if you would never get back with your ex, would you?

Question

if you would NEVER get back with your ex and you told them that, would you do the following -
go out with them now and again and have a laugh shopping and stuff.
sit and talk to them for anywere from 30 mins to 2 hrs.
confide your problems in them.
phone them when someone has annoyed you.
when they deleted your number so they couldnt call you, you call them so they have it again.
respond to flirtatious comments which are obvious.


please just answer yes or no and maybes your views on why a women would do this?
we have 3 kids, things were bad but this has been going on now 7 months and even though i want to be friends the above just confuse me. i also get the feeling she still likes me but she denys that to but laughs at things like - you love the attention in a joking manner.
please help i want to walk away but cant when its like this.
if she ignored me or said just 1 word answers i would get the hint but come on this is ridiculous.
is she waiting or....

Answer 1

A docter tells a mother who has just given birth that he has some bad news and some good news, the bad news is that your babys ginger the good news is its dead.

Answer 2

Breaking up from a long term relationship is difficult as your life is so tied up with the other person. Making a total break is advisable but often not possible if kids are involved. I would suggest you only have contact when its directly related to the kids as anything else is confusing. Also, what happens once you seperate is that the stress is gone to a certain extent so that you are likely to actually re-discover some of the things you enjoyed about each other's company in the first place but just remember, you've tried it, it doesn't work. Take some time and space and make it clear that you are seperated from each other for some very good reasons and that is not going to change. Also maybe only see each other when its about the kids with other people around for less pressure.

Answer 3

I can tell you from experience that yes a person can do all those things and still not have any intention of getting back with you. This is part of what makes it so hard to friends with an ex. There are so many mixed signals and eventually one party takes these signals wrong and thinks there is a chance and then later finds out they had no chance at all and were just being foolish. This then turns to anger and the friendship you thought you were maintaining instead turns out to look like a farce. A lot of that stuff is because they are lonely or their new partner won't do those things with them, and a part of it is so they can control your life and make sure your not moving forward without them or in spite of them.

Answer 4

The trouble is when there is alot of emotional baggage involved it becomes very hard to just switch off, Sometimes when you have been with that person for a long time you are used to them being there and that can be easily mistaken for still loving them! You need to be tough and make the decision..either ..cut out the seeing eachother,phonecalls etc... or give it another go. Be firm with yourself think about why your relationship ended in the first place!! Write a list of pros and cons!! Her still being the way she is with you could be because she is afraid of letting go and then 6months later seeing you with someone else and regretting it!That is not fair on you! For your kids sake decide one way or the other because above all else they are the ones who will get hurt if you let things carry on the way they are! Good luck to you and I wish you well

Answer 5

She still loves you no matter what she says (maybe she doesn't even know it).

But she loves you, and you will get back together again. Be patient and try to make sure that the reasons for which you broke up in the first place are now a different issue, you should change yourself for her.

You said it yourself, this is ridiculous, its plainly obvious to anyone that you will get back together again. You are probably her best friend or even her soulmate, but perhaps you hurt her in the past in such a way that she is reluctant to let herself be hurt like this again, you have to show her that you are different now, you would never do what you did before again. (maybe its not all your faut, but you have to show her that your relationship together is new and fresh and that you can tackle any problems you may experience together).

Continu being a friend to her, and you will find yourself a very lucky man, good luck!

Answer 6

I had children with my second husband and although he was very abusive there are still times when I miss him, when we had our good times.
I still love him, I dont love him in the way that I would ever be with him again, but he is the father of my children and despite the bad times, there is a part of me that remembers the good times, and I loved him so much. I loved him hard. When the marriage was over, I greived for him. I cried I missed him so much, I loved him so hard.

Even though now 2 1/2 years later.. sometimes I remember things and I miss him and a small part of me wishes I could see him again. To touch his face, run my fingers thru his hair, be with him and laugh the way we used to before he changed.
But I know I cant relive the past and I cant change it.

I cant go back again, theres no use in giving, and theres no way to know what might have been.

Its probably really hard on your kids. They know that mommy and daddy have divorced and they probably know how FINAL that is.. but at the same time you and your ex wife are still into each other.
For the sake of your kids, you cant be giving them or each other mixed messages. You need to sit down, talk this thing out and see where you two stand with each other.
You feel like she still wants to be together, and she may but when. IF she doesnt want to work things out and try again its not fair to you for her to use you.. Its great if you can be friends with your ex, truly it is. But, it sounds like to me she isnt sure what she really wants. Especially if you two have kids, you both need to know where the relationship stands.

Answer 7

Women are weird in some ways, thats for sure. I am dealing with my ex and the SAME problems. I still love her and have high hopes of getting back together. her.... who knows.

In my opinion, about all you can do is wait it out and be patient. If you are serious about re-connecting with her then you need to determine what went wrong in the first place, has it been corrected or CAN it be corrected, and most importantly.. is it REALLY what you want. Other than that just remember time heals all wounds. In my case, it has been SEVERAL years, my feelings haven't changed but she has made AWESOME strides with ongoing AA treatment so my particular problems seem to have been solved. Good luck.

Answer 8

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/Jroom

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 9

I would only say I'd never get back with my ex if he was a total bumhole. If not, and the relationship broke up amicably for external reasons, I'd never say never.

I think you're getting wound up about this and maybe you need to talk? If you are good friends then if you both agree that no, friends is the way it should be, then it shouldn't hamper your future friendship. But think about why you broke up in the first place. Is it likely to happen again? Only you can sort out the pros and cons.

Answer 10

She's keeping her options open, if no one better comes along, in her mind at least she's kept you on side and she thinks she will be able to get you back. Be firm with her and tell her it is confusing for you and that you aren't comfortable with the friends thing. Although, I think there has to be an element of friendship when you have children together. It is better than the kids seeing you both arguing all the time.

Answer 11

no, in your case, it sounds like she wants to stop being with you period. Women are crazy like this sometimes they do this because they secretly want to get back with you, but it sounds like she is just tring to remain civil with you.

I would give up on her. She says that she still wants to do those kind of things with you, but she really preparing you for later on in which she sees you and her having virtually no contact. I think she knows that it would mess you up if she just disappeared (basically) from you life so she is kinda weining you off of her, minus the interaction when it comes to your kids.

Just give up on her. If you guys got to the point that you separated then you need to be separated. Think of it this way. Man you are free to be a batchelor again. Get yourself a cool place and fill it with YOUR STUFF (cause I just know the walls are covered with her crap). Then get yourself back on the market. I would also recommend staying away from another relationship for awhile, but I WOULD find a chick that you really want to f*ck but don't want to carry on a REAL relationship with. Then do everything that you ever wanted (in the bedroom) with you new little "f" buddy that your ex would never even think of.

It sound like a stupid guy thing, but I'll tell you it is good medicine for a man that has been beaten down by the woman in his life. Man, you really sound like you could use it. It's quite empowering and can make you a much more well-rounded man.