A friend of mine has got himself into a real pickle and doesn't know what do and asked me so I thought I'd ask here and see what advice I could get for him. He is in a long term relationship with a woman I have known longer than him and she is pregnant but what I didn't know was that he has also been sleeping with her 19 year old sister and she is also pregnant and wants him to leave his girlfriend and be with him but not only that he has also been seeing a barmaid at a local and she has given him a sexual disease and he thinks he has passed it on to both of them. Its a right mess and I have told him to own up to his responsibiltes and be a man about it, admit the truth to his girlfriend and face the consquences, anyone else have some good advice?
2006-09-26 09:18:19 · 33 answers · asked by GaryUKB 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If only it was made up ozzysheep. I know he is such a sleaze but I never knew about this until a few days ago, i'm completely disgusted with him, he is a spineless idiot, he knows this question is here so he will see this and for the record i don't want anything more to do with him.
2006-09-26 09:28:20 · update #1
For the people who think it was me, it wasn't. I have been with my partner now for 10 years and I wouldn't stoop this low. I hate cheaters and this is the worst kind, he knows this already.
2006-09-26 09:43:53 · update #2
wow, what a mess !
1. He needs to stop having unpretected sex with mulitple partners.
2. Own up to all the women he has slept with about his promiscuity and the STD as the disease may affect the babies he needs to act quickly.
3. Ensist that the women get the STD sorted
4. get his STD sorted.
5. Grow up and take responsibilty for the mess he has caused. He got himself into this and he's gotta get himself out, the problem is not going to go away and in a few months time he will have 2 kids that are half brother and/or sister but that are also cousins. Now that tips the scale on my freaky weird-****-o-meter
2006-09-26 20:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...
So here is the deal... Your friend is going to have to speak to these two ladies.... The barmaid should be excluded from the picture altogether...
He needs to come up with a plan. Will these ladies want to have children at such a young age knowing that this man may have no way to support them or their babies...
Tell him to be a man... and own up to his responsibilities... He was man enough to trick these women for a good time... now he needs to be man enough to allow them the opportunity to make a life for themselves.
Let them be able to make a decision once the truth has been laid out on the table. What's the worst that could happen? It seems like he's already at the bottom of the to-tum pole.
Good LUCK!
2006-09-26 09:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by taniapss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what an idiot what the hell was he thinking.For a start he wants to get down the std clinic he wants to hope its something that can be cleared up with antibiotics and not aids,if any of these babies where concieved after he caught the disease the babies could be at risk and he needs to make sure these girls are aware of it.These girls need to know now to make a decision as to whether or not they want to keep these babies its no fun being a skint single mother with a dick for a boyfriend.If they both keep these babies hes gonna have to help support them finacially for many years to come.He wants to grow up and realise there are consequences to ones actions.All he can do is tell his girlfriend that he got with her sister and just deny any knowledge about the barmaid.If she forgives him she deserves a medal its bad enough having a fella cheat in the first place but with a family member thats the biggest kick anyone could take.If he doesnt tell her im sure the sister will,get him to do it today the longer he waits the harder it will get.
2006-09-26 09:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy needs to stop thinking about himself for a sec and stop worrying about how much of a plonker he's been and start confessing. If he has an Sti, it is more than likely he has passed it on. Depending on what it is, it could be potentially harmful to the babies or could even be passed on to them during birth. He needs to let them both know so they can get tested and make sure he hasnt stupidly put his babies at risk. If he has any balls at all, he will own up to what he has done. If he has been with his partner for a long time, then she MIGHT be able to forgive him and hopefully he will not have lost everything. I just hope your mate learns to keep his dick in his trousers in future and will learn from his mistakes.
2006-09-26 09:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A vasectomy and some antibiotics would be a good start.
Yeah, he should own up to his responsibiltes and be a man about it, admit the truth to his girlfriend and face the consquences... or go live in Costa Rica under an assumed name. I think he's going to need a lawyer, too.
2006-09-26 09:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy definatley needs to confess. If the disease goes unoticed it could harm the lives of the innocent babies the girls are carrying.
He has made a complete mess of the 2 sisters lives, why should he get the easy way out??? He needs to confess. If it goes longer and then the girls find out he'll end up with nothing anyway he may as well do it now.
2006-09-26 09:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Smoggy Wogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its you innit? just admit it as you sound the type that would try and mask a fcuk up like this.......
ok first off dont expect the women answering this question to be polite or nice........
second of all this eejit needs to admit all of this - he has produced two children out of this. He will have to be mature and responsible for them BOTH. Does he understand that when a woman is pregnant she's both fragile but extremely feisty (hormones etc) - he will probably get his bollox cut off for this
Why didnt he use protection on all 3 counts? fcuking IDIOT!!!!
There is no advice that i could pass on to this tosser - does he not realise that theres consequences by going around acting the stud - AS USUAL its the women who pay the price and have to live through it and try to bring up well adjusted, happy children when the father is no more than a walking disaster - i hope his kids walk past him in 20 years time when he's lost his looks, money and ability to pull vulnerable women. they'll see him for the saddo he really is!!
Lets hope this STD makes it fall off...........save the rest of the female population!!!
2006-09-26 09:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by clairejoolz78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing he needs to do is tell both girl about the STD, because that will hurt the baby if the mothers got it while they were pregnant and it could hurt the baby if it born naturally. He then needs to tell his girlfriend that he was cheating on her. If he's afraid of the reaction that he'll get then he should have thought of that before hand.
2006-09-26 09:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by lelecw14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but your friend is a t**t!
He needs to tell the truth about what he's done. If he has passed this STD on to the two sisters and they pass it onto his babies, then he's in real s**t!
Think how these poor kids are gonna feel when they learn that they are cousins and siblings, your friend should be taught how to be a REAL man and learn to grow up and accept his responsibilities!
2006-09-26 09:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kirk_84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say I agree with you 100%. He was man enough to do what he did.. so now he is going to have to deal with what he did.
He needs to come clean about the sister the disease ect. They need to get checked out. All of them. Thats some scary mess yo!
And never needs to try this again! Thats what happens when you do something your not supposed to!!!
Good luck with your friend
2006-09-26 09:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋