a little over a year ago 3 guys from my church got in a horrible car accident. the driver is fine, the front seat passanger was pinned and is know a quadraplegic and the back seat passanger was thrown out and is know a parapalegic. the two passangers are still attending my church and i still dont understand why this would happen. the driver was like one of my bff and he quit comming to church a few months ago and i no longer see him and when i do he doesnt talk to me. what do i do? how can i handle the pain of seeing to really good friends in wheelchairs and then the other one not even talking to me? Sorry this is so long
2006-09-26 11:28:17 · 10 answers · asked by Sen10r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also is it wrong if me and one of the guys joke around all the time and make jokes and stuff....... people tell me it is but i dont want to treat him differnetly....... its been a year
2006-09-26 11:32:28 · update #1
the one not hurt talked to me after the wreck but lately past 2 months he hasnt
2006-09-26 11:33:46 · update #2
you just gotta pray for them.
2006-09-26 11:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should send your friend a letter letting him know how much you miss him and how much it hurts not to see him. I say a letter because for me, writing is better and helps me express what I feel better. You can definately call him and tell him or stop by his house. But either way, tell him how you feel.
The pain of seeing your friend in wheelchairs may never go away and I don't think it's something anyone can get over. You'll always remember them before the accident and wish they were the same. I say just accept how things are now. It's completely out of your control and will drive you crazy if you try to analyze it too much because it is OUT OF YOUR CONTROL.
2006-09-26 18:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A horrible thing happened which caused everyone allot of grief. I'm sure your friends' heart breaks to see the injured parties and wonder why not him. Hes having allot of guilt. Seeing the others is just too over whelming. Call your friend. I bet he needs one. Some people are very sensitive and will try to hurt their own self because they've ruined someone Else's lives. God didn't put them in the chair. But I bet hes what kept them alive. Your friend might need you to call and tell him and remind him of this. It is a lot of guilt he carries. This is his punishment for himself. He feels a life of discontentment is for him. Some times people recover and will walk again. It takes time for the human body to rewire and reroute all those nerve endings. Allot of prayer wont hurt.
2006-09-26 18:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by someones sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is probably feeling responsible for what happened to his friends and need time to grieve. All you can do is pray that he will heal and his friends too. Tell his friends you will be there for them when they need someone to assure them that all will come out right. God has a reason for all things that happen. Who knows what he has in store for them .It might be something wonderful. The Lord works in mysterious ways. Keep the prays coming and they will be answered. You are not at fault but you can be there for support for them and prayers can be very powerful. God be with you all. Hugs to all.
2006-09-26 18:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all these boys are going through a lot right now and you just need to be patient since they are not talking to you I would write a note and tell them that you have them in your prayers and you still think of them as great guys chairs or no chairs you know that they are human and you want to be friends with them when they are ready to and would like to be part of their life
Good Luck
2006-09-26 18:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking at three really shattered lives there. Each of the people involved has a long road to travel. The best you can do is make sure they know you are there for them if they need you. Beyond that, you need to let them find their own way.
2006-09-26 18:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one not hurt is hurting inside and needs time to heal.
Meanwhile, just help the two friends anyway you can, but you cannot fault yourself in any way for what happened, life is full of such sadness, you have to go forward and just do what you can.
At least they still have their lives.
2006-09-26 18:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably scared to face you because he feels guilty about what happened to his/your friends. He feels like he's the blame and he thinks it's best if he stays away from you so that you don't end up like the other two. You have to go to him and let him know that it is not your fault and you still want to be friends. You have to help him heal!!!!!!!!
2006-09-26 18:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by GrownAndSexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for them. You should know that by asking God for help, he will give it to you. Maybe not always what you want it to be, but you will get an answer. Ask him to help your friends and to let them know you are here for them. Trust and have faith, that is what the bible teaches us, Good Luck
2006-09-26 18:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just give him space for now it will be all better
2006-09-26 18:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by love train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋