i know most of you will say that i shouldent but i tired of keeping this secret from my parents
2006-09-26 13:28:25 · 11 answers · asked by allen=[\m/] 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i know i missed an ''o'' srry
2006-09-26 13:30:04 · update #1
I guess it depends on how old you are, how homophobic your parents are, if they already suspect you are gay, if you have other homophobic realitives, and a series of other circumstances that only you can weight out.
Just know that is going to be hard. You should probaly prepare for the worst, just in case.
They definately won't accept it right away. I came out about 4 years ago and my father still won't talk about it. I can't watch a movie with a gay character without him screaming about the spirits it brings into the house.My mother takes the "I don't understand it but I still love you, and I wish you happiness" position. But she kindof supports me in secret so my dad won't ruin it.
How ever you do it be careful and give them time.
God Bless and Good Luck!
2006-09-26 13:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by teenyb04 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If and when you are old enough you can certainly do it when you move out.
If you REALLY feel the need to come out before then, well then do it. Your parents may be homophobic but they still love you and will not stop loving you even if they know you are gay. And one more thing...
I would be willing to make a wager that they know or suspect already. My experience is that parents who suspect their kids are gay will often express homophobia out of their own fear. Force them to deal with it and they will realize they are wrong.
PS: Feel free to message me or email me. I am always willing to chat with anyone.
2006-09-26 21:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter and be honest serious about it. Go stay at a friends house for the night to let them soak it all in. Then talk about it the next day. It might be better than springing it on them and getting a crazy reaction. At least they will have time to think about it and think of calm words to say.
2006-09-26 20:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to wait until you're confident and able to back it up. I mean, many parents will try to tell you it's only a phase or whatever... you're gonna have to let them know the truth. My personal recommendation is that you wait until you're old enough to be financially independent and out from under their roof otherwise it can be awkward and they can always threaten to kick you out... Just be careful, take it slow, and you know best when you should tell them and how (or you can tell someone you trust who knows your parents and gauge their reaction)...
2006-09-26 20:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by laydlo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to say it, you will feel better with them knowing, and if they don't want anything to do with you afterwards, well then that is their loss and they aren't very good parents in the first place. They are suppose to love and support you no matter what. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 20:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Someone I know told his parents after he went off to college by sending them a letter. You could try something like that if you'd rather not tell them up front.
2006-09-26 20:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At the very least, wait until after you're out of the house and making it on your own. Other than that, I can't help you.
2006-09-26 23:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by lucy_ritter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look do what i did eventually they get the picture invite ur man over sn have him sleep eat and sh*t there let ur parents get to know him better eventually ur mom will figure it out if she is anything like my mom, my dad knew never dare asked me don't know why but now he past away and he didn't know the real me well like i said it never came out of his lips. my moms know but she stills go like ewww to gay but she dosent say anything about it to me,i.e get a man or find urself a boy friend or stupid sh*t she always aske how long have me and my girl been tog but she is cool
2006-09-27 13:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand the pressure to out yourself, but if you feel that way, go for it. IF you are young and dependent upon them for food, shelter, etc., I strongly suggest you hold it back until you are on your own, or you may be on your own sooner than you expected. good luck
2006-09-26 21:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
there's no easy way...good luck.
2006-09-26 21:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋