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Question

i am 12 about to 13 in like 2 months. i got my period when i was like 11 i am in 8th grade & i feel flat like all the other girls are way more grown ! i feel so weird i have acne out of my whole class & no one else does. i feel like everything's been opposite ! i also feel so skinny it not funny i want , i can never find my jean size & no i'm not anorexic ! i eat alot !! trust me i weigh like 85 pounds but why am i different from everyone else ??

Answer 1

Don't worry about the rate speed at which your body changes. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has felt the same way as you. My very good friend developed at what sounds to be very similar to you (she was very small--about your size) until freshman year of high school. She is now a couple inches taller than me and has a great figure (thin--but with great curves). I know this doesn't do much to ease your frustration, but every girl has something that they are uncomfortable with..and I can tell you from personal experience It does get better...

Answer 2

I just had to answer. You are almost 13; talk to any slightly-older female friends and you will find that they ALL went through a period of feeling awkward, freakish, ugly or whatever--insert your adjective of choice here--and came through it with flying colors at the end of a brutally hard year or two. You are completely, utterly normal and you will be fine. You've got some acne and some anxiety about your weight and about your breasts. It could be worse: instead of being skinny, you could be so overweight you can't find jeans in your size; instead of acne, you could have a birthmark or something similar which is not going to go away. It sucks right now, I know. But if you can tough it out for a year or so, you will be amazed to see that everything changes. The person you see in the mirror today is not the one you will see a year or two down the road. All the best.

Answer 3

I gotta be honest with you, you could be my 11 year old daughter. You are not alone and you are not different, you are unique. My daughter is 11 and has acne, also she is so skinny she can't even wear jeans unless they have the adjustable waist. She is only 70 lbs and she is short. People come in all shapes and sizes, being one shape or size or having a little acne does not make a person wierd, it just makes them unique. What a boring world we would live in if everyone looked the same like cookies out of a cutter. And trust me hun, you will be outgrowing the acne just as eveyrone else is getting it. Who has the last laugh then.

Answer 4

It's natural for you to feel confused during this awkward time in your life. I was a lot like you at your age....underweight for my height, shy, acne...the whole works!
I do understand what your going through sweety because I've been there. But, as alone as you feel and as different as you feel from the rest of your peers, you're not! Every young girl goes through a lot of physical changes that feel so strange, but are normal. However, it might be a good idea for you to get a check up from your physician if for nothing more than to relieve your troubled mind. You will get through this sooner and better than you think :)
My thoughts are with you. Oh, and I hate it when people ask me if I'm anorexic when I eat all of the time, so, your not alon in that. Please take care and you can always email me if you need to chat.

Always

-K

Answer 5

You are at such a hard age! Please don't compare yourself to every other girl. You are unique, and you will grow and develop in your own time! The other girls probably envy you because you are thin. (Believe me!)

Acne is so hard to deal with. Keep your face clean, and try to eat healthy foods. You may want to ask your mom or dad if you can see a dermatologist (skin doctor) to help you with that.

My guess is; every other girl at school feels the same way you do. That she is different, and opposite everyone else, only she will have other reasons than you do to feel that way.

Answer 6

Being different is really a good thing. When you are out of junior high, you will realize that it is just a part of growing up. I was in your place once. I remember getting made fun of because my mom made me cut my hair really short (and it was curly), I wore glasses, I was skinny like you, and had acne. I had it really bad (or so I thought) then I realized in high school that everyone goes through similar phases in life.

Now that I am a senior in college and I look back at the people I went to school with, I see most of them stuck in the small town we grew up in not making much out of their life. They never grew up and adjusted to life. It is really sad to see that. I no longer look like that skinny girl with acne, short hair and glasses. I grew up and grew my hair out, gained weight (unfortunately), and still wear glasses.

You will grow up and change and look back at junior high and smile. You will realize you are different and that is okay. I believe this is true: "Normalcy is merely an illusion."

Answer 7

I'm 19 and i only weigh 80 pounds so i know how you feel everyone is different i'm the only person my size outta my family and i was the only person my size in school

Answer 8

Check out www.hufa.org - especially the yeast link. If your acne is due to a systemic yeast infestation (which is possible, according to the book I am reading), it may be due to an imbalance in some other chemicals that help you grow.

I don't want you to get scared. If this is happening to you, changing what foods you eat should help out. It is what you eat that determines chemical imbalances not how much.

Feel free to e-mail me if this makes sense to you.

Answer 9

all girls are different. jus because you got your period, it doesnt mean that yoyr going to immediately start growing chest. there are girls that start growing their chest when theyre at 12 and others start growing at 16. but you will start to grow eventually. your just a late bloomer. like some girls are.