I moved to a new state from my own this is where my in laws live. My inlaws are crappy. They have never in the 4 years that i have lived here once kept my children, called to come to get them to take anywhere, they are not like my parents who want to drive 3 hours to see my children, and they buy them things all the time, my inlaws do not purchase anything except on Christmas or Birthdays. My mother in law will not even come to our house and she tells my sister in law that she just wishes she would have a baby so she could be a grandmother. She has my children, who are her sons who I am married to. She and my hubby have never had a good relationship, but she is taking it out on my children, they don't even really know my inlaws, and to make it worse, they live only 3 blocks away from our house. They don't seem to like their own son and they have started to have family get togethers with out us. What shoud I do? I feel horrible that my children don't get love from these people.
2006-09-26 13:19:29 · 19 answers · asked by Premo Mom 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you can not force the issue... why would you want people to take your children..when they do not really like the kids dad. you and your family will survive without these folks.. just enjoy your family and your parents. the children are not going to miss relationships they never had...
2006-09-26 13:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them a letter and tell them how u feel and if they don't reply pack up and go back to the state where your family is who care. Surround your children with people who love and care about them. If they are treating u like this they are not worth it expecially when you have people who really care. In the long run you will be so much happier and not spend time worrying about the awful inlaws, believe me from experience u will never make them happy and this will only make you unhappy. Is it worth it ?
2006-09-26 13:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by blondeclan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make people like you, even relatives. Don't waste your time. Enjoy your children. If the statement is accurate about the sister having children so she could have grandchildren is accurate, she doesn't even accept that your children are related. Let her have her wish.
Don't say mean things to your children about them but when they ask questions, tell them they'll just have to ask.
Truly, these are your husband's parents and he should be the point man on this, not you.
You're dealing with mean spirited people who don't deserve your time or the thrill of seeing your children.
2006-09-26 13:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too answer a questions with a question but, why did you move 3 blocks from your in-laws that you both seem to have no relationship with to begin with? It is a shame that your kids can't enjoy both grandparents, my answer is to "respectfully" confront them on their neglect as a grandparent(s) and go from there. If they give you some crappy BS answer, then you are better off without them, enjoy your children without the turmoil of the "in-laws" bringin' ya down. Good Luck
2006-09-26 13:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Steve L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and talk to your man about it. See if theres any way for you guys to move or something. Sounds drastic but you know Im just speaking from expierience. My inlaws had a lot to do with me and my ex splitting up. They just interfiered in our lives too much. It was horrible. I was always being judged by them. Try and get away from them if you can
2006-09-26 13:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Esme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children should be getting their love from their parents: YOU and your husband. If your in-laws aren't involved in your children's lives, there is nothing you can do about that. But you can change your attitude regarding the situation. Let it go....be happy.....love your children....show them that you are a loving and responsible parent. Don't show them what appears to be bitterness and immaturity coming from you.
That is the best you can do.
2006-09-26 13:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In laws are that way sometimes. I would be extra nice to them. Don't dare do what they do to you. That would be something good you could show ur kids. I guess I would never live that close to my in laws. I could barely, handle it before when I lived in the same state. Just be extra nice to them. Maybe it will rub off. Whatever you do don't let the in laws get in between ur husband & ur realtionship...
2006-09-26 13:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. They don't like your son. They don't like you. Your kids have a great family and great grandparents...your parents. They'll just have to learn that the other grandparents and your family are not close. Don't feel bad. Some kids grow up not knowing any of their grandparents.
2006-09-26 13:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats messed up though. well' just pray everynight that one day your in-laws will show your kids some love you'll see just be patience. or you could tell your husband to sit down and tell you why his mother doesn't get along with him. she is wrong she don't have to take it out on her grandkids she is going to suffer in the long run.
2006-09-26 13:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mz. New Orleans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother in law that her behavior hurts her grandchildren. She may dive off into the deep end, but is sounds like there is not alot of relationship there now anyway, so at least she'll dive knowing how you feel. Perhaps your husband needs to take the first step in repairing his relationship with his mom. She may not feel welcome becuase of guilt involved with her relationship with her son.
2006-09-26 13:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by sm2f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋