2006-09-26 12:29:50 · 17 answers · asked by kirin575 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Its not wrong. If the person you see in the mirror is pretty according to your tastes you can't pretend to yourself to think otherwise.
What's wrong is thinking that being pretty counts for more in this life than it really does, thinking you're the only one in the world who is pretty, or spending too much time thinking about it at all. While it may not be wrong, letting others know how pretty you think you are probably won't win you any personality points.
If a person likes what he or she sees in the mirror he/she should consider him/herself fortunate because many people don't like what they see in the mirror even if they're beautiful. Many people don't see how beautiful or pretty or handsome they really are. So the person who likes what he/she sees in the mirror chould be happy about that while washing his/her face or combing hair - but the rest of the time should forget about it and think about more important things.
The animated movie, "Oliver" (with Oliver as a cat and all the dogs he hung around with), had a song sung by a little diva-dog with this line, "You pretty pups all over the city, pretty is nice but its only pretty. Perfect is me." I'm not advocating the attitude of this little fictional diva-dog, and the point of the song was that she thought she was perfect; so I'm not even referring to the meaning of the song - just that line by itself.
The truth is pretty is nice, but its only pretty. If you hope to at all aim to anything near being perfect you have to work on what's inside.
So, no - its not wrong for a person to like what he/she sees in the mirror. Its just wrong to think its more important than it really is.
Finally, people have different tastes. It may be mistaken to believe that everyone else finds that image in the mirror as pretty as the person, him/herself does. Remembering that can help keep a person grounded. I had a friend once who said she didn't worry about how pretty she was or wasn't because there would always be someone prettier and always be someone not as pretty. She did the same thing when considering how intelligent or wealthy or moral she was. I liked her approach.
2006-09-26 12:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Maybe she is pretty. The why shouldn't she be aware of it and be glad about it? On the other hand, it would be foolish for her to let people know she thins so - in fact it could be a social disaster. But she shouldn't use false modesty either. Just accept a compliment. If someone should say she was pretty, just smile and say 'thank you'.
The beauty that will last longer and impress epeople more will be the beauty of character. That means no conceit, no snobbery, accepting people the way you would want to be accepted, caring about others, being honest, etc...
2006-09-26 19:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most ppl in our society don't know the diff between healthy self love and conceit. Learn about the difference and put it into practice. There is nothing wrong with anyone thinking they are attracitve/pretty/good looking if they do it in a healthy way. This is not something I can explain here. You'll have to put some effort and time into this. Good luck.
2006-09-26 19:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong in realising one is not ugly, but a hole into which one does not want to fall if one becomes attached to ones appearance. It is less of a gift [unless ones Fate Karma is to be an actress] than most would think. It causes others to "look" at one and to expect from one that which is not expected of others.
It is very difficult not to use ones looks as a tool to get what one wants, thus perhaps not cultivating the skills and abilities one needs to compete when ones looks begin to leave. But to acknowledge the obvious is not wrong.
Peace
2006-09-26 19:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean, is it wrong to consider yourself pretty?
No, what's wrong about that. If you can look at yourself in the mirror and be happy with what you see, it certainly makes life a lot easier to handle.
2006-09-26 19:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is wrong or bad for someone to think that he/ she is pretty. The problem is when you think you are ugly,( lack of self-confidence). Though, it's quite different to be obsessed with that!
2006-09-26 19:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to think of yourself as pretty. It IS wrong, however, to flaunt it, constantly tell others and appear vain, or think of yourself as better than others.
2006-09-26 19:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with that if the reason is just because you think you are and that you feel good about it. what makes it wrong is to hurt other people by critisizing how ugly they are when you think you are the prettiest.
2006-09-26 20:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Markin Gomez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong, but my opinion is:
Conceited = wrong
Confident = great
It is all in how you carry yourself, the attitude you have, and how you treat other people.
2006-09-26 20:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ways...not untill you know the limits to self love and not make it into self consuming addiction.
I keep telling my husband that he has a beautiful wifey...hahahaha...and he most definitely always looks up and says "God help me"....I love doing that to him...hahaha...Have a good day!
2006-09-27 02:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by The Sorceress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋