How do I get my daughter to accept responsiblity?

Question

My daughter has made 4 xxx movies, has two kids and has been with over 300 guys. She has photos of her with 8 guys at one time having orgasim on her, in her face and all over her body. I have took her to doctors, been to counselors and she has been in jail many times. All this was done before she was 17 years old. She always says it's not her fault and blames everyone else. She told a judge that when she gets out she was going to pull a "train" on 15 boys and film it. She did it and has it on film. She has been to the doctors many times for STD's. She just will not listen to anyone or accept any help. How do I get my daughter to accept responsiblity?

Answer 1

Give up on her and walk away. You can still love her but just tell her that you will no longer be there to help her out of trouble. Seeing that she started this life before she was 17 and even stand up against a judge, it's time you started thinking about your self and your life. She choose the life she is in now let her live it.

Answer 2

Getting your daughter to accept resposibility could be hard, as you are always there for her as a mother should be, however I think that you need to let her stand on her own two feet and let her deal with the consequences the next time she is in trouble.

This may take some time to adjust to, but she may just end up thanking you in the long run. By all means be there for her kids and take care of them.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Honestly I cannot tell you what will or will not help in this situation. It looks like she craves alot of attention and has a thing for wanting to feel beautiful. Telling her no about things isn't going to help. Tell her you don't approve of what choices that she has made but is always there in support of her if she needs you. See what interests besides sex does she have. If all else fails I will say try to write a letter to a famous porn star in order to have her tell your daughter the reality of it all. Hope something helps.

Answer 4

I' am really sorry to hear that and i'msorry I have to answer this way, but.... SHE WON'T. she has already made a desision with her life and unfortunatly it's not a desicion you approve of or care for but the fact remains once someone is in that kind of buisness, it's almost impossible to pull them away from it unless they DO IT THEMSELVES. darlin you can't help someone if they don't want the help this includes everyone including your daughter! so if I were you I would put your faith in the lord, and ask him to help her because it seems as though he may be her only hope. and also..... NEVER STOP TRYING AND NEVER STOP LOVING YOUR DAUGHTER!

Answer 5

well sense she's grown ther not much you can do becasue she has to learn on her own the best thing i can say is pray and tell her how u feel and i mean mean tell i don't mean force her to do anything that she doesn't want 2 do and no matter what treat her with respect and NEVER stop showing her that you love her and also NEVER turn your back on her and i mean NEVER ( and maybe you should consider that somthing could have happen in her child hood that you don't know about belive me kids can hide things from thier parents for a long time it took years before i told my mother somthing happend to me)

Answer 6

She'll just have to learn to accept it through time. She obviously made these choices herself so she must face the consequences. She chose to have sex, she chose to make those movies, she chose to have those kids, she chose to do what got her into jail. I don't understand how somebody could just keep blaming someone else for all of that, but I'm sure you love her very much.

Answer 7

I accept as true with Dragon one hundred% on "why does the daddy have any say on your place"... He makes the guidelines at HIS residing house, you and your spouse make the guidelines at your place... As for the emotional blackmail concerning to the holiday journeys... What does the custody settlement from their divorce state on holiday journeys/visitation? follow it scrupulously! tell the sdaughter that the place she would be spending a given day has already been desperate by ability of the courts and any added talk would be between the ADULTS in contact... while she will act like a responsibly individual THEN her enter would be seen... sometime after she drops her "Juicy woman" suggestions-set.... so a good distance, you have taught her that if she reasons sufficient hassle she gets her very own way... that needs to quit ASAP... try your public library for books on step-parenting, blended households, etc... i might in easy terms evaluate a house as a final motel... (you somewhat do no longer want to get CPS in contact on your life!) you do no longer point out the girl's age, yet despite that is, there is truthfully NO rationalization why she would not have age suitable chores... tied into any "perks" she might want... Require her chores to be performed in the previous she sits all the way down to dinner (or despite timeframe you decide on for)... enable her be attentive to that is HER habit that determines no count if she eats it heat with the family participants... or chilly out of the refrigerator....you're actually not doing her any favors by ability of permitting her to think of the international revolves around "daddies little princess"... it's going to PISS her off.. yet try purely SMILING at her like she's the no longer fairly wonderful baby purely off the quick bus.... do no longer tutor her any anger, she's hoping for that from you! sturdy success.... you are going to choose it!

Answer 8

She has to learn the importance of it.

The only way she might learn is if she experiences something that impacts her personally that effects the way she thinks. It may take a lot of trial and error on her part before anything ever impacts her in such a profound way as to provoke a change in behavior.

And it may never happen.

Answer 9

You can't. either she is crying out for help in which case you have to get her to a doctor or she actually enjoys her life. I feel sorry for her children, unfortunately if they are exposed to such behaviour then they are likely to go down a similar line. sorry girl, I think your daughter is a lost cause, concentrate on the grandchildren

Answer 10

If she is of age there isn't anything that you can do. This is her life! You may not like what she is doing. But I hear this industry makes some major money! She may just like what she is doing. Just be there as a mother, not really much that you can do. Have a wonderful day.