I am 30 years old and I have been seeing a 21 year old guy. We like each other a lot but we both are afraid what people will say and our parents might not be so understanding. Should our age be an issue?
2006-09-26 10:31:01 · 31 answers · asked by sassygrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm 20 and my husband is 34. Age doesn't matter, the only thing that really matters is love.
2006-09-26 10:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if it is for you. Are you looking to get the same things out of your relationship?? Are you able to communicate and help each other understand where you are coming from - as you will always have an age gap, even as you progress through time.
You will always have more experience then he - and if he is cool with that then no problem.
When you are 60 and he is 51 will that matter to you?? If not - go for it.
Who care about what people think - just think about our thoughts when a 60 year old movie star marries a 30 year old, we are grossed out and disgusted but they are happy and don't care and I guess that is what matters!
Good luck!
2006-09-26 10:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by maazungo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age matters less and less the older you get... but right now he is still pretty young and it's still a big difference. You may have different interests and be at different stages in your life. Be aware that he is still in a formative stage, and his needs and interests may change drastically over the next few years. Don't expect that things will stay how they are - you'll have to learn how to grow and change together.
Certainly you'll raise a few eyebrows, and the people in your lives will present some valid concerns. But if you really love each other and are prepared for the challenges ahead, you should be fine. Take it slow, get to know each other better, and give each other room to grow.
best of luck.
2006-09-26 10:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age matters in some things. This question no. He is of age, not like he is 16. You are old enough to not worry about what your parents say. You, are old enough. His parents may be thinking of his future, and making sure that he is staying focused and to work on his goals. This may upset them, but he is an adult. So, no age doesn't matter. Don't worry what others think This is your life and nobody Else's. Good Luck
2006-09-26 10:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 21 year olds, male or female, can be rather immature. Your bio clock is gonna start ticking-- will he be emotionally and financially ready for that? I don't know why you wouldn't want a man closer to your own age- say 30-36. Why such a youngster? I also don't believe people should remain in a relationship when they are "afraid of what people might say." -- that sort of means you know it's not right, but don't want to hear it.
2006-09-26 10:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age ain't nothing but a number , my cousin is 30 and her man is 25 and they are very happy together . I once dated a guy 36 and at the time I was 21 it was cool and my parents didn't mind , I am grown .. I am now 25 and my man is 21 in nov and we are happy
2006-09-26 10:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, age shouldn't matter at all. If you're both happy with your relationship and the age gap between the two of you doesn't bother either one then I say go for it.
Don't worry too much over what others may think. In the end, your happiness is what's important .. both yours and your guy's. Others will eventually see that too.
2006-09-26 10:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer to that is yes - if it bothers you. If you worry so much about other people, perhaps you don't value your relationship enough? What matters are your feelings towards one another - "like" is very preliminary, and if you are worrying about what is in effect a small age difference now, what hope is there for the future? Love is a bigger word, and love is blind. Good luck.
2006-09-26 10:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by marina999uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21-25 year olds are in a totally differnt place than 30 year olds. It doesn't matter what we all say here, you're going to date him for several months and then have your heart broken when he starts banging someone his own age.
2006-09-26 10:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by seff74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should let what someone else thinks dictate what your heart feels. I am 31 and my husband is 6 yers younger than me(and very happy). I wondered what my family might think at first but the longer we were together the less i cared what anyone thought. I am the one who wants to be with him and has to live with him, not my family.
If you don't make a big deal of it then others woun't either
2006-09-26 10:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by SEXY MAMI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋