Perhaps I asked my question wrong about the first kiss....?

Question

I am wondering if my actions as a parent are okay. My 13 year old daughter confided in me that she got her first kiss. I told her that I was happy for her and I am glad that she shared the news with me. I jokingly said that it better not have been open mouth or longer than 3 seconds. She is way to young for anything more.

I am wondering if this was a normal age and if my being okay with it is wrong. I am happy that she was honest, yet I had to let her know that she was to young for anything more.

Thanks and I hope this question is more clear.

I do not want to set a timer and watch my daughter. I want there. She let me know. I was afraid if I sounded too happy for her she would think that I thought it was okay. I dont want her to have make out sessions at age 13. People who have emailed about not having control over how she kisses is true. But I can teach her wrong from right before she heads out the door.

Answer 1

Yes, i am so happy that as a parent you two can comunicate in that way. I am a few years older then your daughter, if i told my mother what i was up to when i was 13 .... i would probably not be aloud out of the house ... just so you know though , 13 is a perfectly fine age to be doing a bit more then just a lil kiss... but if she can share that much with you keep the comunication going, dont discourage her by telling her that she's to young for something bucause when she goes out and does that she wont be coming and telling you. Keep an open mind and relise that if your daughter just had her first kiss at 13 then she's on the right age track. good luck

Answer 2

I think you acted normally. I was like that with my son when he camt to me with certain things..By being to hard and to strict on kids they seem to go against you harder.I had the kind of relationship with my son that he he could talk to me about anything and I wouldn't go off the deep end with him..It's good that a child can have a relationship with their parents that their not afraid to confined in them and knows that no matter what you'll be there without shouting or I told you so..Yes be some strict but yet let them know that your there and they can always come to you and you won't judge them...It's hard but my son growed up to respect people and he never looks down on anyone..He is a sargnent in the army now and he still can come to me with a problem and he knows I will listen and not judge..Keep up the good work it will come out in the long run..

Answer 3

It may be normal for her psychologicall , but medically she's too young to overgenerate her sexual hormones that'l effect her psychology and metabolism. Its good that she confessed and discussed with you, you can use her confidence in you and educate her that a kiss is normal, but at this age is too early for a teenager. Let nature allow her to develop her sexual glands at a normal age of 17-18 then move for further physical pogressions.
You never know she migh not be able to say no to her boyfriend for any other physical demands because of her emotional attachment and immaturity and arousals. Let her not grow too fast sexually, teach her as a friend to gain control, and deviate mind for study or other creative works.
Rest final point is that if she wants really to move ahead, its difficult to control a growing blood. Lets hope for the best fior her.
Dr S Hoda

Answer 4

It's completely normal, it all depends on them. Nowadays kids are doing really sick stuff when they are very young, so don't worry. I worried a lot too but let them do what they want unless it's way too outragous. It's good if she was honest because some kids don't tell their parents at all, so see if you become a little more comfortable and try to meet the person she likes.

Answer 5

yes definitely. she is of normal age, you defined boundaries appropriately. She is a normal adolescent who can confide in her mother, her activities are normal for a girl her age, and you being ok with it is fine, it shows you are accepting of your daughter's activities, and i dont think you will be shoping for binoculars anytime soon. It is good that she can confide in you. the way it was worded earlier i thought you were giving her a whole list of rules how long, how open is the mouth.

Answer 6

there is probable no longer something incorrect with you or your visual attraction, and the actual shown reality that you're shy also needs to no longer be that enormous of an issue for the reason that there are various adult adult males like that accessible who've been waiting to have relationships. what's worrisome about your challenge is once you assert "i see kissing and sex and so on. to be something very shallow or perhaps perchance animal like". you would elect remedy to make sure why you've this theory of love and sex and the thanks to get rid of it. sturdy success!

Answer 7

Well....it's always hard to admit our kids are growing up. Try not to lose her trust. She trusted you to tell about her first kiss. It was innocent that's why she told you about it. Encourage her to tell you everything that goes on in her little life, that way you always know what's going on.

Answer 8

Yeah it is normal. . .that's like the average age for everyone. . .except for ME, WAAAAAHH!!!. . . anyways, some kids have sex when they're 8, be thankful she only kissed another guy (or girl)

Answer 9

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