Hello!! :o) I hope you're OK. I realize the question sounds confrontational - but it's not meant to be. Although I've been celibate for almost a decade now [because I can't quite figure out what God thinks of me being gay] I've often wondered if my attraction to GUYS has more to do with the fact that I don't like girls - than to anything else. And I don't just mean that I have no sexual interest in them. I honestly don't like girls. I don't trust them at all. And how can anyone feel 'close' to someone they can't trust?! I'm sure there ARE trustworthy girls in this world - but I've never met them. So I ask... are you really gay OR do you just hate girls?! [Or just don't really LIKE girls] Have a great day!! Craig!! :o)
2006-09-26 10:21:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You poor thing, I have met many people who have struggled with who they are because of religion... Its so not fair.... Well I'm not gay but I am a lesbian. I'm not the way I am because I don't trust men nor because I hate them..... In fact they are some of my best friends...... I just am attracted to women and I couldn't imagine not having a partner that was a woman.... Some people come on here saying we are acting out of lust, I don't agree. Why do we get in committed relationships then... If we were all just acting on lust then we would never have to commit to one person, right? Anyways.. I think a decade is long enough for you not to have a relationship or be celibate. I think your trust issue's run deeper than women... I think maybe it also carries over to trusting your self. They way you feel god would have to create too. I'm sure you just didn't wake up one day and say, let me please have conflict with god..... Also the fact that you haven't been with a man either concerns me... You do deserve to feel loved and to have a healthy relationship...... To achieve love, one must be willing to endure pain.. If there were no pain we would never be able to measure love..... If we don't take chances then we will never know what we are missing or find out how happy we could be..
2006-09-26 10:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am a femme in todo! I do not get along with females in a close relationship. A woman I lived with for a long time always tended to make me feel as if I'd done something wrong but never told me what it was. Then she would bait me with a question like; does my butt look big in these jeans? No matter the answer I was wrong! This kind of thing could go on for months.
A guy says to me "What were you thinking wearing THAT dress to the party!? He might even slap me a bit and yell and we won't talk for a few days. By the end of the week he takes me out to nice dinner, maybe a movie of MY choice, and I get a nice necklace and ear-rings! We have sex and I KNOW this Christmas is going to be great! Life is "normal" again.
Men settle differences, women tend to use them. I prefer men.
2006-09-26 16:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you need some counseling to deal with your issues over girls.
The fact that you're gay has little to do with your dislike for girls or vise versa. But you really should seek help for your trust and anger issues towards girls.
We're not all evil, left handed she-devils. Really.
You might also have a bit of Bible Abuse background as well.
The fact that you have no sexual attraction to girls does suggest you are in fact gay. That's ok, I'm not judging you on that.
You've opened up and told us of something very personal, your dislike and distrust of women. That's not easy to admit to.
Again, I will suggest you seek counseling for that.
2006-09-26 11:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
lesbians get the similar question "do we hate men?" the answer is no! as most gay/lesbians will answer...we simply aren't attracted to the opposite sex, just the same sex. and have male and female friends...both gay and straight. I'm sorry to hear you don't like or trust girls at all....maybe you hang out in the wrong circles?? I've met lots of men AND women that I don't trust either...but it has nothing to do with my sexuality.
2006-09-26 16:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have had a VERY bad experience with a girl and have projected that on every other female in society. "I don't trust them at all". You have issues that need to be delt with professionally. Someone who can not "TRUST" can not have a relationship, because relationship is all about trust. You have to give up yourself and believe in your partner so much that your life rests in their hands.
Do you hate your mother? grandmother? sister? Aunts?
Gay guys do not have a sexual interest in girls but they do have a social interest in socieity (which includes girls).
2006-09-26 13:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by dillon Y 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being gay dose not mean you don't like girls...Being straight does not mean you hate the opposite sex.....you should be happy your gay.....
I'm gay and my best friend is a girl (so i don't hate girls)
God doesn't care if your gay or not. If he did he would of made you straight.
don't let anyone tell you that being gay is wrong.. The people who do are ignorant.
Straight people seem to think that you have a choice of being gay. you don't. thanks and good luck
2006-09-26 18:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by N.M. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm living with two girls. Has ZERO to do with my sexual orientation. Don't take this the wrong way, but that's your personal hang-up, not a "gay" hangup.
2006-09-26 13:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Atropis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think attraction of either gender has to do with anything like disliking the oposite gender. it's silly, same with heterosexuals. a guy can fall in love with women, but does he hate men? oh of course not. it's the matter of who we are and how deeply attracted we are to someone. dislikes is a choice we choose.
2006-09-26 12:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by mystic_lonewolf22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a gay secular humanist, I hate no one. I hate the actions of lots of people though it is not based on their sex
2006-09-26 10:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by n2mustaches 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate girls. I just wouldn't be caught dead naked with one. The thought gives me the willies.
And I REALLY like guys.
2006-09-26 11:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋