Im 28, ive been in a few relationships and currently in a 2.5year relationship. My man is very frustrated as i never orgasm, but i still love our sex life, i dont see what the fuss is all about.
Every man ive been with has had the same worry, that they arent doing it for me, but they do!
Are there other women out there going through the same problem as me? Men, does it really matter that much? Am i doing something wrong?!!!
2006-09-26 11:00:52 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
take some time on your own to really find out how to make yourself climax then show your partner how to do it
2006-09-26 11:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not weird, this is very common. 70% of women cannot orgasm from penetration - this is a solid statistic and a medical fact, so your boyfriend shouldn't feel bad. However, most women can orgasm from external stimulation, which is why you can give yourself one.
You should both accept this fact and rejoice that there are still many other ways to pleasure each other. Your man obviously cares about you, and wants to make sure he can make you happy - awesome! Let him! Let him explore all the different ways he can stimulate you to orgasm. Sounds like a fun opportunity for both of you!
Consider a sex therapist - I know it sounds embarassing but can be a great help. Go to the local bookstore or Amazon.com and stock up on books addressing your situation. Order a catalog or attend a presentation of sexual aids - this can give you lots of great ideas!
2006-09-26 11:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An orgasm, also known as a sexual climax, is considered by many the most pleasurable response (sexual function) to by a notable physiological reaction, such as ejaculation, blushing or spasm and may be followed by aftershocks.
Both males and females experience orgasms, but the exact response varies depending on sex.
A 2005 twin study found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and only one in ten always orgasmed. This variation in ability to orgasm, generally thought to be psychosocial, was found to be between 34-45% genetic.
The inability to have orgasm is called anorgasmia. In situations where orgasm is desired, anorgasmia is mainly thought of as being caused by an inability to relax, or 'let go'. It seems to be closely associated with performance pressure and an unwillingness to pursue pleasure, as separate from the other person's satisfaction.
I wonder if you can achieve orgasm through masturbation a lot of woman do it.
2006-09-26 11:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women are very different. Some women can orgasm very very easily and some have a hard time finishing. I think the first step is to perhaps give yourself one while your man watches. perhaps he can learn something that will help, and perhaps it will help get the anxiety out of the act itself. It is possible that the orgasm is built up way too much and there is too much pressure for you to have one.
Just make it really calm and put on a show for your man. If that doesn't work (you can't finish) what about maybe taping it and then letting him watch later?
Have you tried rubbing yourself during sex? many women cannot orgasm through intercourse alone, but clitoral stimulation can really help. Try getting on top and rubbing yourself, or have him get behind you.
The other thing you can try is something called the "camel slide". Stradle him, but instead of insertion, push his penis between your lips horizontally and grind your clit on his penis without penetration.
2006-09-26 11:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have some sort of fear against men. You don't relax when your naked around them and ready for sex. Either that, or they all are terrible with you in bed, and/or you don;t communicate with them very well to explain how you liked to be touched. Fix these and you should be fine.
Clearly there's nothing wrong with your body if you can get yourself off. The only other explaination, is your a lesbian, and only women can give you an orgasm.
Of maybe you actually do have orgasms, but you don't know what they are exactly. Not all orgasms are like what you see in porn. But some are.
And by the way, just telling him he's doing a great job and ignoring the problem isn't solving anything. Your just putting a band-aid and a missing finger. If he's not a total moron he will know that you are lying. He will be satisfied once he sees you spirt vag fluids, and naturally quiver out of orgasmic excitement.
2006-09-26 11:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
some drugs (fantastically antidepressants) could take in to 4- 6 weeks for an entire result. Low dose antidepressants are generally used to handle untimely ejaculation. So discover out what medicine he takes and do somewhat prognosis. There are wellness situations that could reason untimely ejaculation. Hyperthyroidism is a concern which will reason untimely ejaculation and is extremely treatable. It additionally seems such as you're married to a youthful guy. youthful adult men of their adolescents and 20s tend to ejaculate plenty swifter than older adult men. inspite of the incontrovertible fact that, if he feels to blame approximately ejaculating too straight away, this could replace into an ongoing concern simply by rigidity from guilt with regard to the situation. despite you do, do no longer rigidity him and verify which you do help him. This situation is quite one that interior reason hassle-free to be certain with the marvelous remedies, innovations and wellness care experts. My advice could be a sexaul therapist it extremely is in a position to prescribe drugs and lab artwork. additionally a Endocrinologist is an expert in this area and can try his thyroid and different hormones.
2016-12-12 15:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by zabel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you having a bit of a downer on your boyfriend? Last week he chose to 'forget' you on your birthday and now you complain about your lack of orgasms during sex! You do admit that you don't see what the fuss is about but you deserve an orgasm once in a while! Talk to him and tell him to tease you to distraction whichever way you like until you are absolutely desperate and craving his you know what! Tease him as well, get him close to ejaculation, stop and slow things down to prolong your pleasure whilst keeping him like a rampant bull!
It does matter to me that I satisfy a woman but sometimes its hard, all night long! LOL!
2006-09-26 11:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by roy d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must get it thru cunnilingiss though (spelt wrong but I know what it means). I am 39 and only recently did I find the right man that makes it happens most times during sex (G point and all that). As long as you both enjoy what you're doing it doen't matter. Try masturbating infront of each other to 'finish each other off'. TALK ABOUT IT...makes it better.
2006-09-26 11:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by moomandymoo67 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is gonna sound weird to you but you need to start masturbating. No one can do for you what you can't do for yourself. Get to know your own body and then you'll know exactly what to ask for. Most women don't ever orgasm just by internal stimulation, the clitoris plays a huge part, so start playing with it, you might surprise yourself.
2006-09-26 11:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by brooke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sister has the same problem, except she's only 18. i can't figure it out though and neither can she. she said she loves the sex, but she can never have an orgasm, so i don't know what to tell you. maybe you should ask your doctor. just know that your not alone. other people have the same problem.
2006-09-26 11:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very common, allot of women can't orgasm from just penetration, try being on top and grinding on him, that's the only way my wife can orgasm with sex. get that book with all the different positions and try a few out,
2006-09-26 11:04:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋