what are her intentions?

Question

If this comes out sounding sort-of incoherent, I'm not doing it on purpose, but it may be a reflection of how I'm feeling at the moment--extremely confused. I'm gonna try and present the scenario in a way that won't leave you guessing, and I hope some of you will have some helpful feedback. Ok here goes:
Recently I've been having alot more contact with this particular girl, who I have known since last year, but didn't really talk to that often. Now that we are working closely together, on a regular basis, we've started up a friendship of sorts. The thing is, I know she's a lesbian, but I don't think she knows I know.
Because of this, I'm having a hard time reading some of her actions. I know lesbians are not attracted to every girl they see, the same in heterosexual relationships, but I feel like she's flirting with me all the time.
She's always around me, she's become more physical lately, she always suggests we hang out, do things together, or even as a group. She says she like bothering me, and she likes to mention alot that we have alot in common. Sometimes I catch her looking at me, or maybe I'm convincing myself that. When you turn your head and someone else's head turns all of a sudden, on more than one occasion, I think it's safe to say, they're looking at you.
Anyway, when we speak to each other we lock eyes for some time. She has asked for my number. I guess what is confusing me, is that I feel like she's dropping subtle hints. I feel she's being subtle because she thinks I don't her preference, and it really annoys me, cuz I wish she would be upfront about it. And when she drops these subtle hints, I always gather that she's trying to feel me out, see if I have some sort of interest in women as well. I always laugh them off because I don't wanna make her uncomfortable.
In one aspect I feel sorry for her because she doesn't feel comfortable coming out to me, but in the next instance, it's so frustrating, because, even though it's none of my business, I feel like if she's interested romantically, she should say it and stop beating around the bush...that's if she's interested. I guess that's where you come in and tell me what you think.
Today as I was saying goodnight to her, she was trying to initiate a conversation with me, and she jokingly brushed me off, so I stopped and asked her what was on her mind, and she was like nothing I was just gonna say and blah blah blah, we talk about school and stuff. She started getting really fidgety like she was kind-of embarassed that she had somehow let on that she may have been feeling me.
In summation, I really like her, I can't see myself having a sexual relationship with her...actually the thought of it right now is sort-of nauseating, but I enjoy her company and I can see us being really close friends, but I feel like I can't do it if she's playing around. I just need insight. Do you think she's attracted and how do you think I can handle this situation? Any input would be appreciated and even if you don't have any comment, thanks for listening to me ramble on. :)

P.S. I hope this doesn't come off as offensive to anyone, because I'm very open to different people.

Well we dont work in that type of setting, we're college students and we work in a student organization.

Answer 1

Hi.
As someone who spent three years in love (not crushing on - actually in love) with my oh-so-straight best friend, I'd like to ask that whatever you do or say, be extremely gentle but honest with her.
You might say something like "Hey, maybe I'm way off track and reading this really wrong, but I'm getting the sense from some of the ways we interact (maybe give an example or two) that maybe you're kinda wondering if I'm into you. I prefer guys, but I really enjoy hanging out with you, and I think we could be pretty good friends. I just wanted to let you know so that I don't do anything in friendship that would hurt you by leading you on or giving you the wrong impression about what our friendship could be."

Answer 2

OK, this is where i say, of course she likes you. The thing may be that she probably feel like i do. I would never make the first move on my job. I value my job. Sexual harassment charge does not look good on the resume'. It also sound like u enjoy her company and that's cool. But maybe u need 2 make the first move in the conversation about being up front with iffy issues. Sounds like u two could be good friends, cause any other woman would not even be in her face. So, invite her to the coffee house or book store, somewhere where u 2 can have this important convo without interruptions. Now from the lesbian part of me, let me just say it could be your lesbian experience window ur peeping in. Good luck 2 u both. U seem like good people. )O

Answer 3

Well if what you're saying about this girl is true, it sounds like she's definitely into you. But she's probably scared to just come out and say it. Especially if you two work together, she probably doesn't want to ask you and risk getting sued for sexual harassment or risk ruining the friendship between you two. I am in the same position, but it's vise versa. I have a crush on the girl at work, but since we work different shifts, and I freeze up and ignore her everytime I'm around her, she has no idea that I like her. I don't even know if she knows I'm gay. But what I would suggest you do is sit down and let her know that she can ask you anything. And when she does ask to date you, just tell her that even though you value her friendship, friends is all you two could ever be. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I think she is in to you. If anything she is afraid of a bad reaction/rejection from you, Maybe she knows your not interested (i think that's what you were getting at.. This seems to be weighing you down you two need to talk. Ask questions that leave it open for her to come out to you. On what you are saying she sounds really uncomfortable trying to make it comfortable for you if that's makes sense. if you come on to hard saying " i know you have feeling for me" that's no good she will clam up and not want to discuss it further. If you two end up talking after work try and bring the situation to light. But in the end just be careful of her feelings, if you don't like her she is going to get burned, but you don't need to be stressing like this. Good luck =)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Oh, yeah. I think she likes you.

What would you do if she were a guy? Do that. Be nice, but be firm.