We have been a couple in aobut 2 years but he has been asking for another chance for the last 6 months... so I deceided to give him one. He is in a relationship but I told him I would give him a chance if he ended it. We made it offical and he was supposed to go end it with the girl while I was at work and then we were supposed to meet up and go home. But he wasn't at the location and he didn't even call. He knows where I live and how to get there and he knows my number. It has only been almost a day but I still think he could've at least called. I have a feeling he didn't have the guts to end it with her and that's where he is.
It hasn't been a full day for us a couple...
What should I do... If he calls... comes over? I want to just call it quits but I don't want to give up to fast.
Please be reasonable and open minded...
2006-09-26 09:19:36 · 13 answers · asked by starlight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your gut is the only thing that will NEVER lie to you
he probably spent the day in bed with his girlfriend
he doesn't care about or respect you (or his girlfriend), if he did he wouldn't be trying to get back with you while with someone else
don't give him another chance, he already blew this one!
2006-09-26 09:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I didn't hear anything in there about how you feel about him. Do you love him? Can you forgive him if he is with the other girl? You have to be able to answer these questions before you can make a decision like that. I find it interesting that you want to call it quits so quickly and you don't really seem all that angry. If you don't love him, you shouldn't be with him even if he is the father of your child. I would say that you need to answer those questions before you decide what to do. Don't wait on him too long, he may just be playing you. It's hard to tell sometimes. My husband did similar stuff before (never cheating though) and it really was a maturity issue. You should decide how you feel about it and how the situation will affect your child (probably more important than how it affects you) and then make a choice with regard to whether you want him to come back or not.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 09:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by hbennett76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He didn't break it off with the other woman that's the reason why he didn't come over last night. He really doesn't want a second chance, he wants you to be a door mat. Tell him his second chance is up and over and you're moving on. If he shows up don't let him in just repeat whatever you will say over the phone and did close or slam the door in his face. Let him know that you are not just something on the side, if you can't be the main one you will not be part of nothing. Be strong.
2006-09-26 09:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though he doesn't want to leave the other girl so just move on. If he calls tell him to just stay where he is because you do not have time for his little games. He wants you and the other girl but let him know it's not going down like that.
2006-09-26 09:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by ebonikaf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him, then, if he doesn't call, call him. Find out what happened, and wait until he calls back, give him a day at least for an answer, if there is none, then I don't know, you decide. You gave him time, if he didn't show up give him a third chance, and if it doesn't work, then well, you can decide it is over.
2006-09-26 09:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by videogames012 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe in 2nd chances, but if he ruined that chance, then I would say move on. Maybe it's best that he is out of your life. Why would you want to be stuck with a jerk for the rest of your life. Find you and your son a respectful man...
2006-09-26 09:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by ShellBellzGee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl call it quits immediatly , dont worry about giving up too easy, it was obviously a bad idea to give him a second chance in the first place
2006-09-26 09:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by LISA M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not giving up too fast...you gave him a second chance and he failed. He failed you, your child, and the relationship. For your sake and the sake of this child you need to move on. He made his choice and now you need to make yours, and yours should be to move on and create a better life for you and this child.
2006-09-26 09:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him 7 to 10 days and dont call or bother him he will either go away or he will not beable to live with out you.
2006-09-26 09:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by Wendellp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just using you. Put your foot down and keep the door closed on this relationship.
2006-09-26 09:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by petlover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋