what is your gut reaction when you look at a man with a scar on his face?

Question

i.e. would you trust him? would you think maybe he's been in an accident?or would your instinct tell you not to trust him?

Answer 1

I'd try not to let myself pay much attention to it because I'd think that's what he'd want me to do.

Of course, when something is hard not to notice you give it a moment of thought - and I'd probably assume it was from an accident.

When it comes to person's instinct about who to trust it involves a whole lot more "information processing" related to the way that person comes across than to just reach a conclusion because of a scar. When people met someone their brain starts soaking in a bunch of information about how that person is coming across, what he is saying, what kind of hair-do or jewelry he has or doesn't have, what is voice sounds like, the speed of his speech, the moves he's makes or doesn't make, etc. etc. I honestly don't think one scar - within the context of all that other stuff - would get much consideration at all.

Answer 2

If hes middle aged and older it makes hm rugged looking. Look
at Charles Bronson , he was a nice looking rugged man. I have
been attracted to some rugged looking men in my lifetime.
Theres usually a story to the scar.
If it was a younger man , I would think it probably was a accident.
I judge people by how they treat you and others. I do not prejudge
someone on looks which can be deceiving.
If there is something about the persons demeaner and I think that
they are trouble by how they sound and act then I stay away from
them. Tell you the truth I have had more trouble with some very
cleancut looking people who I wouldn't trust or put anything past
them.

Answer 3

My brother is one of the most decent, honorable and kind men you will meet. Unfortunately when he was about 20 years old he had a bad accident on a snowmobile; he drove through a barbed wire fence and needed more than 70 stitches to repair the gash on his face. It has been over 20 years since it happened and the scare has faded a great deal...... yet.... there are those who just look at him and make assumptions. They assume his is a "thug" and that he received his injury during a fight or doing something illegal.

When I see a man with a scar on his face, I make sure I smile, I make sure that I say "hello," because I know from first hand experience that most people turn and look the other way.

Answer 4

It is awful that we often judge people according to what they look like and not on merit and what they can do,

My initial gut instinct would be how did he get the scar?

After hearing his story I'd then make up my mind on whether I thought he was trustworthy.

I would also observe his body language in giving me his story and his reaction to current circumstances, general state of well being.

Are you aware that some women may find a man that is scarred in some way romantic?

You may need to look up the horrendous work of sociologist and psychologist 'Lombosso' an Italian whose work concentrated largely on the appearance of the individual and what he thought dictated your race, your personality your state of mental awareness, and honesty. You will find it damning and has been used as the means to persecute certain races over time.

At Uni many years ago we nicknamed this weirdo 'Longnosso".

Answer 5

I wouldn't think anything of it other than he had obviously been in a lot of pain once. Then again, it depends on the scar and the appearance of the man. If he looked like a thug with tattoos on his knuckles and many marks and scars, maybe a black eye or two, i might wonder if he was the troublesome type. But you can assume that someone with a lot of war wounds from fighting isn't all that good at it because they appear to be the one that comes of worst

Answer 6

I think it would depend on the size and where the scar was in the face. I think I would feel sorry for him. The scar would have nothing to do with trust.

Answer 7

I never judge a book by its colour, it could have happened when he was younger

I have a scar on my forehead. I was 3 years old, my brother tied some string to my foot and tied the other end to an out opening door. My mom opened the door and i was pulled into the fire surround

39 years later it still there

Answer 8

My immediate reaction would be not look at his scar, i don't want him to feel uncomfortable... Also i give everyone i meet a medium amount of trust until i get to know them properly then and only then can i trust them fully or not at all.
I treat people they way they treat me... It's a good way to go through life, it makes nasty people think twice about testing you and nice people appreciate you more :)

Answer 9

Dont jump to conclusions. My son had a birth mark removed from his face when he was eighteen months old and it has left him with a scar. He is now 22 and a very polite hard working young man.

Answer 10

I'd think "cool!". Whether or not I trusted him would depend on his attitude, the way he carries himself and what type of vibe he gives off. I wouldn't look at someone with a scar on their face and automatically assume he's a bad person if that's what you mean....