2006-09-26 10:01:52 · 69 answers · asked by Tracy B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. I don't believe in having an affair. It would not make things any better, and it would not solve the problem. I would have to walk away from the relationship with a broken heart. I cannot be second in my partner's life.
2006-09-26 10:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people would say no to this and I'd be one of them yet many people do have revenge affairs sometimes years after their partners affair, and this is on the increase according to several studies. Never mind woman and revenge affairs just look at how many woman are entering an affair nowadays without the excuse for a revenge affair.
I think maybe given time, there is a possibility I would do that but I don't think doing tit for tat to even the score would make me feel any better.
The best revenge is not to have a revenge affair and just kick the love rat into touch and free yourself for finding someone that will truly love you and love you alone and not another woman while your married. If your partner cheats on you, is that real love and respect for you? I think not. well same applies to this .
2006-09-26 15:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice thought but..............
No two wrongs never makes a right.
My ex who is now married came over one day to talk about our daughter. He explained how his wife cheated on him in the beginning of the relationship He claimed even though years later he had one coming. He had one credit or golden ticket to have an affair. No No No I told him it does NOT work that way.
Revenge only makes things worse.
The person who cheated needs to truly feel and express that they are sorry and listen to their hurt partners feelings or the relationship will never be fixed or the affair be forgiven.
Try to forgive and work on the relationship if you are married if not move on and yes a rebound is healthy to help you move on but never for revenge.
2006-09-26 10:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not in revenge, I would be too busy trying to sort my marriage out, deciding if I want to still be with this guy, before I could think of having an affair I would have to find a willing mate and if you are married I guess it's not easy, I think I lost the knack of attracting the opposite sex years ago, you have to give out all the right signals, would you really want to do that? have another man by all means, but get rid of the one who betrayed you first.
2006-09-27 05:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Revenge usually hurts the person themself more than the one the revenge is against.
I would say that you need to get out of the marriage and not marry again until you find someone you can trust.
Remember two wrongs don't make a right.
2006-09-26 10:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a revenge affair will almost always fill you with regret. I belong to a support group (wife had two affairs) and those that have revenge affairs regret what they have done. Most feel that they have lowered themselves to the cheaters level and are now unhappy with their spouses and themselves.
2006-09-26 10:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, id be to busy hurting but then once anger had set in i still wouldnt, its so much more enjoyable to be the better person and have the one up, not just as a "get at" but for urself, its a good ego boast, but if ur partner has cheated is he worth the pain .. cos no man should make cry and the one who does isnt a man
2006-09-29 11:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did the person who you are going to have the affair with ever do to you? NOthing. How do you call that revenge
2006-09-26 10:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by vanman8u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I didn't & wouldn't!, what kind of relationship would I be left with? its the first thing that will come to your mind. but the thing is, would it be right? Cheating is not the answer to your revenge but rather will make things more complicated. you will just hurt each other more and your family.
As my friend tells me, Living a good life is the best revenge. Nothing to lose, more to gain. Don't let your anger control you. Cheating is NOT the answer. believe me.
2006-09-26 10:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that to a bf one time and ended up preggers by his best friend, so 2 wrongs don't make a right and can come back and bite you in the ***. Now I have a daughter with no father. So I guess I never got that revenge
2006-09-26 10:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer Dalpe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋