okay, so i have this guy friend that's a year younger than me. his real name sounded a bit like mine, especially with all the FOB kids on campus calling his name, so i took it upon myself to rename him. should i not have done that? did that send the wrong message?
now, he's clingy. like he's ALWAYS around, and when he sees me or my 'twin' he approaches us like he wants a hug, but we always try to find a reason to avoid it. and he's always doing stuff for us, like buying our lunch. personally, i dont like to abuse his nice ness.
im the president of a club, one that helps people learn to knit and stuff, and he JUST SO HAPPENS to know how to knit. i think ima go crazy if he joins my club.
right, so my 'twin' is a year younger than me, and when me and our friends grad before her, she'll be totally alone with him, and i feel soo bad. like she's all scared about having to go to prom with him, coz she might not have a date, and he might not have a date, and ask her. plus, he wants to
2006-09-26 10:55:06 · 7 answers · asked by need 2 get a grip 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
go to MY senior prom, which means HIS junior prom. and he's really creeping me out. like no joke. he's really scaring me.
how can i tell him that i dont feel that way about him, and that he's really buggin me without really hurting him, coz hes a big softy.
do you think that i need to find my 'twin' a boyfriend before i grad, so that she can hopefully hold on to him her senior year and avoid going with our friend? or does that sound desperate?
2006-09-26 10:55:19 · update #1
Just tell him. It will be least painful for everyone involved if you tell him NOW, instead of leading him into thinking you two are friends. Just say "I do want to be friends, but you're being a little clingy. could you please give me some space?" and remember, tone is really important. there are two different ways to take just about everything, so make sure he gets the message that you're really trying to send. Explain things a little better if needed. Whatever you do, don't let him cry on your shoulder if he gets upset. this is just what he needs to make him even MORE dependant on you. good luck =)
2006-09-26 11:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound desperate at all. I've been in at least 2 situations like yours and let me tell ya, run. Very quickly in the other direction. If he's as bad as you think then get a good guy friend (or your boyfriend if you have one) to tell him that your not interested. Oh, you can also have your brother tell him if you've got one. If, for some reason, that doesn't work out, you're going to have to suck it up and tell him. Obviously, you don't want to be mean, but you need to let him know that you're not interested in him at all! Also, praying that he'll go away makes things a little more peaceful. If he offers to buy you stuff, or do anything at all for you, firmly decline the offer. Tell him you're fine on your own. Unless he's mentally deficiant, he'll get the picture. After a few times of getting the "cold shoulder" he'll get a clue and hopefully move on. Good luck sis, I've been in your situation! Hold on!
2006-09-26 11:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all, what the heck are you saying? is this a girl that wanna act like you? Like a little sister looking up on the big sister? but wanna take her man kinda single white female thang?? geesh, HS hasnt changed then for me? And I am from the 90's. Well girl, these years are the last years of your adolescents. When you start college your going to meet alot more people then you did at HS. Look forward for whats ahead, I mean atleast she aint at your house, and eating your food, and taking your money. And really if you dont like to hang out with her, then just avoid it peacefully and tactfully! you dont want to make enemies either, when you get older, people change. She may be the realest person, but right now, she is trying to be like you, and not herself. So she needs to work on that on her own. But you continue to be you, and Prom, girl take a fine man with you! ask somebody else then that you wouldnt mind taking! There must be another person you can go with and have a great time!! Thats your prom!! hello!! or is that like a winter ball thing? i dont know! But your still young and figuring out things for yourself and just continue.
2006-09-26 11:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by The real questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. When you find out please tell me I have one of those too. I think you should probably say something, like when you run into him tell him you're just a bit annoyed and need some space. Sort of like a clingy boyfriend you know. It will make him feel a bit hurt probably but its better to do it now that you're still sane than wait until he drives you crazy and go overboard and end up acting like a complete Biatch.
2006-09-26 11:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by c_mitu89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds desperate. Well, you just have to sit with him/her and tell him/her the truth. If he/she is your friend he/she will understand what you mean. I'm also a Junior and i know what you mean, i got the same problem as you but with a sophomore. All i did was talk to her and she understood what i meant. . . .
2006-09-26 11:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by arielmuv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didn't read, but to answer your initial q, be honest with them and they usually get the point.
2006-09-26 10:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds desperate
2006-09-26 10:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋