Every realtionship i have been in the guy has always cheated on me and broke up with me after 2 years of dating me. Now i am in this realtionship with a guy for about a little over a year and because of my past i can't i can't trust any guy now. everytime he goes out with friends i get pissed because i dnt no what he is doing. i dnt no how to get over it and trust people again. I feel like I have a big wall up and i am afriad to let it down. Please can some one help me in changing my ways....
2006-09-26 09:36:43 · 9 answers · asked by Lucky Italian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really understand how you feel.When I was married few years ago I met a wonderful man that was married too, we had terrible marriages,we ended up having an affair for a year or so.Now we are happily married but there is always the guilt for what we did,At first I had to Know where he was at all times,he had to answer to all my phone calls ,etc.Till I realized we couldn't live like that forever .I am sure he loves me.You have to take that chance ,you cant live like that forever this can be the right guy for you,don't let him go.
2006-09-26 09:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by VIANNEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep picking the same kind of guy you're going to get the same results. That said, you could also be setting yourself up for a self-fulfilling prophesy. You act like he's cheating so he figures since's he's getting accused he might as well do it. You should really consider getting some therapy to work out your issues before you make any major committments. Good luck!
2006-09-26 16:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by WeaselLuvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not be single for a while and get to know you and what makes you happy without being in a relationship. It sounds to me that you have self steem issues and big insecurity issues. Finding inner happiness is healthier than going thru life with so much heartache and pain.
2006-09-26 17:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP getting involved in relationships if you are not able or not ready to full heartedly trust. You can not make the new guy pay for the mishaps of the past guys. Until / unless THIS guy gives you reason to not trust him....TRUST HIM!
2006-09-26 16:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're either picking the wrong type of guy.......or you're insecure.
Maybe you should speak with a professional. and see what that opinion would be. Perhaps it's not YOUR problem at all. And wouldnt that be good to know?
2006-09-26 17:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually jealousy is based on a person's insecurity. You need to explain this to your boyfriend and let him help you work through this. If he really loves you, it will bring you closer to each other.
2006-09-26 16:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek counseling. You have legitimate fears, even if they aren't legitimate in this situation. I think he should be pretty understanding of where you are coming from too.
2006-09-26 16:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rainier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to try to trust him, try not to say anything, unless he gives you a reason not to trust him, then say something time will heal it
2006-09-26 16:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants you he will be back dont worry so mutch thats what gets in your way
2006-09-26 16:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋