OK so i have been going out with the same guy for about 3.5 years today. And we have done alot of things.But we have never had sex. He realy wants to have it. But i tell him iam not ready to become a parent yet. I am only 16. So i think its too young. But ne ways he says ok. But every time we are alone he will pull out his penis and tell me to suck it and do all of this stuff to him and i do some of the things he tells me to do. So then the last time we were alone we did losts of things we were both naked pretty much i had my bra half way on and he had a condom on so if he were to ***, which he did, it would not get in me. He was rubbing ot all over my body and we did anal, which i did not even want to do but he just did it fast and then he sad lets have sex and i said NO iam not ready so he said ok then he did stuff to me and we were really horny and so he said watch this and i was on the bed and he touched his pines to me he kinda went of me not all the way. So iam did i have sex?
2006-09-26 11:31:05 · 20 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
yes. If you don't want to have sex, do NOT get undressed. That is sex girl. ALL of it is sex. Tell him NO means NO!!!!!!! If you are letting him do it, it is concentual. If he is guilting you it is RAPE. Respect yourself and get a new boyfriend who respects you. In the meantime if he keeps it up, report him. Sounds to me like you are not too sure around him and he has a lot of power over you. that is NOT ok.
2006-09-26 11:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stupid, stupid little girl. I hate what you are doing to your own life with such ignorance. Your hormonal boy friend was inching you toward sex. He kept at it seeing how easy it was to walk you toward having sex. Now he is not inching you; he is flying you toward his goal. That boy friend is not for you in the least. He is exploiting you. Choices are before you. Choices are your responsibility. No one else can make the choice for you. All choices have consequences. The consequences are either good or bad, thus the choices are either good or bad. Make good choices and the consequences are good. My heart goes out to you because the odds are you will make some very bad choices. You are way too young for what you are doing. Do you want to be a parent at 16? Do you want herpes at 16? Do you want to know heart break at 16? Get rid of the guy; study hard; get a degree and a decent job. Know where you are heading. Then with a better head on those shoulders, you can make much better choices about your relationships.
2006-09-26 11:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think that if he penatrated you anally then you had sex. Oral sex is sex, just not pentration. I believe that you may still be considered a "virgin" in the sense that your hymen has probably not be broken, but if you have done all that you said then yes....you have had sex. I think that if your "boyfriend" is pressuring you to do things that you really don't want to do then you might want to rethink your relationship. In my opinion, 16 is young to be having sex, but I know its done all the time....just be careful because you really don't want to be a mom yet; it hard enough just being a teenager let alone adding a baby in the mix.
Be careful and if you can I would talk to your mom about this. If you can't then you might want to talk to a doctor about this he/she should be able to give you a little bit more insight.
Good luck
2006-09-26 11:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by vlb867 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...This Guy Sounds Like a Complete As*hole,,And I am sorry ,,But you do not sound very bright....He Does Not respect you at all..And you have already gotten yourself in a bad pattern of being treated with Disrespect and then Later being Abused...Any guy that has any class at all .Does Not pull out his stuff and tell his girl to suck it...That is very disrespectful..Further more he knows he can walk all over you....And treat you like Shi*,Didn't it hurt you in your butt..??any way this is your answer,, if he went into your vagina. You would know it It would have been very,,very painful...and you would Bleed ...If you Honestly wanted to save yourself,,or are not ready...Then Why would you play around WITH DANGER...This is how guys get mixed messages and also how women get Raped..Also this is why a lot of men Don't Respect women...and USE them...
2006-09-26 11:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by .Emerald. .Eyes. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've had oral sex, and anal sex, and straight out sex. If you don't want to get pregnant or stds, make sure that you use a condom during all of these activities.
2006-09-26 12:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Seraphim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-09-26 11:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, and he is pushing you too far. He sounds like a control freak to me. You can still catch disease from all of this so I hope to God you are using a condom, because you can get pregnant from the last thing he did if he even leaks a LITTLE bit.......
2006-09-26 11:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well so far you've had oral sex, anal sex, and it sounds like vaginal sex. I'm guessing the word "of" is supposed to be "in".......hunny it sounds like this guy hasn't heard a word you said and might not be worth it. It sounds like you are to young and not ready. Give it time, your not missing anything, but you might regret a lot when your older.
2006-09-26 11:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes hun, that's considered sex. Be careful, good thing he was wearing protection, thats very smart on both or your behalfs. Take the neciasary precautions next time too.
You might want to think about putting yourself on birth control too!
2006-09-26 11:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by graphixgirlin06 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes any sexual act is considered having sex and let it be ananl or vaginal it is sex.. so either tell him to stop or get on birth control.. because if its went this far then its gonna go further and further each and everytime you two are alone..
2006-09-26 11:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by foxy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋