If you were pregnant and having the baby meant you could possibly die--what would you do? Would you abort the baby and go on with your life, or you would you put the "I love you so much I'd die for you" thing into effect and let the baby live?
2006-09-26 11:11:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You could die any day at any minute. I would chance it and be pregnant and have my baby.
2006-09-26 11:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brianna'sMomma 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Seeing as how I was remotely in a similar situation, I have liver problems while pregnant and in the rare extreme situations the mom can die - however the more common risk is stillbirth (1 in 4 are stillborn with my liver problem). I used to say (all the way through my last pregnancy) that I would take the risks and have the baby anyway as I'm sure I'd be able to find someway to make it through.
However, since having my last baby (3 mths ago) I've changed my mind. I asked and prayed to God to give me four beautiful children and I took that risk four times. Each time (especially this last time) I prayed over a million times not to have a stillborn babe as I know I couldn't survive that. Thankfully my prayers were answered, despite the odds, I now have my four beautiful babes and thank God none of them were stillborn. However since I've had my last baby the thought of dying and leaving my children just kills me. There's no way I could willingly die or take any chances, I couldn't leave them mommyless.
Each person is different though, and to answer this you (and hopefully the daddy) will have to look deep inside yourself and see what's in your heart. I hope my out look helped some though.
2006-09-27 00:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Camrnhill 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough situation, only you and the father can really answer that question. I am a mother of three, I would do anything to protect my children. Most Moms would. However, I have three children and I have had a miscarriage. I would not ask my other children to live without their mother. I lost my mother young, and it is a very painful loss that never leaves you. There are so many times I have thought I wish mom were here. I would not put my children through that if I could prevent it. If I were presented the same dilema, I would opt for the abortion. It would be difficult, but you will get through it. Good luck to you, I hope it all works out.
2006-09-26 18:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by armywifetp 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard question to answer. However, when you say that you could possibly die, that means I have a chance to live. So there for I would take that chance and have the baby. But before making a decision like this you should always way out the what ifs. Meaning what if I die who would take good care of my baby. What if they say they will but they end up doing the opposite. Thus, this is a hard question to answer. If in the end you are satisfied with the answers to the what ifs, then you should make the choice.
2006-09-26 18:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ms_tlts 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well to start you are not selfish at all!
I know you have strong feelings for the baby inside you but You are talking about your life. If you have a chance of dying then more than likely there is a good chance there could be complication with the baby also. So what if you make this sacrifice and the baby does not survive. Its a hard decision You can have another baby but there is only one you. And you have a mom that I'm sure does not want to loose her baby.
2006-09-26 18:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by tnylilgrnturtle 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I'd abort, depending on how far along I was. I mean if I was one month pregnant, there is still no life there.
Even later on in the pregnancy, it would be a terrible thing for two people then - or even three. You (you've lost your life), your child (a child without a mother? and living thinking maybe it is their fault? horrible!), and possibly your husband/boyfriend/the father. And just everyone around you! If you can have a child at another time, maybe this just is not the right time. Or do something beautiful, and adopt a child. Make a child's world better.
P.S. anyone who says that abortion is selfish is STUPID.
2006-09-26 18:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
That really depends.
First of all, what would be the threat? Cancer? How advanced is it? What are my treatment options? Can I deliver the baby early and get into chemo right away?
Here is the hard part: I have two living children who really need their mother. It would devastate them to lose me. At this point I would feel more obligated to stay alive for them. Not because I don't value the life of my baby inside, but I know that I have more children than just the one inside me to think about.
I don't know what I would do. I hope I would never ever have to find out. Whatever I chose it would be based upon what would be best for my entire family, not just the one growing inside me.
2006-09-26 18:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well hmmm thats going to be something that only you can decide. But here is what I feel. I have a daughter myself and she is my world. If I knew that I was pregnant and that having the baby had a good chance of killing me I would not have it. I can't imagine a child that would want to grow up without there mother. This of course would depend on your situation and though your fetus's life may be important so is yours. It may be a child you have that you will never see. leaving the child without a mother and with a father that will hurt because his child doesnt have their mother.
I say this coming from a women that has both had an abortion and had a child. My daughter is my world but I couldn't and dont want to imagine her life without me.
If you and your partner want children maybe and having them is a substancial risk to you maybe you could adopt.
2006-09-26 18:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I have thought about this before. Actually , I was thinking about it this last night. I would never be able to make a decision now. I would not want to kill my baby. At the same time , I would not want to leave my 3 year old daughter. My husband is in the Navy, so someone else would have to raise her when he goes out to sea. My side of the family is not fit to raise her, and my husband's side of the family are nothing but a bunch of Alcoholics with potty mouths. Doctor's do not always know what they are talking about. I would probably just stay in bed rest for as long as I could and have the baby premature. That's if I get cancer . Yes, that's what I would do. Keep our baby in my womb as long as I could and have an early delivery.
2006-09-26 18:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'd continue the pregnancy and hope for the best. Medicine is not an exact science, and doctors (even the high-and-mighty, hoity toity specialists) are quite frequently wrong. If I aborted the baby, I'd spend the rest of my life with incredible feelings of guilt (which I imagine most women who have abortions feel, but are too ashamed to admit) wondering "What if, what if, what if?"
2006-09-27 12:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would go ahead and have it. not all the time the mother always have to go. because i had a friend that went through this to and she did it because of her baby's dad was there and she had people there to help her though she made him a tap before she had him to let him no what happened but she got through it they had to take him early but now they all are happy. I do not wont you to tack this the wrong way but look at it this way the baby will live through you.
2006-09-26 19:03:42 · answer #11 · answered by louloubell_oh 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋