Been married 6 yrs,neither one is very trusting of the other can it still work.one is seeing counsler other won't.
2006-09-26 09:58:50 · 34 answers · asked by RJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For myself, no. That wouldn't work. Trust is a key issue in my relationships.
For yourself, it's possible if this doesn't bother you. If it's been working for you both for 6 years, then it might last. It depends on what you both want out of your relationship.
If one is seeking counseling on this issue, then it would be wise for both to do so if both are interested in cementing their ties. However if the partner seeing a counselor is going for a different reason, then this might also be affection the way both interact.
It all boils down to what each person wants & what they'll tolerate. And if they want to remain together, then the best place to start is with communication.
2006-09-26 10:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, no, no. It seams that someone is giving him a ear finished, and he will be believing it. i don't believe of he realized how a lot your income counted. Now that he does, he would not experience like he's reliable sufficient. So he's throwing the blame on you by declaring you merely spend too a lot, no longer that he can not assist you. and that i'm particular his relatives has something to do with this. He may no longer be telling them precisely how a lot you contributed and switching it round to make himself look better effective. i imagine he's attempting to make himself be the sufferer and get sympathy from his relatives. do not complication because you made on your own in the previous, you should do it back. communicate over with him and tell him that you want him to trust you if he needs your marriage to artwork. Have reported this to him? What did he say?
2016-12-02 03:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the other one is emotionally immature because he or she can't even acknowledge that their is a problem. If one goes to couseling only one will be emotionally healthier and it's not enough to keep a trustless marriage together. Having a marriage with no trust causes a marriage not to grow in love and respect for the other. You've basically answered you own question and only you can decide if you want to live the way you are living.
2006-09-26 10:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by sfss50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that without trust, it is just a matter of time for it to be over. I have been with my spouse for 10 years. In the first two years, we both had some issues that impaired our trust issues in each other. After we got over that time of trouble, we are now very trusting in each other. It makes things go so much smoother in the relationship. I feel that sounseling will only help if both of you go.
2006-09-26 10:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah anything i s possible. both of you have to be willing to make it work. you been together for 6 years why not make it work, however, it is very crucial to pray as well. sometimes, people marry for the wrong reason and sometimes people marry and are not equally yoked. pray about and do your part in the relationship. however, if you have evidence that he or she is cheating then that is a different story. why be married and be miserable. marriage is suppose to be a beautiful thing, yeah we all have our ups and down. but cheating... that is a sin. once a cheater always a cheater i say. there will be no trust. because u know what happened and it will continue to resurface itself. good luck and god bless.
2006-09-26 10:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the foundation that a marriage is built on. You have to have a solid foundation to support the weight of all the issues that marriage constists of.
With out trust, how can you fully love, how can you save for dreams, how can you offer security and safety to children.
I think without trust your relationship is doomed.
2006-09-26 10:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you and other. Question as to why can neither trust the other??? And counselor can not help others hearts.
I had 19 years and thought it would never end, WRONG...
Good luck and may the LORD help you find out... Maybe a Pastor or Father could help w/ more guidance or assurance???
2006-09-26 10:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by ***BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!!!*** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was maried for 24 years, husband got up on morning and said to me i dont love you any more, then left me and my 2 kids, two years have passed now since then, he is back, told me he was going thru a mid life crisis (yeah right)! he has always been a good family man, we are both 46 yrs old. trust yea its a big issue , its hard for me to trust again. and living with someone you dont trust sucks. i will give it a little time though see what happens.
2006-09-26 10:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by poochie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is there no trust? Are you both very suspicious and jealous? Has one of you committed an act of adultery? I guess it really depends on the situation as to why there is no trust. It is hard to trust in another human - humans are so faulty and frail. Don't put your trust in each other, put your trust in God. That's the best I got and that's what I have done for many years and it has given me peace in my relationship. God bless.
2006-09-26 10:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how there could be a future if there is no trust. Why is one willing to go to counseling but the other isn't? Shouldn't they both be working on the marriage?
2006-09-26 10:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋