I want to have children but Im dying to have one by the time I turn 18. And yes, I know the responsibility I was pregnant before (then I had a stillborn). My boyfriend and I love children. The thing is he has HIV. I spoke to his doctor the doctor says that its possible. That their is a technique now done called sperm washing. They wash the sperm without killing it. But its expensive. (if your going to say that im too young or say something rude then dont say anything at ALL!!!!)
2006-09-26 14:38:31 · 17 answers · asked by diana li 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ok to answer some peoples comments. Sperm washing is very accurate and thats why its expensive. 3 of the best reproductive clinics here in Florida have being successful and highly reccomend it. It kills bacteria and kills abnormal sperm cells. And Im not being selfish. I care about my baby more than anything. I was pregnant once before but I gave birth to a dead daughter. How in the hell am in selfish?
2006-09-26 15:26:15 · update #1
And the question is just the simple fact that i want feedback. Is that hard?
And to many, people will think that Im still grieving my dead daughter. And I will always love her and miss her. And at times I think about her, but im not trying to replace her. But I have the right to carry on.
Me and my boyfriend have been togther for a long time and I dont feel any insecurities. The doctors say that my boyfriend is healthy and that he will be here for a long time. (thank god!) But yes, I have thought about the fact that what if hes not here, and I have support and family. Im turning 17 in a few months. And No i havent considered sperm donation, but thank you to those who suggested it it gives me more to think about.
2006-09-26 15:40:08 · update #2
It nice to see that AIDS is not stopping you and that it is possible to have as normal of a life as possible. All I can say is best wishes but whats the question?
2006-09-26 14:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by firedragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are absolutely sure you want a child, maybe spend time with a couple that already has a child and see how you can handle the responsibility. If you do well, you can try the sperm washing procedure. I do not know where you can raise money for such a thing. I hope I don't sound rude because I don't mean to be, but babies are a huge responsibility. You still have a long life ahead of you to have children. Good luck, nonetheless!
2006-09-26 14:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by rachee_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say check into the procedure thoroughly before doing it. You are surely still grieving your first child, you don't want to have another one that you may lose to other complications. Age is just a number, you have probably grown up ten times faster since the stillbirth, but please make sure that you have dealt with that loss.
Also, consider that sperm donation may be cheaper than sperm washing, and DNA means nothing as long as you both love the child!
2006-09-26 14:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was young when i had my first- no regrets. i love her to death. i understand that your boyfriend has HIV, and you can get that washing done, and it would probably nice to carry on his memory if anything happened. However, have you thought about this child, if there is no father around? it is a great thing to have a child but kids really need two parents in their lives. If you can afford it and you think you can deal, go ahead, do it. but be careful and dont you get HIV and spread it to that child, because you know they never asked for it. Also, do you think your own body is ready? make sure you are extremely healthy because you will need it to grow a strong baby!!
2006-09-26 15:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you and your boyfriend try a sperm bank, followed by IVF. That is of course if the two of you can agree on the subject. I feel that even with sperm washing you or the baby could contract HIV.
2006-09-26 14:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by galec777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand wanting to have a child right now it's a beautiful thing just make sure your ready for this because it's far from easy .I am 25 having my first child and I have been blessed to have a fiance that has been therfe for me make sure you find someone that is ready for this too and support you in having this baby meaning emotionally because you are going to go through a lot of emotional problems that you wont understand
2006-09-26 14:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by bonifiedelegance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's cute taking on responsibility that young is great. My sister had her first baby at 19 yeah it was tough cuz it was unplanned but its good that you are taking the time to plan it. If you really want a baby, in my opinion then its worth the money. Im sorry about your pregnancy before. Good luck, i wish you the best!!
2006-09-26 14:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Thats a lot to take on. If you insist on becoming impregnanted by him then listen to your dr and not what anyone on yahoo says. Not to be rude, but having a child before 18 is a life altering decision that I wouldnt recommend making.
2006-09-26 14:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have your ind made up already, but i would first make sure the procedure is 100% safe. I don't think you're too young, I'm 18 and 5 months pregnant, but i definatly think graduating highschool should be a priority.
2006-09-26 14:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was going to Say your young no aim joking if you want a baby you can have one it is your choice and if you and your boyfriend love baby's go or a Head and have one.
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2006-09-26 14:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋