Ok my family got this pool when I was four (12 years ago) and now that we're getting rid of it, I find myself depressed. Im watching the guy take it down and im all disappointed and depressed. Its not like I use it a whole lot anymore and next year im going to college so why am I feeling this way. I did learn to swim in that pool and have a lot of memories with friends and my brother (who now lives in CA and whom I never see anymore) Plus I have been kinda of going through some stuff so what is it that im sad about. Its just a pool. Any ideas of why and how I can get past this. I just dont understand.
2006-09-26 09:31:49 · 7 answers · asked by Kels 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It represents much more to you than a piece of plastic and metal with water in it. It represents your childhood and that IS sad. It is okay to mourn that.
2006-09-26 09:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will help a great deal of this depression or grief over loss. Some suggestions:
a) Write out your feelings. By the way, handwriting is better than typing on this one. Slower pace helps process more.
b) Put out an object to symbolize your loss. A bowl of water might be one such item. This is one reason people put headstones on graves.
c) Call your brother and talk with him. Set a date, be it in 10 days or 10 years to get together...for a swim.
d) Allow yourself to feel the grief - it sounds like it is for both the pool and the memories, probably with your brother?, that it represents.
2006-09-26 16:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just change. In my experiences I get that a LOT. It's so weird even when I move furniture around (or USED to...) I would get this weird feeling inside as if the world would never be the same LoL. Seriously! My friends feel I'm crazy but especially in your case it may be symbolic of your whole life changing! But yea I doubt it's anything to be concerned a/b.
Hope this helps
2006-09-26 19:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by ~*alex*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question....
I need to trade in my car for a new one....My car is 8 years old and it has been good to me...I really do not want to part with it, because we have been together for so long, yadda yadda, yadda and all of that sentimental hogwash....its just a car!!!!!!!!!! but I HAVE to have a four wheel drive because I live in the mountains.
I also have a pool in my backyard, my children are grown and gone and it is a nuisance to take care of. I love my pool, but it is more work and expense then my husband and I want to deal with... You will be okay,,,,your feelings are normal
2006-09-26 17:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime a visual thing that reminds us of special times becomes missing it upsets the balance of our inner security and makes us think wow how simple was that to take down and how simple would it be for all the other things to be gone. remember that you had great times in that pool and the can never be taken away. Keep you chin up best wishes and Good luck.
2006-09-26 16:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Barry G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a change thing you are used to it being there and now its gone it wont help that you are going through some other changes at the same time
2006-09-26 16:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by NetNet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's signaling and end to childhood.. can be sad to think about that chapter of your life ending and a new chapter of adulthood begining..
2006-09-26 16:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋