I am 18 and I have a crush on my manager who's in her 30s.
2006-09-26 10:47:13 · 21 answers · asked by cough cough 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I don't think a 18 year old male is a man.
He's still a boy and more trouble than he's worth.
However he's perfect for a 16-22 year old female.
That's my opinion.
2006-09-26 14:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many guys who are attracted to older women, and not all turn out bad. I was in a relationship with a man 17 years younger than me. It was great for a while, but the age difference did eventually catch up...but not with him...it was with me, only because his inexperience in life made it hard to have any meaningful conversations....we were at a different level emotionally and intellectually.....everything else was fine.
If the woman is keen and you are keen, then there isnt a problem. You are an adult. She is an adult. If she hasnt got a problem with age, and you obviously havent, then talk to her, find out if the feelings are mutual. It would probably boost her ego for her to know that you "fancy" her. She can only say she is not interested....but at least you will know for sure. Who knows what she is thinking.
I thought I was crazy when I had feelings for this younger man. I thougth there was no way this guy could be interested in me because of the age thing. How wrong was I? He felt exactly the same way I did.....so it does happen.
2006-09-26 18:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the woman.
When i was 16 my girlfriend was 21. When i was 20 my girlfriend was 28. When i was 22 i dated a woman who was 43.
I know a girl who is in her late 20's who dates only men in their 40's. It's all personal taste and depends on the individual.
Most women i know in their 30's wouldn't give an 18 year old the time of day much less their heart and some would certainly sleep with one but leave it at just a physical relationship.
It depends get to know them first casually strike up a bit of conversation then try a friendship pay attention and learn more by observation. Asking a bunch of personal questions will result most likely in rejection or outright hostility so tread carefully.
The fun is in the chase and as you learn more about her you'll learn more about what you really want.
2006-09-26 18:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by sprydle 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Women of all ages find 18 year old boys attractive. That's when men are at their peak...women are hot-wired to respond. HOWEVER...does that mean it's a good idea to act on that attraction. Your brain has to be in charge of your body and your emotions. Think...use that other organ...and weigh the consequences of your actions carefully. Because, good or bad, there will be consequences. As a much older woman, I can tell you with certainty, that crushes don't last. But, big mistakes often do. So think carfeully before you act on your feelings.
2006-09-26 18:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by BarbeeAnne 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would say an immature woman in her 30s might find an 18 yr old 'man' attractive. A woman in her 30s who is mature would say otherwise.
2006-09-26 19:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's attractive is simply a matter of personal taste and preferences. I'm 43 and my husband is 27.As long as two people are both of legal age, IMO, age should have little to do with whether or not they get into a relationship. I've known plenty of older guys who behave like they're 12, and just as many younger guys, like my husband, who have maturity beyond their years.
2006-09-26 20:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, as a " woman of that age" as one guy put it, I can tell u this introspective that no one has put any light on...the sexual one. Ok,I had a 18 yr old lover,and he wanted to be "taught" to please a woman " of my age." I am 38,and believe me when i say that it was awkward. He was young, but didn't like the women of his age as the said they were too ditzy,or just plain ignorant. He could hold a great,intellectual conversation,and I could tell him my deepest,darkest secrets and he would offer advice i hadn't looked at,because he had a fresh perpsective on things because of his age.So, it all depends on the maturity level of both parties. And the job? Find another one or don't date near work.
2006-09-26 19:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought women over the age of 26 started to differentiate and focus more on older men who are financially stable and can be the ample male...I guess as some women get older they gravitate towards stability more than fun.
2006-09-27 00:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k. your question was do women in their 30's find an 18yr old attractive..................my answer, no. You are 18 and have a crush on a 30 yr old, i think you need to ask her if the attraction is mutual........we cannot speak for her.......as for me I will take a MAN any day.
2006-09-26 20:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may find you attractive, but the difference in ages (and the fact that she's your manager, too) will probably call a screeching halt to anything else. Don't push it. If she's interested, you'll know it. If not, just maintain a good relationship with her.
2006-09-26 17:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by clarity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋