why is the divorce rate in america so high?

Answer 1

its due to today's "disposable" society

Answer 2

Before the divorce rate was high the general thing for a couple to do is get married right out of high school and move not to far from family. This allowed the wives to make a tight support group for each other offering help and having the ability to tell each other intimate feelings that are bottled up inside. The men also living next to family could get advice from the father. Now days this is not the case. Couples do not have the outside support they need so they need to get it from each other. This causes problems because you can't run to the person your mad at when your having a problem. I this contributes to the problem along with women in the work force allowing them to be able to leave and not be so dependent on a man. More expectations is put on the man than before it use to be go to work make the money, come home, dinner was made.

Answer 3

First of all, why is it that it's the hubby who's the a*hole, Mom 26? You married him, dincha? I believe that in today's world of high stress and ridiculously expensive costs, along with competition levels that are so high the marriage foundation is not so much love as it is a business partnership. Most divorces in America are due to money problems. Usually one partner no longer is maintaining the level of income or such to satisfy the other, causing too much tension, ergo fights, causing financial insecurity and a split. Funny, though, how these people expect to do better next time, huh.

Answer 4

There are several causes:

1. Incompatibility -- the difference in life goals, aspirations, views of the world -- all those cause conflict in the relationship, and it the background of the two parties is different enough, then the relationship will not work.

2. Spousal Abuse -- physical, mental, verbal, financial, emotional -- all kinds of abuse and violence in the relationship. IT is either GO and find safety by leaving (and keeping the abuser OUT of your life) or dying at their hands. Because if one stays in the relationship, they WILL eventually die.

3. Infidelity -- one or the other partner strays from the relationship, and that causes the partner who did not stray to NOT trust the one who had the affair. NO ONE should be forced to stay in any relationship where the other does NOT hold the value of Fidelity (Faithfulness).

4. Religious Tensions/Cultural Clashes. Again, if your backgrounds are too dissimilar -- then the chances of success are slim in any relationship.

5. Familial Conflict -- when your family does NOT support your marital partner (and in fact, goes out of their way to be hostile to them), then that also causes breakdowns in the relationship.

6. Child Abuse -- Abusers of spouses also take their aggression out on the children of the relationship. IF one does not leave for their own sake -- at least do it so that the Children can have LIFE and not die at the hands of the abuser.

7. Addictions. Any addiction (shopping, Alcohol, Substance Abuse, etc) will cause significant levels of conflict in a relationship, and lead to divorce.

8. One partner does NOT want to contribute to the relationship -- in any way. One can NOT hold a relationship together if only half of that relationship is working.

9. Culture of Males growing up and seeing NO dad (Deadbeats) around to give them good "Man" role models. With so MANY Deadbeat Dads in the world nowadays, how can a male child grow up to value any female, much less his mother or his children or his wife?

Answer 5

It comes down to a lack of communication. There can be a number of reasons, but I would have to say that the priorities of America has changed. Back 40+ years ago more families spent more time doing things together, but then too, we didn't have the technology of the computers, DVD's, VHS along with updated transportation, the communication and the luxuries of going a little ways down the road to the stores...etc. 60+ yrs ago they looked forward to going to church on Sundays as well. Back then 1 paycheck took care of a family and a large family at that. Back then they worked, played, went through hard times and shared the good times together as a family, they didn't have the distraction like we do today. In this day and age the "family" has lost it's meaning, and been replaced with "the Work field". Got to make money!!! People watching too much TV or on the computer too much, people are way too busy rushing around and no time for the family and by the time they do realize it....it's too late. No time for church, and no time for picnics, husband and wife working different hours and when they do have time together their watching TV, fixing something around the house, on the computer ... basically anything but communicating. Don't get me wrong...I'm thankful for our technology, I love TV, computers, watching movies, but when it comes before the family then I need to re-examine my priorities.

Answer 6

I believe it is due to the fact that we as Americans over time have become spoiled and impatient. It takes time prior to marriage to develop an understanding of a person you are committing to. Most of us suffer from attention deficit disorder when it comes to relationships.

We want to get in, get it on and move forward faster than we should. The end goal is marriage. Once in it, given time, reality slips in and cracks begin to show. Sooner or later it all falls apart.

Whether it is the latest gadget, the shinier boggle or bit, we must have it, and have it now. The same occurs with relationships. The drive for immediate gratification means that we will do almost anything to get what we want, even convincing ourselves that marriage is the right answer...... WRONG.

Answer 7

From what I've read recently it's leveling off.

Maybe people are taking their time before jumping into marriage and getting help from a professional when they hit a road-block.

Middle-Eastern countries are experiencing a high divorce rate as the women are feeling more liberated.

Answer 8

Man, it's getting hard to be a Christian in modern America. Now we are apparently responsible for the divorce rate in America!? The fact is, Christians receive pre-marital counseling designed to stress how important marriage is and how it is FOR LIFE! America used to be a predominantly Christian nation with a LOW divorce rate. Now, with Christianity all but completely eliminated from the public square divorce rates are sky high. Hmm?
Divorce rates are so high due to the "no fault" divorce laws passed in the 60's and the rampant selfishness of modern society. No one wants to believe that marriage has nothing to do with what you can get out of it. They enter into it thinking it will benefit them. When they see that a strong marriage requires self-sacrifice they bail out. Sadly, they will never know the comfort and satisfaction that a true marriage brings to each partner, their children, and society.

Answer 9

In marriage, it is about we, us, ours. Not me, myself, and mine.

I do think marriage has been watered down. We recognize common law marriages and civil unions that give many of the same legal protections as marriage. And given the acceptance of unmarried couples living together and having kids out of wedlock, what's the incentive to getting married? And it is not hard to get out of a marriage. There is no penalty for voiding such a sacred contract as marriage. None. Other than your credit rating, perhaps.

Back to divorce. We're such an individualistic society. Every one out for themselves. Get out while you're ahead. Don't let anything drag you down. The grass is always greener on the other side. My point is that personal interests often trump the interests of the family.

People just seem to believe that marriage is easy to deal with and that troubles will not occur because they love each other. Love is much more than hugging/kissing/screwing. It is about mutual respect, honor, care, sincerity, accepting and supporting one another unconditionally. In today's society, we are not brought up to love anybody, not even ourselves. It really takes understanding from within to love yourself before you go out claiming to love others. But people in America don't think anymore. They rather have someone else (media, church, entertainment, government, etc.) do it for them.

Until people think with their brains (not the other body parts), discover who they are and what they want in life, and spend time knowing their partner, America is going to become a loveless/selfish/decadent society when it comes to marriage and family. Which only hurts themselves and the children they bring into this world.

Answer 10

What has christianity has to do with divorce rates?! Nothing to link those 2 at all. Please don't mix religion together without knowing what's going on.

The thing is people tend to get married when they do not know how a married life should be like. Marriage is about love and compromise, it is about care and concern for not only yourself but your partner.

My advice is: get to really know how the other person is like before commiting yourself.

Answer 11

I think it's so high because people are spoiled and self center.They want everything their way or no way. No one wants to work on their marriages. My parents were married for 51 years. I will be married 25 years this January. It's not easy,but if you do love someone(the one you are married to),it's worth it. Every time I get mad,I try to remember how much I love my spouts.