Okay I'm just wondering, I've known bisexual females, who said they had bad experiences with men, including being molested as a child. And I was wondering, do all or most lesbian and bisexual females come out from having bad or sour experiences with men. It seems that these women are more likely to hate men and male bash. And even if they are bisexual will have a tendency to go toward the female side and not enjoy the look of the male genitalia. So I don't mean any disrespect but do any of you lesbian or bisexual females feel like you were outed by having terrible or bad experiences with men?
2006-09-26 13:48:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I recently read statistics which suggested lesbians were more likely to have been sexually assaulted, etc., but this does not account for all of them. And given statistics of sexual assault, the dark joke is, if it were the cause, there would be no straight women left!
Personally, I had no bad experiences with men (unless you count disappointment). I officially "switched teams" in my late 20s.
2006-09-26 16:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by lucy_ritter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a story and then give what I think overall. As a kid, I was abused by a male and what I went through was hell. I will never forget that part of my life and the problems that I have regarding that are all sorta emotional (i.e TRUST) but NONE OF IT...I MEAN NONE OF IT HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH WHY I AM GAY. My dad asked me this question when I came out to him. I mean he cried and basically couldnt understand and wanted to kill the person that hurt me for "turning me gay." The TRUTH of the matter is that I am naturally attracted to women and have been since I was young. I love the sight of the woman's body and it does things to me emotionally and physically that a man could never do. I have tons of male friends but I would never look at them in a relationship type of way. Although things did happen to me, I DO NOT hate men and like indrepp said, if that were the only thing that "caused" a person to be gay then maybe theY need to reevualate things about themselves. I think that if you read an answer from a person who were abused then your question may be answered a little better although indrepp and redcat hit it on the nose as well. TAE
2006-09-27 02:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by cutesoftdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another day,another sterotype. I am a lesbian. Before I realized I was gay, all the guys I dated were wonderful. They treated me like a Queen (one even referred to me as his princess). They made a decent living, looked good, and did everything they could to please me. I am just not attracted to men the way straight women are, this is why I am gay. I do not hate men, I just do not date them. I have male friends and some of the people that I love dearly are men. It has nothing to do with bad relationships with men or being molested or raped, seeing as how none of those things have hapened to me. I'm guessing that you're straight seeing as how no sane lesbian or bi woman would ask this question.I think that women who start dating women ONLY because of bad relationships with men or otherwise really need to look further and find the real problem because I believe you shoud not start dating other women for no other reason than the simple fact that you are naturally attracted to them. So, if you are straight, did you start dating men because of your bad relationships with women?
By the way, straight women bash men all the time!!!
2006-09-26 22:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by indrep33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 50/50 bisexual, I've never been raped or molested, and most of my sexual experiance has been with men. But I am currently in love with a girl. But we watch quite a bit of straight and gay male porn because we both like dick.
Some bisexuals have preferance, some don't. I don't, it depends on the person.
My girlfriend was molested as a child, but she has only ever dated or slept with men besides me. She always thought that she was straight until she met me.
In all honesty, most gay women I know have never been raped or murdered, and I never have never heard a lesbian or bisexual woman "bash" men, just express apathy or irritation to them.
2006-09-26 22:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any more instance of male bashing or hatred among Lesbians and bisexual women than there is among heterosexual woman. I don't know what your world is like, but you and I both know that you get a group of straight women together for a girls night out or even a wedding shower and the talk about men and their inadequacies will take over a conversation. Some of the stuff that straight women do to men to humiliate them or just simply make their lives a living hell far exceeds anything I've ever heard about guys from the Lesbian and bi community. The point is, we don't talk about men, they aren't part of our world.
I can only speak for myself, my daughter and my girlfriend. None of us were sexually abused in childhood, and we all lived comfortable middle class lives. None of us hate men, I for one love men, I just don't expect too much out of them, and I'm never disappointed.
2006-09-26 22:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bi-sexual and I am that way because I am attracted to women not because of a bad relationship. The way I see it is that its just an excuse for some people. I had a friend who was molested as a child and hell it turned her on to men MORE!
2006-09-26 22:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by dixie_chick_16900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while I have met some lesbians (my partner included) who experienced some abuse in their youth, or had a bad experience with men at some time, that does not "cause" someone to be a lesbian. no one can change who they were born to be. some are in denial and suppress it and get married/have kids, etc. because that's what's "expected" of them...only to finally realize later who they really are and are unable to live the lie anymore.
I have simply never been attracted to men. no bad experience, no abuse, etc. and I do not hate men, either. just not attracted to them. I have lots of male friends.
2006-09-26 21:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm bisexual and... I have never had a bad experience with men, other than run-of-the-mill heartaches over breakups. I *do* enjoy the look of male genitalia... and female too. I am as attracted to women as I am to men. It wasn't any "experience" that made me bi, I was born that way.
2006-09-26 20:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
this lesbian has never been with a man, never had a bad experience with a man and was never attracted to men emotionally or physically. I do, however, have many male friends and enjoy the occasional porn of any mix
2006-09-27 00:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by chocolate sundae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had no bad experiences with men in the past. I had two bf's before I started dated women. I just feel more in my heart with a woman than with a man.
2006-09-26 21:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Amma's Child 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋