There's this girl at my local bank. In the past, she has winked at me,stared and seemed to come over to me to talk to me. But I wanted to just hang out,and she kept saying "You dont have to do that,oh you dont't have to do that ok take care". All I wanted is to be friends cause I am seeing someone and I am loyal.What should I do the next time I have to see her at my bank again?
2006-09-26 16:39:05 · 12 answers · asked by Jeffery K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sound like you are in a committed relationship...I'm glad you remembered.......sounds like she's just flirting with you, forget her............
2006-09-26 16:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You enjoy the attention from this woman and you knowingly or unknowingly are encouraging her just to see what she really wants from you. That's a no-brainer. She wants to flirt a bit and chat a bit to see if maybe you will ask her out and that could be the start of something promising. But, as you say, you are not available. There is no reason you, a single guy and probably a good looking guy, would want to be "friends." There is no basis for a friendship here other than she apparently has the hots for you and you have the hots for her. She is being played by you and your benign encouragement is unfair and unethical. You just don't want to carry the guilt of "doing" this woman while telling yourself that you are loyal. You want her to plunder you so you can blame her for disrespecting your "loyalty." This is an old "approach" used by men so that they can blame the woman when it turns out to be a one night stand. How dare she "do" you and give you such a great sex treat when you are "loyal" to your main squeeze. Maybe you should do the woman a favor and change banks.
2006-09-27 00:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and tell her the truth...let her know that you are in a committed relationship but you have no problem with being friends with anyone as long as the have that understanding that you do have a significant other in your life. and hang out with them with other people around not on a one on one bases because then you are leading her on making her think that something could be... the first time she winked at you you should have told her that you have someone. you did not respond by doing so because you allowed here to continued on winking at you now that she is blowing you off, you are missing the attention that you were getting...that is just like a man wanting his cake and candy too with ice cream on the side. then when the ice cream starts melting he want to scream and cry why why why. because you lead her on silly.
she is telling you that is OK now because she wants to guard what little dignity she has left after making a fool out of herself winking at you and allowing her feelings and heart to develop for you dummy!!!
2006-09-26 23:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by PHAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her 2 lunch and gently let her down , do the smart thing because if u ry 2 blow her off all 2gther not only does she still have an account there she would see u in the street with ur girl and really try and make a scene and it wouldn;t even be the case , if u know women like i do trust me plsy ur cards right invite her 2 lunch and just tell her that she may be nice u have someone in ur life that u dont want 2 let go of.
2006-09-26 23:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd just let it be. Don't flirt in return, but don't be rude either. Remember that this is your bank; you don't want to be on the bad side of any employees. When you don't make any move, eventually she'll get the idea or she'll get bored. In the meantime, just enjoy the attention and extra service. -yk
2006-09-26 23:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Yaakov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you are seeing someone and you are going through all this work just to be friends with a girl at a bank! You need to reevaluate why you are so eager to be friends with the girl!
2006-09-26 23:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jersey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
act natural as possible. dont act and let the woman see that you are affected with the way she acts, try to act like she is a friend, you see she likes you and you are bothered, but then if she sees that you dont sense anything special around you both and that you are acting normal around her, she will see that you dont really feel the same way
never attempt to brush her off, for all you know she might just be playing around and testing you but not really liking you, act normal dont give her any sign you are affected by her actions.
2006-09-26 23:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be casual, chip chip chipping away at that resistance. If your cool, eventually you'll just end up out for that coffee or watching that show. Ask her about her s/o and volunteer a bit about yours, that should put her at ease and solidify your motive to maybe hang out as just friends - maybe with your others.
2006-09-26 23:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you get in her line.....just say hi and attend to your financial business. Nothing else is required. Stop making a big deal of it.
2006-09-26 23:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time your at the bank just say "hi" ... don't make a big deal of it, she was probably caught off guard ...
2006-09-26 23:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. just be casual. i don't see any problem unless your tempted to her. If you don't want to flirt with her then don't she'll get the message soon enough.
2006-09-26 23:44:08 · answer #11 · answered by say_what!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋