I have known this married woman for at least 3 years. Few days I touched her hand and then I told her that I really like being friendly with you. Then one day gave her a kiss on her cheek and just touched her on her shoulder and kissed her. She liked it at that time. Then next day she told me not to her touch her anymore as she gets nervous. Every weekend I see her in class and talk to her then I told her to call me during the weekday and she said she will. She never called me yet. It has been a month now but still we meet on the weekend and gives me the biggest smile whenever she sees me. The previous weekend she told me that she is no more nervous anymore. Last week I called her and told that I need to talk to her in front of her husband. She was curious and since her husband was there I did not say anything but left. What signals is she giving me? Does she want me to call her first? Does she ever think about the feelings when I first touched her? What's going on her mind?
2006-09-26 12:05:34 · 16 answers · asked by Shah_Ru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's married. That's what's going through her mind. She's obviously not the cheating kind or she wouldn't have had a problem with you touching her or giving her a kiss on the cheek. It's possible that she really DOES like you a lot, but would be much more comfortable being your friend without the pressure of a secret romance.
This part is just my own opinion, but if it were me in that situation, I would feel that our friendship was very important to me...and that my male friend must know that. I wouldn't want to give up that friendship...BUT... he know's I'm married, and if he really cares about me and our friendship, it's unfair of him to push things toward a romantic direction, which could potentially make me have to choose between my husband and my friend. It would make my time with him very uncomfortable...and I'd be on edge, hoping he would behave as my friend...but worried that he would take advantage of my feelings and turn our time together into something 'wrong' and dirty.
Your best bet is to be strictly her friend. If she's having trouble in her marriage, that's between her and her husband, but I'm here to tell you...if YOU are that problem in their marriage, even if she were to divorce him and be with you...she would look back and resent the fact that her divorce hinged on you. If you're here friend, BE her friend and don't push her into a situation of infidelity. If you haven't had an intimate relationship with her up to now...DON'T!!! If you care about her...let her keep her dignity and don't try to turn her into a cheater for your own needs.
2006-09-26 12:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What in the world are you doing flirting with a married woman? You need to look for an unmarried woman and leave this one alone. If her husband find out you want to be romantic with his wife, that is going to get you into a whole lot of trouble. Do the right thing and find someone else.
2006-09-26 19:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she is a married women and men and women have affairs for different reasons. men's reasons are usually more physical and womens are usually on more of an emotional level. not that either one is more justifible than the other but....most people in affairs, want their cake and want to eat it to. you must be giving her some kind of attention that she's not getting from her husband. but let me tell you this....it sounds like you are wanting to tell her husband so that he will leave her. if that happens she probably won't want you either. she'll be upset that you told her husband.
right now you have to understand that the "thrill" of getting caught is what keeps most affairs going. you may have sincere feelings for her, but she's playing you. sorry to be so blunt about it but you have to call a spade, a spade!
if she really wanted to have something with you, she would get a divorce and if she has never brought up the topic of divorce...she probably never will.
you must keep telling yourself that a person will treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. why are you willing to settle for a married women? you deserve to be with a woman that is going to appreciate and return your love. think about yourself...you're worth more that sneaking around with a married woman.
2006-09-26 19:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by DaBeautiful1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have no business messing with a married woman!!! You never should have even touched her in the first place!!! What's wrong with you people that you think it's okay to mess around with someone else's marriage? I don't get it!! If she is so unhappy then she can let you know. But even then, it has to be totally up to her to stay in her marriage. And you have absolutely no business doing anything with her until she is divorced. Leave her and her family alone!!!!
You are a homewrecker and you need to BACK OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-26 19:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would stay away from her if i were you. sounds like to me she's playing you, plus if you try something and she doesn't want you to then you might have to answer to her husband. you don't want or need this drama. find a single girl and go with that. she's not going to be with you for very long. she'll use you and then go back to her husband. i know i've seen it happen to friends of mine. plus i've tried to be with a married man and he ended up back with his wife. it's just a no win situation. don't get caught up in it.
2006-09-26 19:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by summer b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted you she would leave her husband and at least call you she is doing the right thing she is married hello.
2006-09-26 19:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by honeygirland 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some females are fickled and they do not know what they want, however depending on where you live her actions can get you killed. Stay away from married females
2006-09-26 19:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do people have to go around messin up everyones marriage? If the person that is married isn't happy with their spouse then why don't they get a divorce then f*ck around?
2006-09-26 19:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She's amused, and touched, but needs security and has feelings for her man.
Please go and find an un-attached woman to obsess about.
2006-09-26 19:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Leave the woman alone. She is marry for God sake. Why don't you find yourself someone who isn't attached? Don't be a homewrecker. Leave her alone and stay out of her way.
2006-09-26 19:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by M & M 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋