I always see people being loud and laughing and talking and having so much fun, but I'm never one of those people. All of my friends say how shy and quite I am, but I know I'm not really like that, I just can't break out of my shell, I've tried so hard but it just doesn't work, and it keeps me from making any new friends. I hate being so shy! Help?
2006-09-26 10:21:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
:) the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-09-27 05:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry for the long answer...
well first of all, personality is something you're born with... and doesnt usually change. HOWEVER, it can sometimes change, but usually very gradually. I am somewhat like you, but on occasion, I will be outgoing. in 7th grade, I was REALLY quiet... and when 8th grade rolled around, I was still shy and quiet. but since it was my last year in middle school, I decided I wanted to make the most of my year. It was like an epiphony. I started to not care what other people think and if they have a problem with me, then so what! I just dropped my guard a little bit and ended making a ton of friends that year. If you havent already, just go out with some of your loud and outgoing friends, and just do random stuff together. if they dont mind, you can ask them to get you involved a little more. tell them something likt 'when you notice that Im being really quiet, could you just try to involve me a little more in what we are doing?' it will help you more comfortable around your friends. good luck!
2006-09-26 10:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Do you want to be loud and laughing, or do you feel like that is how you are supposed to be? And why do you feel that you need to be that way? Everybody is different. You should definitely loosen up around your friends, but you don't have to go around laughing and speaking to everybody. Your problem is not that you can't open up to other people, but that you are not comfortable with yourself. Start by putting your guard down around your friends. Then, what happens with other people will happen. Your fun and off the wall side does not have to be for everyone else to see.
2006-09-26 10:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by black mamba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also used to be that way, but the truth is you should just speak your mind. It doesn't matter what people think. Butt into conversations with your opinions as a way to make conversations. You have it pretty good for most shy people, because you have friends. But try talking to everyone, and your shyness will slowly dissolve. Talk to a guy and say that you have a bunch of classes with them. Ask about a book a person's reading. Compliment a person's bag. If you can think of anything to say, just say it and out with it. It takes a lot of practice, and you can try talking to a mirror, but as long as you accept that you're going to look stupid and that it's cool, you'll be good.
2006-09-26 10:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be just like you. It's really just a matter of saying to yourself that you need to put this shyness behind you. What I did was start walking around with a big smile and saying "Hi" to everyone. and I mean everyone. Pretty soon I was talking to all kinds of people and not shy at all.
2006-09-26 10:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not trying making some new friends,ones that will make you feel at ease with your self,as the friends you have don't seem to be doing this,spread your wings a bit more and try joining some new clubs,that do things that you like doing,once you feel a bit more relaxed to will start to come out of your shell,honestly you will,i really wish you well
2006-09-26 10:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something really random that you would never do. For example, go and buy a dildo and have some good times. Get to know your personality and get used to making yourself feel great. You can buy them very easily off internet or Ann Summers. Enjoy! Trust me, you will feel better and much less frustrated.
2006-09-26 10:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Gemma T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way the only time I brake out of my shell is when I'm drunk, or around my closest friends, I think some people are just suppose to be this way it balances the earth. . . .
2006-09-26 10:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by maya_stryker_973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be that way. I made a fool of myself in front of my friends and we all just laughed about it. That worked for me. Now i'm comfortable in front of most people. Just remember they probably won't even remember if you do something stupid. Just have fun and don't be afraid to say something.
2006-09-26 10:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The people that really know you should know how you are and if thats the way you are it does not mean you don't have personality it means that is your personality and if anyone can't except it "F" them.
2006-09-26 10:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by my3rdeye008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋