i mean who is getting hurt here ??
2006-09-26 09:29:53 · 50 answers · asked by ozzysheeplover 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No.
2006-09-26 09:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
Yes, it is still cheating. Cheating is cheating weather or not you get caught. You are hurting yourself and the relationship. If she were to find out on her own, she will never forget- she may claim to forgive you, but it will always be with her and she will bring it up a lot in arguments- however if you tell her, you can work past it- If you are feeling any guilt, you should tell her
2006-09-26 09:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by BB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS still cheating, and you know it is. As to who is getting hurt - well someone will eventually get hurt. It may be you, or her, or the girl you're cheating with.
You are actually short-changing yourself because, by cheating, you will never learn what it is like to be in a committed loving relationship where problems are worked through.
You obviously don't believe in karma, but believe me, what goes around comes around!
Faith
2006-09-26 09:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter if she NEVER FINDS OUT. You still cheated and you will always know that you did it. And as far as who is getting hurt, one day a woman will do it to you and you will know what it feels like.
Answer this.... If she cheated on you and you never found out, while you were together.. would it still be cheating??
How do you know she doesnt know?
2006-09-26 09:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is deceiving the person you are with, whether it is a physical or emotional relationship you have outside the one with your girlfriend. You have betrayed her and therefore it is cheating. If you feel the need to cheat, i reckon there's something wrong in your relationship so whether you now tell her or not perhaps you need to either break it off or take a break. Cheating is really hurtful and unfair.
2006-09-26 09:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it`s still cheating!!
Just because she hasn`t found out yet doesn`t mean she never will and she will be very hurt then.
You obviously have no respect for her or you would never dream of cheating in the first place,either end it with her or the other woman or get caught out in the end.....Cheats and liars always do!!
2006-09-26 10:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating and you are the one getting hurt. You are hurting your feelings for her and your self esteem. You are destroying a relationship built on trust. You have forgotten your marriage vows. When she finds out (and she will) then you will add her to the hurt list (not to mention the **** that is taking you away from her. . . and that is what she is. . . IF she knows you are married). Get out of that cheating crap, NOW, if you ever expect to be happy.
2006-09-26 09:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you are doing - if it is internet or text, no, if you are actually meeting and having a real relationship then that is different and yes you are cheating. Many women can forgive the former but not the latter, and, there is not guarantee that she wont ever find out.
2006-09-26 09:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes it is of course, if you didn't know that inside you wouldn't need to ask. Are you looking for lots of people to tell you it's ok to do that, because really it's not. You are hurting her by having another person in your heart and head, every time you sleep with someone you form a spiritual bond with them and that's not good by any standards if it's not your wife. Give it up and work on your marriage like a grown up should.
2006-09-26 23:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course, it is still cheating. Suppose you shoplift but you get away with it, then surely you still have committed the crime of shoplifting. It's just that no one noticed and so you got away with it. Doesn't mean you haven't done it. By your logic, if you kill someone but you are never found out, you're not a murderer. So can you see how illogical your argument is?
2006-09-26 09:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is cheating. You will have to live with it even if she doesn't know. Now if she cheats on you later, you will have to take it without griping because she didn't know and didn't get hurt...you will be the one ending up getting hurt.
2006-09-26 09:33:35 · answer #11 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋