I just found out yesterday that my grandfather has 6 months to live. He has been battling cancer for only 3 months and tumors are spreading all over his body.... Nothing is helping....My grandfather is very supportive of me and use to go to gay bars with me... We watched the 1st season L-Word together... He is just one cool dude my grandmother passed away 2 ½ years ago and he is ready to go see her.... What should I do for him that would be special and a memory that he can take with him and I can have for the rest of my life?
2006-09-26 11:26:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think I will do that recording thing.. That will be something for everyone..... Also he does like fishing, I could go deep sea fishing with him but I think he will be too sick... I just dont know.
2006-09-26 11:50:18 · update #1
Have you thought of a Family Reunion?
We did this for my Grandfather around six months before he passed too.
We held it on his birthday, so that everyone would celibrate as well as get to see family and friends he might not have gotten to see before passing.
We had a great time, even family members from NewZeland and Australia came up to celebrate with us. It was a really special time for everyone and I know it made lasting impression on my Grandfather.
We're a great big Irish family, so he morbidly, but humorously kept calling it his Living Wake. As morbid as that sounds, he meant it with a lot of love and humor.
2006-09-26 11:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to feel good about your granddad hunh?
Once he's gone, you will never be able to talk to him again.
So now is the time to do stuff. If he think's he up to the deep sea fishing thing, do it. It's his last chance, and even if it does make him tired or whatever, he'll be happy he did it and you will have a great memory. Go see him as much as you can. Talk to him about everything you can think about. He was supportive of you, and has been a great friend. OK the sickness thing may be pretty offputting for you, but let's face it eventually the grim reaper's going to catch up with all of us. You might as well get used to his face and smell now. Once your grandad's gone there's no way you're ever going to be able to show your love for him. Start doing it now.
2006-09-26 19:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. Cancer is taking so many lives now. I lost my mom at 15 from this, my brother just in march. I just spent as much time with them as possible. I remember looking at the stars one last time with my mother-that was nice. Maybe you could take a family picture. Or put together a collage of pictures of when all his grandkids were little and growing up and his children also. I don't know what else to recommend......Maybe you could write a poem about life together. Make two copies,one for him to take with him and another for you to frame.....? Anyhow I will put you guys in my prayers tonight. Best of luck!
2006-09-26 19:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain believe me...My Uncle died three years ago from lung cancer and he meant the world to me. Spend as much time as possible. Maybe watch the first season of The L Word together again. Just really spend as much time together as possible. I regret not saying things I wanted to say to my Uncle, and wonder often how things would be if he were still alive.
I feel for you, and I hope your Grandfather doesn't suffer as much as my Uncle did his last few months. If you ever need to talk, my email is kamikaze_glintz@sbcglobal.net
2006-09-26 19:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never an easy one this, my own father passed the same way so I know how hard this is for you. If all of the above fail, then ask him what he would like to do, and no matter how stupid or outragous the idea try and fulfill it for him. Maybe make a list of 5 things he never did and still can and work through the list with him.
2006-09-26 19:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry for your lose and the sickness of you grandfather. i think maybe you should do something pertaining to his wife. maybe set a presentation of her memory on an anniversity or his b-day. it sounds like he's a great man and i wish more were out there like him (as you described him- since obvisiously i know nothing.) Good luck and give him a big kiss from everyone. God bless!
2006-09-26 18:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be sure to tell him how much it has meant to you to have his support and undying love and acceptance. Be with him and maybe ask him if he would like you to read to him, help him look at old pictures of the family and your grandmother, talk to him a lot and tell him you will be forever grateful to him for all his support. What a wonderful grandfather!
2006-09-26 18:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so glad that you have a supportive loving grandfather and i am so sorry that he has cancer... think about things he likes to do... does he like sailing? take him out on a boat.... does he like crosswords? work one with him....
only you know your grandfather and what he likes....so you know how to build a special memory with him....
you could throw him a life celebration party...with cake and flowers..instead of buying flowers for him once he is gone... when he can't appreciate them anymore.... it doesn't have to be a big party it could just be the two of you......
2006-09-26 18:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spend as much time as possible with him. Think him for all of the support that he has given you over the years.
2006-09-26 21:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Merrick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he would want. You obviously like him so spend some time with him. Ask him about his life and what he has to teach you. If you have money, plan a trip somewhere. See what he wants, maybe try to help him get that.
2006-09-26 18:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by agropelter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋