My daughter came home late last night and I got mad and slapped her?

Question

with a 10 o'clock cerfew on weekends. She is 16 yrs old, is this too early? she got home at 2:00 the other night

oh gosh...my bad, I slapped her with the 10 oclock cerfew....I never laid a hand on her, I just realized it was worded wierd

Answer 1

you're the parent. you have to set limits for your children. If not you'll be a grandma within the next 2 years, I'm sure. I wan't allowed to go out when I was a teenager and I'm glad my mom had the sense to set that rule, I didn't get into any trouble in my teen years.

Answer 2

No, 10 is not to early for a curfew for a girl who is 16. I think that when i was 16 my parents made me by home by 9 or 10 too. If she was out till 2 in the morning i would of grounded her. Letting her know that staying out that late is not okay. Sit down and talk to her let her know why her curfew is at 10. A lot of bad things can happen at night. Always know where she is and what shes doing.

Answer 3

For a (responsible) 16 yr old I believe that midnight is a good curfew. Make sure to ask questions to know where she is at and who she is with though. Giving her a cell phone is the best way to let her be free and yet keep tabs on her at all times. For punishment for coming in so late the other night you should make her stay home this Fri and Sat and then tell her starting the wk after she can stay out til 12 only if she follows the rules.

Answer 4

It was a bit late... I admit. But don't forget she's a girl! Between men, slaps can appear bearable. I think that you have to be sorry for the slap and that she should never accept to be treated that way from anyone. You reacted by pure anger, it is not nice from a Dad. And she is 16 now, 10 o'clock is a bit early for a curfew at this age. Midnight would make you a cool Dad, too. She is starting to have a life of her own now, so all you can do from this time on is to prepare her the best you can for her WOMAN life.
Cheers, DAD!

Answer 5

Sound like you will becoming a grand mother soon. On weekend 10PM is good. There is nothing positive out there after 10PM for an 16 year old. The only thing out and about for 16 year old children after 10 PM is pregnancy. You are goo because I would not sent her away where for two months. I am married and I would not come home at 2:00am it is just disrespectfully. Make sure she is not trying to get some STD and AIDS out there.

Answer 6

10:00 is not too early. She's under age and there are cerfews in most cities. She could get picked up by police just for being out and you could get fined. But slapped her? Oh man, that's not good. You need to apologize and then explain to her in depth why you have rules. Put your foot down, she's still a child, you have to.

Answer 7

Well, coming home late is ruining the trust. She needs to understand why she as a cerfew.

And no, 10pm is not too early, no matter how much she tells you her friends get to stay out later.

On the other hand, if she is verifyably at somebody's house you can trust, you might let her stay longer IF there are prior arrangements for her on how to get home (best: you!! pick her up). Oh, and make sure you talk to the adults of the house to make sure this is not some story made up (been there, done that)

Answer 8

Ok, I remember that happening to me all the time. My mom said I had to be home and I just wanted to be free and do whatever i thought it was good..lmao.. but now I am a mom and I got 2 daughters and I will be going thru the same thing. The truth is there is no way of preventing it. Teenagers are meant find themselves or lose themselves. I remember the reason why i didnt come home on time was because, 1. never was the driver so I had to wait, 2. didnt want to tell my mom to pick me up wherever i was at because she was known to always say something if she didnt like it, 3. because i wanted to feel independent and feel that I can make these types of desicion.. 4. I worked at 16 so I felt like I had the right.. What I didnt realize was that, 1. my parents were the real bread winners and they put a roof over my head, and gave me shelter and food, and clothes, and money whenever i wanted to do something, 2. I should of studied for my Drivers Liscense, and taken the responsiblity to either pay myside of the inurrance payments or atleast help out someway for my parents, because that would of given me the right to have a car to be home on time and show responsiblity. 3. I needed to talk to my parents and let them know how i am feeling but it was hard because it was always arguements and strong opinions and i felt mine didnt matter because i was still young. ( we needed a counselor or a 3rd party that was fair) 4. Self Esteem for pure pressure. All this is put in consideration right now on your relationship with your teenagers. You have to remember how it was like, even though times are different or perhaps you did different things when we were teenagers, you have to start getting to know your daughter and still be the mom. She is now becoming a lady soon to be woman, when she turns 17 then things are going to be different because she will remember what she learned, and when she is 18 and starts doing her own thing entirely, then she will be looking for you for that woman advice. So just be strong and wise mom, and pray that GOD shows you. At this point, they are already breaking off and your trying to hold on because its your baby.. I know... but this is your time too!! Your going to see your kids do the right thing because you showed them too.. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Check with your local county what the county curfew is and thats what you should give her.
My town it is 12:00 if a kid stays out past 12:00 on a weekend they will actually get arrested.

10:00 is a little to early thoug for a weekend. I would say 11-12:00.

Answer 10

I have a 16 year old daughter 2, I do think 10:00pm is 2 early, but at the sametime she disobeyed you. There has 2B some action
taken, or she'll think she can get away with it again. I let my
daughter stay out until 12:00.

Answer 11

You can sit with her and let her know that you are mad at her and tell her you were very worried about her well being and she should of called if she was going to be late. 16, she should be home by 9-10 pm. Let her know about the bad things that happen to people and you are just worried. Make sure this is not a habit and check out her friends and email accounts.