I have a male co-worker who is married and I just found out that he is sleeping with another co-worker who is not married. I also found out that she is hitting on several other married co-workers of mine. I am very disgusted by the entire situation. Neither one of them know that I know. I am getting to the point where I don't even want to be around him, but we are involved in a lot of meetings together so I have no choice. I don't have to be around her (thank God) What should I do?
2006-09-26 16:30:00 · 34 answers · asked by Faith In The House 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ignore the situation.
You are expected to not bring your problems to work, and that works for observations at work interferring in your home life, or working "break" life.
It's their poor choices, not yours. If he's not hitting on you, who cares? Karma will take care of them.
2006-09-26 16:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your boss maybe they can help you. Does your work place allow for office romances? Sometimes they don't. That may be the answer. Talk to your Pastor or a Minister maybe they can give you answer. I am as disgusted as you are. I would tell the guys wife, but make sure you have proof. After all, you never know what disease she could be sharing with this woman's husband. She could end up with something she won't ever get rid of. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 16:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by ajsad36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation where you should mind your own business. It is not affecting his work or your workload. You are not involved in the situation between the coworkers. If it becomes problematical as far as the work situation goes, then it would be time to go to the boss.
If you absolutely cannot abide the thought of being around them, then it is time to look for a new job.
Good luck
2006-09-26 16:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't have anything to do with you then don't worry about it. It's not your problem. So you know whats going on doesn't mean you have to get involved. You don't want to be in that drama crap. As it is there will always be drama at any work place why want more if you can avoid it. Tend to your own duties and stay out of it!
2006-09-26 17:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the action or actions of fellow co-workers are affecting you directly in the workplace you can take it up with your supervisor or HR department. It is not a morality issue at that point, but it is a ethical one.
2006-09-26 16:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything, because it really is not your business unless you manage the employees.
BUT... you have the right to not socialize or be outwardly friendly to either of them. If they ask you why you seem rude or stand-offish to them, please let them know that their behavior makes you feel uncomfortable in the workplace. You could also let your superior know that their "romping" makes it hard for you to deal with them in the context of the work day.
2006-09-26 16:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be disgusted by the situation and by your morally bankrupt coworkers, but there is nothing that you can do.
If one of the individuals in the situation asks your opinion then you can voice your disgust and my feeling is they are not going to so you just have to ignore them and just not say anything.
2006-09-26 16:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by solgiver 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Send out a memo that inter-office relationships are not allowed. Attach to that another memo on sexual misconduct in the workplace. Have them contain facts only, don't mention any names. I wish I had better advice, but there isn't really too much you can do in this situation. I agree with you whole heartedly that these two are less than desireable, but unfortunately, if you speak up, you are going to get the crappy end of the deal for ratting them out. Don't do that to yourself. Instead make everyone aware of it in a round about sort of way. Who knows, maybe it'll make them stop, or at least keep it out of the office.
2006-09-26 16:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Mind your own business. They are all adult and they know what they are doing. Don't think so much on their personal issues and try to concentrate on your work. Maybe this is the best thing you should do.
2006-09-26 20:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by smurf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that! very uncomfortable! The guys wife and kids used to come in the store! Nobody told the poor lady!!Eventually they ended up getting a divorce. But did not end up with the cheating girlfriend.May be it can be done anonymously??
2006-09-26 16:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋