me and my partner recently split and his mother played a big part in it. she is being nasty towards us cos we split and has disowned my ex-partner as her son. she doesnt want anything to do with us only our children. one of my kids were taken to hospital cos she hurt herself and when his mother was told about this she never once asked how she was, she justed started banging on about her wanting to see the kids. she is making our lives hell and is spreading lies through the family about us. she is now threatening to take us to court over it, has she got a case? i dont want my kids around her while shes like this.
2006-09-26 11:15:02 · 18 answers · asked by miss innocent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we have done nothing wrong, she is taking us to court cos we wont let her see our kids.
2006-09-26 11:22:04 · update #1
We call that the "Virginia-Syndrome", named after my mother-in-law.
Some mothers just never get it that their kids, too grow up and make their own choices, just as they did.
She could take you to court, but probably wouldn't get anywheres. The fees for an attourney would more than likely prevent her from even going there (that is what stopped Virginia).
Good luck, dear, I feel sorry for you, knowing what you have to deal with (lemme stick a feel-good hug into that package for you;-))
2006-09-26 11:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Inge W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you beat your kids..no? Do you mistreat them...no? Do you neglect their needs....no? They she has no case! She can try and take you to court for visitation but she will not be getting any type of custody of them. Document everything she does, that way if you do have to go to court (which i doubt) you have proof off all the things she does and she will have nothing. Even tell the people that she has been lying to that they might be called to testify as to what they were told. If i were you I'd tell her she can see them but only when she starts acting her age and not her shoe size. If she wants to act like a child tell her then there would be no need for her to see you children since she is a child herself!
2006-09-26 11:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have a case. Her grandchildren are entitled to see her (not the other way round) and if you are genuinely making it impossible she can try for access. However, any good solicitor will encourage her to come to an aggreement with you if possible. Think about it though, aren't you glad you knew your grandma? Or do you wish you had? Offer her access so long as she starts behaving like an adult - make her understand that your children need to know her but that she's not setting the sort of example they should see.
2006-09-26 11:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Katkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So much depends on the State you live in. Laws tend to change so you need to seek legal advise on this! Some States, grandparents have a right to see their grand children, and can take you to court!
In some states anyone who is related or has a vested interest has the same rights.
2006-09-26 11:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry it takes a lot more than lies, the court need proof. My ex did the same thing and they hired a lawyer and all and I represented my self. I still have my baby girls. So as long as you are doing everything for your kids and not unfit don't worry. Don't give them any reason to raise an eyebrow at you!!
2006-09-26 11:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My so-referred to as "grandmother" lives with us, and he or she is taken into consideration one of these vile man or woman that i haven't spoken a common sentence to her considering I grew to become 14 4 years in the past. So i'm able to relate to the whole in-regulations are terrible human beings undertaking. The relatives regulation relies upon on the place you reside, because of the fact this form of undertaking varies from province to province, or state to state. i don't think of that grandparents could be considered instantaneous kin and play any functionality interior the custody of your toddler, till they have been the only guardians. in case you have not have been given any drug or alcohol or economic issues and are in a position to totally help your toddler, i don't think of he has any reason to win a case. If I have been you i might see a attorney only in case to make certain the info of this and notice how a strategies you may take it. Your maximum suitable back-up is the actuality which you're letting the daddy have get entry to to his toddler, and that your basically restrict is that he would not have touch along with his grandmother. maximum suitable of luck.
2016-10-01 09:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe don't panic even if she trys to take u to court she has no grounds and any half descent solicitor will laugh at her those kids are yours and it is completely up to you who they see and don't see i don't blame you for not wanting them to have contact with her at the moment i wouldn't want my kids anywhere near her it might be worth trying to talk to her about it all if not i would let the dust settle and it will all come good in the end. Take care
2006-09-26 11:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by bex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i belive there is currently no law stating that granparents should be allowed rights to see your children, you won't be taken to court over this and if you are continuly harrased by this lady it may be possible for you to take legal action for her to stay away from you and your children , wether you belive this is moral or not is another thing
2006-09-26 11:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats alot to handle. I'm sorry. Dont worry. I'm sure she's stressed. Yeah she shouldnt be doing things like that. And i wouldnt want my kids around her either. I dont what to say. Havnt ever been married. I'm only 17. I just hope it all turns out okay.
2006-09-26 11:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by skull loner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is she taking you to court for? That part is unclear.
If it's about grandparent's laws, some states have them and others don't. You didn't state where you are from.
2006-09-26 11:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋