you were; I mean, because your child/children see you ONLY as a parent; does that mean you lose the essential person that you were before you had children?
2006-09-26 16:40:34 · 14 answers · asked by Bluebells21 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I just had a look at the answers so far; OMG! I really soaked it all in; these answers are fantastic; and show the wonderful nature of people...gunna be hard to choose best answer!
2006-09-26 17:05:17 · update #1
No. Your life does become centered around your children. BUT, that does not mean you should not lose the essential person you are. Many parents do lose themselves and live vicarously through their children - it's their choice whether they want to do this or not or even balance it out.
I choose to be my own person and a parent. I take the time to make sure I balance adult things with children's things...It's hard at times, but as your child grows older, they'll open up to you more and respect you more. And I respect myself and my family more, am learning more and getting a wider perspective on life as a whole by being a parent-person.
2006-09-26 16:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by ami 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do not stop being the person you were. You may change a little. I know when i had my 1st son i looked at things i did differently. Like i really love to water ski and have been doing it since i was a kid, but when he was born i was scared to death to do it. I was afraid i would get hurt. Still to this day i think i have only skied twice since he was born and he will be 6. Same goes for amusement parks, riding 4-wheelers etc. I never would have thought about any of those things before. I just have a new perception on life now i guess!!!
2006-09-26 23:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you change totally......you have to.
Before kids you are selfish, with no responsibility, spontaneous and essientially childish no matter what age you are......
Then when you have your babies....you mature over night, you realise the world doesnt revolve around you, your whole purpose in life is to make this little baby happy and comfortable and content...as they grow, you fall for their every whim, they bring you all the joy and the heartache in the world and as a mother you can't get enough of it!
So yes, you do stop being who you where, but you become someone better!
2006-09-27 04:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent is about you and the way you see your children grow up you be your self it takes no pretence or acting unless you are not happy the way your life has turned out (need change)
every thing you do from day one has an effect on that young person if you are unsure how to conduct yourself and act please watch a nature program see how lions tigers teach there young it is pretty amazing you are the role model every thing you do makes it OK for them to do hope you understand my point
2006-09-27 00:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you will always be who u truly are but maternal instincts kick in and that is what makes changes. Instead of clubbing you are happy to just sit and cuddle with your baby. If u have passions like crafts, etc- u dont have change, let ur baby enjoy them with u when they are older. Some thingd need to change though- like if u were promiscuous, out ever nite- b/c u chose to be a mom, now that is what u are.
2006-09-26 23:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by azuleyes404 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I am still the same person but my perspective has changed dramatically - for the better as far as I'm concerned. I went from being me me me to being a mommy and I wouldn't have it any other way.
2006-09-26 23:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bc your kids see you as just a parent does not mean you loose your essential you can inculde them in what you are into. You can include them in your hobbies and things and you can show them that you are more then just a parent if you want too.
2006-09-26 23:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you become a parent your children need to see you as a friend also besides just being their boss . you should be able to become a better person than you have ever been.
2006-09-26 23:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by matthewsbricklayer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on the kind of person you were before you had kids. most parents dont change, but just ADD a little more responsibility to their personalities. you should never change for anyone but you... not even for your children or your husband.
2006-09-26 23:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just became a mom and i started seeing alot of things in a new light...but i am still the same person i was before i got pregnant. i am who i am and i believe my baby will learn to love me as who i am, just like how i will love him for who he is.
2006-09-27 02:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋