this situation is going on right now to close friends of mine. a 22 year old daughter of my friends had been (is) involved in an interacial relationhip, however this is not the problem. they had went as far as to allow the young man to move in with their daughter in their home when he lost his apartment. the young man stated that he wanted to prove himself to parents, and grandmother. however he could not keep a job, and would spend $300- $400 dollar paycheck on alcohol and crack cocaine in a days time on the weekend, and did nothing to help the household. when this became totaly intolerable and the young man was removed by sheriff. daughter stated it was over and things seemed fine for several weeks.then 4 days ago the daughter vanished without a trace, police reports were done. the daughter after 3 days called the police telling them not to look for her. that she did not want to see or talk to her parents as they were trying to ruin and run her life for her.when in fact the parents
2006-09-26 09:46:07 · 11 answers · asked by grim_reaper_69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and grandmother gave her everything and asked very little in return. the parents have since discovered that the boyfriend that was removed from their home for alcohol and drug problems and their daughter are in a hotel in louisiana, possiby running drugs.upon searching the daughters room it was discovered that sever pieces of mail, mainly payments for bills , includeing 3 mortgage payments that the parents thought had been sent were not, the daughter has lied , cheated, stolen and tried to financially and emotionally hurt her parents. so if you were the parent(s) in this case how would you feel ?
2006-09-26 09:51:15 · update #1
It's unfortunate, but children have to make thier own choices in life, even if they don't make good ones. The only thing your friend can do is try to be supportive, and accept the daughter back when she eventually comes crawling home. I'm sure the daughter doesn't mean to be hurtful, she just doesn't understand yet that a guy like that is no good. I'm sure the guy is telling her a different story, and she will believe anything he says (for awhile) because she thinks she is in love. Your friend did the right thing in kicking that guy out, and your friend's daughter just made a bad choice. I'm sure she will figure it out in due time.
Hope this helps!
2006-09-26 09:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow...Sounds like the parents have bent over backwards for their daughter. Is it possible that the daughter is using drugs too? That is probably why she doesn't want to be found. I feel for the parents, it's not easy to try and figure out what 's best to do for your child, no matter how old they are. They could continue to try and find her, put her in a rehab, then see what happens after that, or just try and get a message to her somehow that they will always be there for her when she's ready to come home, no matter what. I wish them luck.
2006-09-26 09:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately they little they can do except pray for her.what were they thing letting a unwed daughter live with a man in their home.i hate to say this by the girl might be using drugs too and sometime worse.if they filed a miss person report the police will look for her i hope they find her before something truly bad takes place
2006-09-26 09:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the parents rightfully feel betrayed, hurt, angry, worried, and lots of other emotions. However, she is 22, legally an adult. Eventually, she is going to have to learn from some of her own mistakes. The school of hard knocks is the best teacher. Her parents must learn to let her fall and get back up if she's to learn to walk on her own.
2006-09-26 09:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has her choice at 22 BUT common sense on the other hand could be an arresting situation if she does as he, for the reason wanting to stay & PARTY till JAIL will be DEAD AHEAD and her choices could/would get not up to her or him, instead a judge...
Good luck with tring to help her get her head togeather
2006-09-26 09:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by ***BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!!!*** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. mendacity is what people do while they don't believe the guy they're conversing to do do the amazing element with the certainty. it is why we lie as quickly as we are in hassle, through fact all of us understand there'll be effects we don't want to stand or if somebody is making an attempt to defraud somebody by utilising making them react in any different case.
2016-12-15 14:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving your children means that you have to be respectful of the decisions that they make as adults, even if the decisions are wrong. It's called unconditional love.
2006-09-26 09:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
they need to let her fall on her butt she will come to her sense when she wakes up one day without any where to live 22 or 44 kids need to figure things out on there own
2006-09-26 09:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why even mention that it's an interacial relationship, that has nothing to do with your question?
2006-09-26 10:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
where's the rest?.....
the answer is this is normal. everyone wants to grow up...our elders always think too soon. the more they're denied what they want the more they want it , no matter how bad it might be for them. let her make her own mistakes and be there for her if she needs you.
2006-09-26 09:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋