I'm always at his place or he's at mine. It would benefit us both financially. The main potential hurdle is that he likes his private time away from me (I have no problem with this). He would be free to do the hiking, camping, galavanting just like he always has, lol. He also likes things to be his idea and his way. Any ideas for tactful, subtle ways to start dropping hints? No lectures about the sanctity of marriage and burning in hell due to sex out of wedlock, too late for both of us. Be honest with me but if you are just gonna be smart a.s.s. and mean, keep it to yourself, pretty please.
2006-09-26 09:50:19 · 5 answers · asked by smecky809042003 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since he likes to feel that things were his idea, one way you might try "planting the seeds" in his mind is to tell a story about some OTHER couple who moved in together after going together for X number of months or years or whatever. If you actually KNOW a couple whose situation is similar to yours and your boyfriend's, that would be perfect. :)
However, if you don't know any, you might kind of "make up" just a generic anecdote about such a couple. That way, the scenario of couples moving in together will be in his mind, but you won't have asked him specifically about YOU guys moving in together. But he hopefully will now be more likely to bring up the idea.
I don't know how much this idea helps, but it was the first one I could think of. Good luck! I'm sure it'll all work out soon. :)
2006-09-26 09:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by scary shari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always ask. If he says no, don't take it personal. Some guys really aren't ready for big steps like that. But then thats things to thing about like where this relationship is going. When my husband and I first started...It kinda just happened without talking about it. I was always at his place, and then I just never left. Then we got married. So, if you think its for the best and he's ready.... ask.
2006-09-26 10:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by r_montoya81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since you did the sex part, just start leaving clothes at his place, jackets and stuff. and then just said "Since all my stuff is at your place, i might as well move in". the idea is to move your stuff slowly, and spent time in his place over the weekeen 24 hours a day or at less sleep over there. once it is clear that you can sleep at his place 2 days in a row, he won't kick you out. just move in
2006-09-26 09:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I lived together from the first week we dated. I wouldn't marry anyone I haven't lived with anyway. I say go for it. If you both are ready, Why not♥
2006-09-26 09:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with my husband for a month b4 we moved in together.. it is a big help having 2 incomes.. talk to him about it and see what he says... go with the place that has the cheapest rent too haha..
2006-09-26 09:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes just be sure to be considerate of him
2006-09-26 09:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋