I have a boyfriend whom I have been with for almost 2 years. Since I have been with him, when he has money, he is generous, but I have always borrowed him money, now he owes me $4000 and is taking too long to pay it off. Well now, I know he is very talented doing gutter work, and so I decided we would open our own business. He does not own anything, in fact, he is very late on his car payment. I own 3 brand new homes, 2 of wihch are rented, I own a car and truck, both are paid off, and now I have opened this business.He owns nothing and owes me. I have put $20,000 into this business. I agreed to put the money into it, advertise the busines, take phone calls, print maps for estimates, and more. I thought I would be nice and split 50/50, but he thinks he should get more because he sweats. But I am the owner, and I work too and I put in the $20,000. I think I should get more but because I love him, I split it 50/50, what do you think is fair?
2006-09-26 16:24:01 · 15 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Who buys the material. If you buy the material then split the profits after that then it's more than fair. And he should be grateful to get it and have a girlfriend like you. If he doesn't like it then just sell it. Sounds like it's just going to cause you guys more problems. I've always thought it would be a bad idea to go into business with a loved one.
Good Luck
2006-09-30 09:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by 5ladderjob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wud seem you have found a man who loves your money..... It should be you he loves. Learn from this expensive mistake .... don't mix business and pleasure....if you do it the best way to get screwed outta cash and the emotional investment.
If you own the business. then you have to choose between having a employee or a expensive lover.
You need to decide which is expendable. It would seem you need to lighten your financial load by dumping him .... but that's your choice.
I would cut my looses ... close the business or hire someone else to do the work, fire the current employee and dump the boyfriend! Start with a clean slate.
Your in up to your hips and the water isn't gonna get shallower.
Choose well
2006-09-26 16:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are married, or unless you agreed to it on paper with him, you do NOT owe him half or more than half. You are the owner/operator and should probably pay him like a highly valued employee if he works for your business. Love does not entitle him to a paycheck, working does. I am sure you think of it as being nice, but nice doesn't have a lot to do with it. Don't overpay him just for the sake of his complaining. Be fair, because it's all he can ask of you. Imagine you had to hire people to do what he does. Would you pay them the same, less, or more?
No offense, but it seems like you're the go-getter who is possibly enabling some mooching.
2006-09-26 16:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by RoseRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say damn, why do all of the undeserving people have people willing to do any and everything for them but they are never appreciative? I would love if someone did 1/8 of all that for me. He is sounding VERY ungrateful i mean dang u sweat too just in a different way (worrying over the finance and making sure that mooch doesn't suck u dry) Has he mentioned the 4,000 he owes u or does he feel like he deserves that too? Since u like helping people who aren't in need how about helping those who are.... Me. :)
2006-09-26 16:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kaffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's always a big mistake to mix business with pleasure. I think if you are partners in the bedroom, you should split it 50/50.
2006-09-26 16:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50/50 seems more than fair. Considering you being the majority share holder and could let him stand in the unemployment line for the winter.
2006-09-26 16:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by gullible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I think I should get more but because I love him, I split it 50/50"
Follow what you think is right! You answered your own question. Love doesnt cost money! YOU CAN'T BUY LOVE! I would ask yourself what if I didn't help with his finances?
2006-09-26 16:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a better partner. Or pay him by the hour but remember this if he leaves what is your backup plan. I would have others so he doesn't get a big head and I would get another guy. He is dead weight so why carry him.
2006-09-26 16:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by spook12spook12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, to tell you the truth i think he is using you don't do anythings else and see what he does if he gets mad,well then you would know how he really feels just don't put out any more of your money let him put out some but if i was you i would leave him alone he is really using you can you see that i do
2006-09-26 16:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by applepiekiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋