me and my boyfirend had sex about 4 months ago and like always we used a comdom but it brokeand i yet 2 come on my period i wanna tell him but im kinda scared and hes going to leave and go to college and when he leaves ill still be in high school and i really dont wanna mess up his are my goals in life i got my head on right as far as school goes.and i dont wanna have a abortion but i really dont know what to do. ive talk 2 my sisters and my step mom but they say its my choice and i gotta do what i think is right but the problem is i dont know please help me!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-26 14:22:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
good luck with that
2006-09-26 14:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Marleaux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have more options than you think!!!!
Besides the obvious choices that have been suggested, that is if you are pregnant, you might want to look into having the baby and then putting the child up for adoption. This can be done at many stages of your pregnancy and you can usually have as much control as you want.
Before deciding what is best for you (and maybe your boyfriend) my advise would be to seek advice from those around you as well as doing some real serious internet searches and talking with doctors or other professionals in your geographic area.
If you are religious, I would also suggest praying for yourself and the unborn child. If your boyfriend is really a growing young man, he will also be very supportive of you in this time.
I wish you well throughout a very difficult decision you are possibly about to make. Seek what others have gone through and think about how you will feel in the future about decisions you make now.
2006-09-26 22:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 16 weeks you can no longer have an abortion. By waiting so long you have limilted your choices to keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. Having a baby in high school is hard I should know. My god son was born when me and his mother were in 16 and in high school. She had to work hard and give alot of her childhood up but she is now a happily married women with 2 kids and did I mention she also made it through medical school on her own and is now a doctor. The choice is yours but with a loving and caring support system as it seems u have with or without your current boyfriend anything is possible even if you keep your baby. About telling your boy friend about it is a definate. He will notice something is wrong when you start showing. It is his child to and should be given a chance to be in its life.
2006-09-26 21:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by montanagal2108 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. The world is not ending, though I'm sure you feel like it is. Go to your doctor and ask him/her for a referral to someone that you can talk to and be able to reach your own decision. Not telling the father...not a good plan. He needs to know...he was there when conception took place and has some responsibility for the situation. No ones life has to be ruined. Get the help you need. Good luck.
2006-09-26 21:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by KathieJo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you were having sex, and you had to know the possibilities; with or without a condom, you should definitly keep the baby and just not worry about what might happen with your boyfriend. If he was mad or something about it and didn't want to be with you anymore, he didn't love you anyway. He had as much to do with it as you. I don't mean to be all in your business, I'm just giving you my opinions but I don't go and marry him like some people do when they get pregnant. I mean, not unless ya'll really think about it and know that you're really in love and want to be together forever. Good luck
2006-09-26 21:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by melissaandjon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are going to tell you to have the baby, others will say abortion. This is one of those things you have to do on your own. Don't let anyone's opinion about this change yours. It's YOUR life. Do what YOU feel is right.
2006-09-26 21:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by sticksandstones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i contemplated aborting my baby once, didnt do it and it was the best decision ever. she is five and beautiful and my life has never been better since. if your family is supportive, even better. dont worry about what your life will be like, if God puts you through it He knows you can handle it. you learn to juggle school and work and being a mom. that is what most people are doing these days anyway.
2006-09-26 22:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF IT HAS ALREADY BEEN 4 MONTHS AND YOU AREN'T SURE. HAVE YOU TAKEN A TEST? ARE YOU HAVING SYMPTOMS. BY NOW YOU ARE BOUND TO HAVE SYMPTOMS. THE OPTION I WOULD TAKE IS TO HAVE THE BABY AND NOT HAVE AN ABORTION AND GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION. IT IS A VERY HARD THING TO DO TO GIVE UP YOUR BABY AFTER YOU HAVE IT, BUT JUST THINK YOU WILL MAKE A COUPLE THAT CAN'T HAVE CHILDREN VERY HAPPY WITH YOURS. YOU ARE ALREADY 4 MONTHS PREGNANT, BABIES HAVE FEELINGS THIS LATE IN A PREGNANCY. IF IT WOULD HAVE ONLY BEEN A MONTH OR SO HAVING AN ABORTION WOULDN'T BE SO BAD.
2006-09-26 21:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by It's MIRANDA!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first you need to take a test and see if you are or not. Then go from there. If you are then you need to tell your boyfriend and work it out. Do what you want and not what he may try and tell you what to do. Good luck!!!!
2006-09-26 21:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do you need to first talk to your boyfriend because you never know, he may be thrilled that he is going to be a father. then from what he feels make your choice but dont kill a baby that a father might want, it is his child to.
2006-09-26 21:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See your doctor and get a test first off...the longer you wait the fewer your options are.
Best of luck!
2006-09-26 21:30:24 · answer #11 · answered by Venus__27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋