I have a friend who is divorced with 2 children and she dates married men all of the time. She tells me that they shower her with compliments and complain about their wives. I am a married woman and may be a little biased because of that, but even if I were single I don't think I could ever date a married man. I just don't understand. Give me some answers please. And because of her little escapades with these married men, I am almost skeptical to bring her around my husband or even talk to her about our marriage. I just don't think I can trust her.
2006-09-26 10:37:50 · 23 answers · asked by peaceandlove3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because they have NO respect for anyone....not even themselves.
2006-09-26 10:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't have a good answer to your question as I do not date married men. I worked with a woman, and became friends with her. She dated a married man for seven years. She then dated and became engaged to a single guy. That did not last. THEN she started seeing another married man (at work). I think she did not want any complications in her life and these married men did not want anything from her as far as commitment. That is my take on it. I did not condone what she did, I just ignored it. I was not worried about her being around my husband though.
2006-09-26 10:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust her either. I think some women see a married man as being a safe person to date. It is a relationship where they are essentially in control and don't have to make a commitment. I would bet your friend quickly runs from any married guy that is interested in divorcing his wife and marrying her. I think she wants the love and attention but not the commitment.
2006-09-26 10:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand it when a woman is dating a married man with an idea that he will leave his wife for her. For the life of me - I don't get it. However, it sounds like your friend simply wants a no-strings-attached relationship; whatever the "psychological" reasons behind it, I don't know; she may have been hurt previously, or just isn't ready to commit. Seems to me, she just likes to have fun, and both single and married men are fair game. I don't know what is there not to understand about wanting to have fun; not everything in life has to last forever or be serious.
2006-09-26 11:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think women who date married men do it because they get a relationship without the stresses of day to day life, problems with kids, and the reality of a real relationship. They get to have the better side of the man - fun, affectionate, and carefree.
2006-09-26 11:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jens 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not however date a married man. That is just wrong. And your friend will one of these days run into one of her bfs wives and just might get an @ss whoppin'. She better watch out who shes messing around with. If you don't think you can trust her then i wouldn't talk to her about your marriage. Find a true friend that will listen and give advice about things. Tell your husband about your friend so he'll know ahead of time how she is. Good luck.
2006-09-26 10:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She probably does not want any strings attached. Maybe it is the same reason married men date married women, because they know they do not want to get attached.
I guess you can call it f---ing buddies.
2006-09-26 15:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some lonely people can be really weak and short sighted. Fooling themselves. Instant gratification at the expense of long term pain which hurts many people, manifests in many situations. This is one of them. One of the worst. It's like crack for lonely horny people. I'm proud to say I never have nor would I ever do that to my family, or to someone else's family.
2016-03-18 01:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women don't actually know the man is married. For some, they enjoy the power they have over the married man and his wife because she "thinks" she can steal him away from her. Also, they think these men are more secured and he feels "safe"....so to speak.
What they don't realize is that they simply lack the morals mainly because they are willing to get in between a marriage and possibly destroy it. Afterall, in your friend's case, misery loves company. They also lack self respect and self esteem because they are willing to be second best.
2006-09-26 10:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
women date married men it happens all the time. some people know what they are doing and some dont. if a marrige get destroyed from it you cant blame the other women its not her fault the man wanted to cheat or her wouldnt have done it. so he more than likly went out lookin for somthing he is not getting at home be it sex or just companionship. it drives me crazy that everyone puts all the blame on the other women. your friend isnt ready to have fully commited relationship. she wants to keep things simple and just have a good time. ive never done it but i know a lot of people that have and they have better relationships than most of my married friends.
2006-09-26 10:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by angelface8074 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I definitely would not trust her around my husband, either. I would probably not be friends with her anymore either b/c you are obviously on different ends of the moral compass. I think women go after men who are married b/c they lack self esteem and do not know their own self worth. I also think they do it b/c they like the excitement of the forbidden or they like men who are unavailable. Tell your friend that you do NOT approve of her dating married men and that you no longer think that you and her have anything in common b/c you have strong moral disapproval of what she is doing.
2006-09-26 11:02:09 · answer #11 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋