have any of you ever wanted to just quit life?

Question

I dont have anything going for me in the first time in my life.
what I do have is not going good

1. I have a fiance who is sick and we are stuck in a rut. We dont have the exciting life we had when we first met. In fact I am convinced that he is not inlove with me anymore
2. I have no relationship with any of my family and i have few friends left
3. I hate my job so much I cant even do it anymore.
4. I lost my unborn child in March. I cant get over this

I dont have anything left to live for. I just want to disappear and have no one find me and just start a new life. I am unhappy. I want to kill myself and put myself out of misery

thank you everyone for all the kind words.
I think sometimes when you dont have a mom or dad you need SOMEONE just SOMEONE to tell you that it is going to be O.K. not that everything is WONDERFUL and great but just that things will work out and be fine. thank ;you I do feel better after reading your messages and I am going to pray to God tonight and I am going to make him my friend again..I have neglected him in my life for too long. thank you all so much for making a difference in my life and letting me know it will be ok

Answer 1

Dear sad, I have been there before and it sucked for me too. i was depressed all the tiem and thought i had nothing to live for but the diffrence from me then you is i have three kids and i tried to kill my self 7 tiems i thought life would be better with out me . Iam sorry everythign seems to be falling apart for you right now but just keep on going i am sure there are people out there that love you and want the best for you, and hey if you want iam here for you just to tlak that helps alot to vent. keep your chin up

Answer 2

You say this is the first time in your life you don't have anything good going for you. So, you know that things CAN go good for you. It seems to me that you need to take some time away from dwelling on your current problems, even if only for a couple of hours, and think about what you want out of life rather than what you are getting.

Once you have decided what you want, go get it. I know that seems simplistic. But, even if you believe that you can't have the life you want. making the moves toward it will present countless opportunities that you never considered.

As far as killing yourself, remember that it is a permanent solution to (even though it may not seem like it) a temporary problem. It can't be undone. You can't change your mind.

My father killed himself believing there was nothing more of value to come. Every day I see how wrong he was. Every day I see how he cheated himself.

Just think back to the last day you were REALLY happy. Then realize that day never would have come if you had made the decision to end it all the day before. Days like that are still out there. You just have to muster the strength to reach them.

Good luck!

Answer 3

1. If the relationship doesn't seem to be working out, talk to your fiance about it and if necessary end the relationship and find someone else.
2. I assume you're depressed. People have a hard time being around someone who's depressed. In a way, it's a good test to see who your real friends are. I would suggest going out and making new friends, I'm sure you'll find someone you can rely on.
3. Quit the job and find a more fulfilling one. There is no perfect job, but it shouldn't be difficult to find one you can tolerate and perhaps even be satisfied with. If your engagement doesn't work out, you could probably move to another city.
4. This one I have no answer for, except to express my sympathy.

Life for yourself. Exercise, develop hobbies, hang out with (new) friends, volunteer, there are lots of things you can do. And yes, I used to think about quitting, so I can understand to some extent how you're feeling.

Answer 4

Life can be hard. We've all been through tough times. Remember you are never alone. Everybody has a hole in their heart that can only be filled by Jesus Christ. What you need right now more than anything, is to PRAY! Talk to God. Tell him that you know you need him. Ask for Jesus to come into your heart, and be your personal Lord and savior. Admit that you've made some mistakes, we all have, and ask forgiveness for them. Read the Bible, and get to know God. Get closer to him than you've ever been to anybody. Make him your best friend. Then we will be able to help you and work things out in your life. Find a good Bible based, Holy Ghost filled church, and attend regularly. God is a GOOD God, yes he has to allow things on Earth because we allow them, but if you seek him 1st he will help you with everything you need! You don't have to be sad. The joy of the Lord can be your strength!

Answer 5

Ah, poor you. You forgot how to look on the bright side of things:
1. You have someone with who you COULD work things out, and with whom I'm sure you have lots of great memories. Not all of us have that.
2. You still have some friends.
3. But you have been doing it. At least you have a job, you earn a living, you are making money. You're not homeless, and you're not totally unqualified to work.
4. Your wife is able to conceive, and you can make other children. Not everyone is so lucky.
So you see, there are always things to live for. But if you refuse to let yourself see them, well... do as you wish.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you are feeling bad today. It's ok. Yes, I have wanted to quit life. Many times. Most of what you listed, you can change. I'm sorry about the loss of your child. I do believe losing a child is the toughest of all. My son died at the age of 22, 2 yrs. ago. He was in a car accident @ 16 & laid in a bed for 6 yrs. severely brain damaged. It was devastating - but, I know he is in heaven now with God, who he loved & I still have 2 more children to raise, a wonderful husband. My middle son, who is now 14, is an incredible challenge - some days I want to quit "him," but I won't. We can't give up - I find my hope in Jesus - He didn't give up on us, in fact, He died for us so we could have a chance at eternal life. I will be there & when the time comes - I hope you will be there too!

Answer 7

Sad, do you think you can clear your head of your exhaustion, stress, and sorrow for maybe 10 minutes?
Get out of the house,
like 45 minutes before you usually leave for work,
go sit somewhere usually quiet. Get out of your car, close eyes, and be still.
don't think about what isn't good now.
think about what can be good tomorrow.
You write that you've narrowed your future down to 2 scenarios, so which do you have the "huevos" to go for?
Are you in love w/ him? Marriage only makes the inevitable separation (based on your description of how it is now) way more complicated.
Can you simplify life, eliminate what isn't, and try what is?
(sorry for esoteric question)
And it doesn't have to happen all at once, do baby steps daily, tip toeing towards what is.

Answer 8

You need to go to your local Women's Center and talk to someone. They can even help you with living arrangements and also seek a job that is a little more to your liking. You can't ever get over losing a child (born or unborn). Have a little faith in yourself and learn to live with the loss. Time heals all wounds.

Answer 9

I had someone who I loved kill themself............all I can say is if you think you have it so bad, & you are worth nothing, then try to think of who has to find you dead and bury you.........someone will have to.........they will hurt for the rest of their lives. You have so many more years ahead. You NEVER EVER know what's around the corner...good or bad.

Answer 10

YOU STOP RIGHT NOW , THERES NOTHING MORE THAT YOU NEED TO SAY. ALOOW ME TO SAY THIS TO YOU OK. LOVE YOURSELF BABY. IF OTHERS DONT WANT TO BE BOTHERED THAT LET THEM BE. ITS ALL ABOUT YOU AND TAKING YOUR LIFE IS NOT THE ANSWER ! THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH MOVING ON , AND FRIENDS, MY LOVE THERES NO SUCH THING OF A REAL FRIEND AND TRUST AND BELEAVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THIS OK. GO OUT , MEET NEW PEOPLE , ENJOY YOUSELF AND LIVE BABY .