When me and my bf split up a while ago he told me he wasn`t in love with me anymore but he did still love me.Now that we`re back together i still cant quite get my head round the fact that one week he`s not in love with me then 6 weeks later he is!
We have been together almost 6 years and i`m 24 he is 28,i sometimes think maybe he needed time away to do his own thing,we have a 4 year old son and he says he didn`t come back for his sake.
So anyway getting back to the point do you think you can actually fall in love with someone over again?have you experienced this?If so what changed your mind??Answers appreciated,thanx.
2006-09-26 10:46:24 · 20 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess he never really fell out of love with you, he probably wanted time out for whatever reason, my husband takes time out every year to go on holiday with his mates, the way to keep them is to let them go, you are wise love, he will keep coming back, trust him, I have been with mine for 20 yrs and we don't smother each other.
2006-09-27 05:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Very Possible!!! I am currently Married and Me and my Husband are seperated and living 900 miles apart. When we split up I really thought I didnt love him anymore and i made him leave. But over the last 4 months we have actually grown closer and are becoming more honest with each other then we ever were before. Some times things at home just Burn you out and you need some time to see what you have and realize that you really do have a good thing. And just the stress of what ever makes you feel like your not happy with who your with when actually it is everything else your not happy with. And some time away from every thing can help you get that "Wild Hair" Out of your system and that does help. There is alot that cna make a person think they have fallen out of love with their sugnifigant other but 95% of the time it not the spouse their having problems with. Hope this helps.
2006-09-26 18:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. It happens quite often. When you are apart you begin to realize what you really had and miss them.
But if you have been together for 6 years and he has not ask you to marry him I would be very careful if I were you.
Being able to lay in bed with you and sit at the same table you do does not always mean love is the reason.
You have become home to him and he wants that feeling back but what you need to know is why did he leave in the first place. Find that out and you may know what is going on.
2006-09-26 18:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't fall out of love they just forget they love someone because they are so at ease with them. Then they leave and get out on there own and remember just how much they loved someone. I did it once, the guy said he couldn't stay with me that he had to go and make it work with his ex wife, well one month later he came back and told me how sorry he was and that he loved me and could only think about me. So I guess sometime you have to let things go and if it is meant to be it will come back.
2006-09-26 17:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by adarmbruster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"True love doesn't last forever. True love ends, and begins again."
Certainly there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them, and the line between these can be fuzzy and confusing. I've been there several times myself, debating for months on end if I loved him, was in love with him, or was just in love with being in love with him? And sometimes love is a very difficult thing to live, and you'd rather convince yourself you're NOT in love than have to deal with everything that being in love can bring.
So maybe he's just been confused and needing some time to sort out what his feelings really are. You've had a long relationship, so I think you're in good shape and it's likely everything will work out. If you're still having gnawing concerns, talk to him and let him know that your separation gives you doubts that he really knows what he wants, and you need some reassurance that he is SURE he's in love with you.
side note: my coworker had an on-again, off-again relationship with her boyfriend for a number of years, and they had a son together during one of the on periods. When he was 8 he was ring-bearer at their wedding, and they are all very happy together to this day, four years later. Happy endings can happen!
2006-09-26 18:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is a possibility but in your case, I think your bf sounds like he's very immature and irresponsible. He's got a son and if he's not coming back for his sake, he's not being responsible to his own child. You really have to talk things over with him and make him think hard of your relationship. He can't say he loves you one week and goes away the next week, leaving you and your son. This is not the way love should be, especially if a child is involved.
2006-09-26 17:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe that people can fall back in love with the same person. First of all there is a very thin line between love and hate. We all have up and down moments with our emotions. Maybe he was in a funk, and realized that you actually do mean a lot to him, and he is in love with you. Sometimes people can get confussed within themselves. Good luck, hope things work. Oh and I do speak from experience.
2006-09-26 18:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by Evie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is wen the man said he dint love u, did u stop loving him? It seems he was into something for wich he needed a break and got 1, while u were always in love wid him before and after. So nothing changed except him coming back from an extended tour. Cheerio sweety, its still the same guy, same passion, same fire. One single line of his, dosnt change a life that fast. Trust him and you two will be happy
2006-09-26 17:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by fantasyland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, but more likely is he never stopped loving you, he maybe thought the excitement had gone,so love had gone. When you are together a long time some of the excitement goes,but other things replace it that are more lasting. Perhaps your man needed to take a break to sort his feelings out, absence makes the heart grow fonder, so maybe he found that out. all the best !!!
2006-09-26 18:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband and I split up for 6 months as I wasn't in love with him anymore. I got back with him for the sake of my 2 year old daughter and then fell in love with him again and we stayed together for 20 years in all. It wasn't meant to be though, we got divorced just after out 20 year anniversary as he annoyed the hell out of me! But yes it is possible.
2006-09-27 04:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋