Well even though both of us are postive it will be awhile before anything sexual happens betweens us, we still discuss it. And I'm really wondering, since my best friend said it hurt like hell her first time. So I'm wondering just what kind of p[ain to expect, My bf has promised that he will not hurt me, caue I asked him, i said will it hurt the first time, he says hhoenestly yes, it willl baby, and he also promised that he would take it as slow as possible, but I'm still wondering if it is a bad pain, or a sharp or what. im so confused, but i reallly want to know!!
2006-09-26 12:03:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First of all, it is WONDERFUL you are going to wait and that you guys talk about it, thats what made my first time so much better.
Secondly, it hurts, yes, more of a sharp pain.. I mean he is 'tearing' you... don't get me wrong it isnt unbearable, but it does hurt... and it will hurt the first few times you have sex until your body gets used to it... I don't even know what to compare the pain to? Stubbing your toe? It hurts for a while then it gets better...? Hope that helps~!
2006-09-26 12:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why yes! It hurts unlike anything i've ever experienced in my entire life. And yes, I did cry for hours after my first experience. The truth is, i didn't cry because i was emotional, but because a foreign object ripped through a slab of skin that has been attatched to me since the day of birth. It's not that easily detatched, my friend. It's kind of like that game people play at the fair. You hit the thing with a hammer until the bell is finally rung. It takes a few thrusts before the skin is completely burst into a cascade of blood. My tip to you, lay on plenty of towels, so your bed doesn't look like murder scene. Once the father of your child is out of the picture, the only answer is total and complete celibacy. Otherwise, heaven forgive yah. Good Luck.
2006-09-26 19:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure its different for everyone as individuals have a different threshold for pain, meaning what really hurts me, might not bother you at all.
So I can tell you from my experience, it was uncomfortable. I guess a sharp pain describes it best. It's not like you can't walk afterward, but its not all fireworks like on TV. I also think the amount of pain you feel depends on your partner. And make sure you are ready emotionally. If you aren't ready emotionally, you might be tense or stressed out, which could cause you more pain.
Don't listen to other people or let them ruin your experience before you get a chance to even do it. I'm sure that if you wait, and do it with the right person, it won't be as bad as others tell you it is. Because your man will make sure he isn't rough with you or forceful.
2006-09-26 19:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by becka06096 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt say how old you are. If your in school, dont do anything. But if your an adult and still a virgin GOOD JOB.
But yes it will hurt, and nothing your boyfriend does or doesnt do will make it hurt any less. the reason it will hurt if because of a very fine barior that will be broken during the first time he puts his penis ALL THE WAY in you. It will only hurt for the first time and there will be a small amout of blood.
But my advise is to wait untill your married or at least engaged to be married before you do anything.. Once you loose your virginity, ITS GONE FOR GOOD. You cant buy, beg or steal it back. Its gone!!!! There aint a thing he can promise you to get it back. If he dont stop asking you about it, dump him. He's only out for the sex and there are lots of tramps who will give it to him.
2006-09-26 19:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by mcdermond3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very different for different women, but most women just feel a little bit of discomfort, not any sharp pains. Just make sure that you're both sure about it. Sex for women is very mental - so ask your boyfriend to set a romantic mood and lots of foreplay, kissing, touching, etc. Also, it helps if he goes slow and if you get some lubricant. If you feel dry, it will hurt a bit so if you're not sure if you're aroused enough, use a little bit of lube. Also, you can try going on top - that way you can control how deep and fast it does. Good luck!
2006-09-26 19:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain of sex is really hard to descibe and it depends on several things (such as how long you have been using tampons and if you and your boy are into 'heavy petting'). Taking it slow does help and not going very deep the first time will also make it less painfull. But as for me, believe it or not, I like it when it hurts!
2006-09-26 19:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by aier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey Hun, its fine, obviously don't have sex until your ready, but yea it hurts a little first time but not much and after that it doesn't hurt it gets better and will be very pleasurable, but after you have done it a few times if it hurts a lot then you should go to the Dr. BC it could mean there is a problem but after the first time it gets easier and better,but when you are ready you should definitely go for it.
Good Luck!!!!
Hope it goes well!!!!!
2006-09-26 19:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by princess241092 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it does hurt, but it's different with certain people.
It has a lot to do with how little you are and if he is big or not. When I first had sex, he tore that tissue (i forgot what it's called) and I was bleeding everywhere. It was pretty gross but with some girls, they don't tear until their 3rd, 4th, 5th, even 10th time they have sex.
If you think you're ready to have sex and loose your virginity, use protection!! and get on birth control because once you pop.....you can't stop!! lol
2006-09-26 19:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Candice 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it depends on how small are you and how big he is, but it does hurt no matter how slow he takes it it hurts becuase you are getting popped!!! and it will hurt until probably the 5th or 6th time, but is nothing that you cant handle.
2006-09-26 19:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it so much. If you work yourself up it will be worse. The size of the pain is different for everyone.....just make sure he takes it slow and easy with you. You will be fine!!
2006-09-26 19:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by scs005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋